Tantra Methods You Need
My 25 years on this earth have led me to many conclusions and realizations, the most relevant right now being that sex is one of the most exciting topics of conversation. I don’t know if it’s the people I seem to attract into my life or my own willingness to turn any conversation into one about sex but I end up talking about it all the time (Working in an Adult Store and studying Sexology, it’s expected with the territory too I guess!!). One thing I find commonly is that many are unaware of tantra methods that can improve their sex lives.
I notice how so many men and women light up when given the space to discuss one of the most intimate areas of their lives. It fills me with so much joy when I have people come into an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres shy and nervous initially and then leave talking explicitly about sex and not wanting to stop.
Sex Is Everywhere In Life
Sex and the overt representation of sexuality is everywhere in our lives, from advertising and social media to pornography and films. Despite this, there is a lack of frank conversation about sexuality meaning many people have a warped perception of what healthy sexuality looks and feels like. One of the concerns with society’s widespread unwillingness to discuss sexuality is that when it comes to developing healthy sexual relationships, many people are unsure of how to speak of sex with the people they’re actually having it with.
I know of many people who struggle to talk openly with their intimate partners about sex sometimes resulting in unhealthy consequences. The repercussions of leaving things unspoken with our intimate partners can result in unnecessary conflicts, physical and emotional trauma and general unfulfilling sex lives.
Don’t Remain Silent, Communicate
We miss out on accessing the potential of our capacity to feel exquisite pleasure because we struggle to ask for what we like and we remain silent when something doesn’t feel good.
I recall a time a couple of years ago when I was being intimate with a new lover and he asked what it was I wanted. All I remember is freezing in fear and having no idea how to put what felt good for my body in words. I think I ended up saying something along the lines of “what you’re doing” just because I was so mortified that I didn’t know how to ask for what I desired.
Throwing myself in the deep end shortly after this experience, I discovered the world of Tantra and Conscious Sexuality which provided me with some tools I needed to communicate clearly with my intimate partners. I’ve including the following tips that if applied, have the potential to lead to greater levels of intimacy, connection and pleasure in your sexual relationships:
1. Be Open To Talk About Sex
Speaking of any discomforts you may have around talking about sex is an excellent first step. Let your partner know that you would like to be more open discussing sex and acknowledge the fact that it may be a difficult conversation to begin for the both of you. Express the importance of opening this conversation and speak with honesty.
2. Use Explicit Words
If the thought of even speaking words associated with sex makes you cringe, I recommend trying this exercise with your partner. Jump in the deep end and throw explicit words at one another. It may go something like this “Cock, pussy, lick, anal, orgasm, cum, wet, squirt.” Think of this as the ultimate “ice-breaker.” Come up with as many words as you can that you identify as sexual and get used to saying them to each other. In little to no time, it will be a breeze to say what you need without shame or embarrassment. Make it fun and playful because sex is supposed to be!
3. Take Ownership Of Your Feelings
Stay away from blame and take ownership of how you feel. Instead of “You’re really bad in bed and you need to change” turn it into “I am feeling like there is so much more I want to experience sexually and I would love to try this with you next time.”
4. Try The Palm Exercise
Take in turns tickling each other’s palms with your fingers and make adjustments that will lead to a more pleasurable experience. “May I have a softer touch?” “Can you move your finger faster/slower?” “Can you give the top right hand corner more attention?” Becoming used to asking for what you need in a non-sexual activity will translate to greater comfort and ease asking for what we desire sexually.
5. Invest In Adult Lifestyle Products
Invest in sex toys for couples to make your lifestyle easier.
6. Get To Know Your Body
Last but certainly not least, get to know your own body and what feels pleasurable to you. I cannot express the importance of this enough!! If you don’t know what feels good to your body, how can you expect that you can communicate clearly to your partner? Sex can be a hit or miss and expecting your partner to know everything that turns you on is a lot of pressure.
When talking about sex with your partner/s becomes easeful, the possibilities to explore sexuality and sexual expression are endless. You can try different things, express fantasies and desires and get to know your partner more deeply…in more ways than one!! You can also talk about what is Tantra Sex and how to incorporate into your lifestyle.
