Back in the day, being gay was a tough gig. You couldn’t just go around telling people you were gay and living that gay life without risking losing some friends.
So, a lot of folks kept their love under wraps, hanging out in the shadows and hoping not to get caught.
Gay life wasn’t anything one would be proud of because the society wasn’t very accommodating. The laws were also not so friendly for gay people and so people had to live in hiding.
Gay Life is Getting Better.
But there has been a recent influx of anti-homosexual laws springing up around the world in response to legislation making it easier. It would be misleading to point out that this phase of gay life is past us.
But the world has made strides to recognize gay people.
You can now attend a gay sex party, without being in fear of being raided by the police. And you can feel at home with people who share the same sexual orientation as you.
The world may criticize, but the decision to be happy entirely depends on you.
Gay Life – Understanding Your Surroundings
The first thing you should do to live freely as a gay person is to understand your surroundings.
How does the society view gay people?
Are they judged, punished and even molested because of how they dress, walk and interact?
Can you find gay men and women around you can hook for some nice gay sex party just like everyone else? Or you have to travel and hide somewhere?
You Don’t Have To Deny Yourself Pleasures in Your Gay Life
If your society hasn’t recognized and appreciated that a person is free to make decisions, it doesn’t mean that you have to deny yourself sexual pleasure.
There are many gay exchange programs all over the world where you can have fun. Some things that humans cannot deny themselves for long AND sex, is one of them.
Gay Life is not a Curse
But an opportunity to satisfy yourself. Get out there and have fun to the fullest.
Treat those you love and care about with passion because we live only once. This might be difficult to be viewed differently. But be the mouthpiece of the gay fraternity fighting for recognition all over the world.
Some countries have made commendable strides in recognizing homosexuals and differently identified sexualities. But there is always more that could be done to help with equality.
Gay exchange programs are very good in bringing together persons of a common interest and exploring the other side of the fence. You may learn what has been missing in your current relationship and set out to reignite that feeling.
Acknowledge Yourself and Your Gay Life
For individuals to acknowledge you, first you should acknowledge yourself. In the event that you can’t acknowledge your sexual orientation and feel good and sure about your own particular skin. Then other individuals think that its harder to acknowledge you completely.
It’s your entitlement to love.
Nobody has the privilege to let you know generally. Let yourself know.
“I am a man with emotions and judgment and an existence, much the same as others. And I am one of a kind and individual, and nobody has the privilege to pick my life for me.
The way that I am gay is simply one more aspect of who I am, pretty much as being inventive, or idealistic, or having chestnut eyes is.
I may not resemble a large number of my companions, but rather I carry on with my life legitimately and joyfully. It’s my life, and I be glad.”
Gay Life and Sex Toys
Equip yourself with some of the best sex toys available in the nearest adult toy store and spice up your love life.
Find out from your partner what they prefer doing and treat yourself to a rare love making opportunity. Get something portable so that you don’t miss out on any minute of sheer pleasure and satisfaction.
Browse any gay exchange programs in your city and attend for nights of great sex and have a good time; we only live once.
If your country allows same sex marriages, then you can easily cement your love in marriage. Seal it and stay together as a couple. Some people have and they have never regretted.
Gay Life – How to Plan a Gay Sex Party
Being gay comes with lots of enjoyment and a few challenges. The world is still skeptical about this sexual orientation, but who cares.
Sexual satisfaction is not one of those desires that can be satisfied through hours of debates. Everyone deserves a piece of happiness. So, if the least of worries is to think of what other people think then you’re doing pretty damn well.
You should also grab the first opportunity and attend a gay sex party in your town. Such parties are happening all over but their success depends on how well they are planned.
Tips for Planning A Great Party
To begin with, make it clear if it is invite only, confirmation only or it is a party for all to come.
The gay community is very welcoming and therefore would be delighted to attend your party. But you obviously may not want to throw an open sex party unless you have a stadium or obscenely large house to accommodate everyone.
Go through the list of possible guests and send them invites.
You should consider two important things here. What the guest will bring to the party and what you are offering.
Your sexual satisfactions and desires versus your guests.
This is a very important fact because you really don’t want to end up with guests who really don’t add value. And the only thing they can offer is their sexual orientation.
Potential sexual activity aside, you really want to enjoy their company and have a good time. Inviting people you don’t connect with is a sure fire way to have it all end in a dud party.
This is actually not a difficult feat to achieve, thanks to the many gay exchange programs available today.
Fix a Date that Suits Everybody
With your guest list ready, you should fix a date that will suit everyone. It goes without saying that weekends and holidays are the best days to throw any gay sex party.
You can have it for a day where your guests will come and have a crazy day of fun and sexual pleasure. Or make it a weekend long affair, with a day set aside for an outdoor adventure like a beach party or something like that.
What About a Venue
Is your house big enough to accommodate all the guests invited? Do you have to find an alternative like a hotel or a holiday house or something like that?
I had friends whom owned a vineyard up in Orange in Western NSW and it made for a great weekend party of relaxation and fun.
Depending on your neighborhood, you may really