Wrapping Up
Embracing Tantra methods can transform your sex life, enhancing intimacy, connection, and pleasure. Open communication is key to a fulfilling sexual relationship. Practice discussing desires and discomforts openly, using explicit language without shame. Engage in exercises like the palm technique to build comfort in expressing needs.
Explore adult lifestyle products together for added excitement. Understanding your own body ensures you can guide your partner effectively. With these Tantra methods, you and your partner can unlock deeper levels of satisfaction and connection. Start today and experience the profound benefits of conscious sexuality.
Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA Nursing
Roaring Hot Tantra
Recently whilst completing an intensive for my studies in sexology, I heard a sexual dysfunction called an Idiosyncratic Masturbatory Response. This instantly grabbed my attention. Roaring Hot Tantra can offer solutions to these challenges by enhancing intimate experiences and improving sexual health.
An idiosyncratic masturbatory response refers to an individual having a particular way of masturbating and reaching orgasm. This cannot be replicated during intimate experiences with a partner. It has the potential to cause difficulties in a relationship or when being intimate with others. Many people enjoy the experience of reaching orgasmic states with another person.
Did You Know Excessive Masturbation Can Kill Your Sex Life?
After doing a bit of research, I came across countless articles describing “the death grip”. This is where men become so conditioned to receive hard and strong self-penile stimulation (usually whilst watching pornography) that they find it difficult to feel aroused when having penetrative or oral sex with a partner.
I know that it’s not just men that experience this need for strong stimulation. As a woman, I used to approach self-pleasuring in a way that did not honour my body. It was an experience that was often filled with shame & guilt that I just wanted it over with as quick as possible. (I believe this has a lot to do with the fact that masturbation is seldom spoken of in mainstream sex education but that’s another article of itself!!)
Rushing A Fast Orgasm Isn’t Fun For Your Partner
This hard and fast approach can result in difficulties reaching orgasm with a partner. Further resulting in feelings of frustration and decreased desire for sex with your partner.
There is such a strong culture of seeking heightened orgasmic states in our society that the subtleties of being intimate with another human being go unnoticed. People become so fixated on the peak-the orgasm-the grand finale- that everything that happens beforehand is not fully experienced in its totality.
What Is Roaring Hot Tantra?
The beauty and pleasure from the softest touch, the sensations in our body when your lover looks at you, the fullness from feeling them in complete stillness inside us as we make love is all lost when we approach being intimate with them full of expectations of “achieving” orgasm. This is where Tantra comes in…
Many people are curious of what Tantra is and what Tantric sex looks like. Tantra is a complex philosophy however when I speak of Tantric sex, I mean a sexual experience where each moment and sensation is experienced in its totality with no expectations of getting anywhere or reaching anything. Tantra teaches us that a world of pleasure is accessible to us in the smallest of intimate experiences if we so choose to become attuned to the subtleties.
Slow Things Down And Enjoy The Moment – Roaring Hot Tantra
There are many ways to slow down and bring greater pleasure and presence into your sex life, with one’s own self-loving practice a perfect place to start. Bringing a level of conscious intention into your self-pleasuring and dedicating time to yourself with no intent other than to love yourself up can be a beautifully healing and pleasurable experience.
Lighting some candles, having a relaxing hot bath and massaging your whole body with some gorgeous oils prior to any genital stimulation can really help eradicate that orgasm goal and teach you to slow down with your own body so that you can access more sensation and pleasure (A sexual health product available from Wildfire is All Over Pleasure Oil which is my personal favorite).
Are You Ready To Feel Intense Emotion And Pleasure?
When men and women are used to hard and fast stimulation, having slow and gentle sex can bring up a lot of intense emotion. Frustration, anger, sadness, numbness and boredom can all arise when we begin to slow down and fully feel. It is not usual to be in touch with slight sensations and it can take some time for our bodies and minds to drop in and notice them.
It is perfectly normal to feel emotions when doing something that we are not used to. Often many of us have never tried slowing it down in the bedroom so be kind to yourself and your partner.
Do You Make Time For Love And Connection With Your Partner?
I highly encourage people to step away, if only on special occasions, from a hard and fast approach to sex, into an experience of love and connection with their partner. This could include eye gazing, breathing together, cuddling, kissing or extended foreplay-the key being that this will bring you into complete presence with your partner.
Just remember, it is easy to get caught up in our minds when slowing it down so if this happens, practice mindfulness and come back to feeling sensation in your body.
Be Patient, It Is Worth It – Roaring Hot Tantra
Slowing down can take a personal and relational commitment, with open communication between partners extremely important to navigate any changes you both desire to make with your sex lives. It takes patience and being gentle with ourselves and our partner to make the transition from goal oriented sex to completely present intimacy however the magic that can be experienced when we do is completely worth it.
Common Barriers To Tantric Sex
Common barriers to practicing tantric sex include time constraints, performance anxiety, and lack of understanding. Overcoming these challenges requires a dedicated approach.
Make Sure To Free Up Time For Your Partner
One major barrier is time constraints. Busy schedules make it difficult for couples to dedicate time to tantric practices. Overcome this by setting aside specific times for intimate sessions. Prioritize these moments to ensure they are uninterrupted and stress-free.
Did You Know Mindfulness Can Cure Performance Anxiety?
Performance anxiety is another common issue. Worrying about achieving orgasms or performing well can hinder the tantric experience. To counter this, focus on mindfulness and being present in the moment. Practice deep breathing exercises to calm your mind and body.
A lack of understanding about tantric practices can also pose a challenge. Many people are unfamiliar with the techniques and philosophy behind tantra. Educate yourself and your partner through books, workshops, or online resources. Understanding the principles of tantra will make the practices more accessible and effective.
Are You Able To Communicate Effectively?
Communication barriers can impede progress as well. Open and honest communication with your partner about desires and boundaries is crucial. Discuss your goals and expectations to ensure you are on the same page.
Lastly, impatience can be a significant obstacle. Tantra requires patience and a willingness to explore gradually. Embrace the journey and appreciate the small moments of connection and pleasure.
By addressing these barriers with a proactive and informed approach, couples can fully experience the benefits of tantric sex.
Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA Nursing
Roaring Hot Tantra
Recently whilst completing an intensive for my studies in sexology, I heard a sexual dysfunction called an Idiosyncratic Masturbatory Response. This instantly grabbed my attention. Roaring Hot Tantra can offer solutions to these challenges by enhancing intimate experiences and improving sexual health.
An idiosyncratic masturbatory response refers to an individual having a particular way of masturbating and reaching orgasm. This cannot be replicated during intimate experiences with a partner. It has the potential to cause difficulties in a relationship or when being intimate with others. Many people enjoy the experience of reaching orgasmic states with another person.
Did You Know Excessive Masturbation Can Kill Your Sex Life?
After doing a bit of research, I came across countless articles describing “the death grip”. This is where men become so conditioned to receive hard and strong self-penile stimulation (usually whilst watching pornography) that they find it difficult to feel aroused when having penetrative or oral sex with a partner.
I know that it’s not just men that experience this need for strong stimulation. As a woman, I used to approach self-pleasuring in a way that did not honour my body. It was an experience that was often filled with shame & guilt that I just wanted it over with as quick as possible. (I believe this has a lot to do with the fact that masturbation is seldom spoken of in mainstream sex education but that’s another article of itself!!)
Rushing A Fast Orgasm Isn’t Fun For Your Partner
This hard and fast approach can result in difficulties reaching orgasm with a partner. Further resulting in feelings of frustration and decreased desire for sex with your partner.
There is such a strong culture of seeking heightened orgasmic states in our society that the subtleties of being intimate with another human being go unnoticed. People become so fixated on the peak-the orgasm-the grand finale- that everything that happens beforehand is not fully experienced in its totality.
What Is Roaring Hot Tantra?
The beauty and pleasure from the softest touch, the sensations in our body when your lover looks at you, the fullness from feeling them in complete stillness inside us as we make love is all lost when we approach being intimate with them full of expectations of “achieving” orgasm. This is where Tantra comes in…
Many people are curious of what Tantra is and what Tantric sex looks like. Tantra is a complex philosophy however when I speak of Tantric sex, I mean a sexual experience where each moment and sensation is experienced in its totality with no expectations of getting anywhere or reaching anything. Tantra teaches us that a world of pleasure is accessible to us in the smallest of intimate experiences if we so choose to become attuned to the subtleties.
Slow Things Down And Enjoy The Moment – Roaring Hot Tantra
There are many ways to slow down and bring greater pleasure and presence into your sex life, with one’s own self-loving practice a perfect place to start. Bringing a level of conscious intention into your self-pleasuring and dedicating time to yourself with no intent other than to love yourself up can be a beautifully healing and pleasurable experience.
Lighting some candles, having a relaxing hot bath and massaging your whole body with some gorgeous oils prior to any genital stimulation can really help eradicate that orgasm goal and teach you to slow down with your own body so that you can access more sensation and pleasure (A sexual health product available from Wildfire is All Over Pleasure Oil which is my personal favorite).
Are You Ready To Feel Intense Emotion And Pleasure?
When men and women are used to hard and fast stimulation, having slow and gentle sex can bring up a lot of intense emotion. Frustration, anger, sadness, numbness and boredom can all arise when we begin to slow down and fully feel. It is not usual to be in touch with slight sensations and it can take some time for our bodies and minds to drop in and notice them.
It is perfectly normal to feel emotions when doing something that we are not used to. Often many of us have never tried slowing it down in the bedroom so be kind to yourself and your partner.
Do You Make Time For Love And Connection With Your Partner?
I highly encourage people to step away, if only on special occasions, from a hard and fast approach to sex, into an experience of love and connection with their partner. This could include eye gazing, breathing together, cuddling, kissing or extended foreplay-the key being that this will bring you into complete presence with your partner.
Just remember, it is easy to get caught up in our minds when slowing it down so if this happens, practice mindfulness and come back to feeling sensation in your body.
Be Patient, It Is Worth It – Roaring Hot Tantra
Slowing down can take a personal and relational commitment, with open communication between partners extremely important to navigate any changes you both desire to make with your sex lives. It takes patience and being gentle with ourselves and our partner to make the transition from goal oriented sex to completely present intimacy however the magic that can be experienced when we do is completely worth it.
Common Barriers To Tantric Sex
Common barriers to practicing tantric sex include time constraints, performance anxiety, and lack of understanding. Overcoming these challenges requires a dedicated approach.
Make Sure To Free Up Time For Your Partner
One major barrier is time constraints. Busy schedules make it difficult for couples to dedicate time to tantric practices. Overcome this by setting aside specific times for intimate sessions. Prioritize these moments to ensure they are uninterrupted and stress-free.
Did You Know Mindfulness Can Cure Performance Anxiety?
Performance anxiety is another common issue. Worrying about achieving orgasms or performing well can hinder the tantric experience. To counter this, focus on mindfulness and being present in the moment. Practice deep breathing exercises to calm your mind and body.
A lack of understanding about tantric practices can also pose a challenge. Many people are unfamiliar with the techniques and philosophy behind tantra. Educate yourself and your partner through books, workshops, or online resources. Understanding the principles of tantra will make the practices more accessible and effective.
Are You Able To Communicate Effectively?
Communication barriers can impede progress as well. Open and honest communication with your partner about desires and boundaries is crucial. Discuss your goals and expectations to ensure you are on the same page.
Lastly, impatience can be a significant obstacle. Tantra requires patience and a willingness to explore gradually. Embrace the journey and appreciate the small moments of connection and pleasure.
By addressing these barriers with a proactive and informed approach, couples can fully experience the benefits of tantric sex.
Author: Stephanie Curtis- BA Nursing
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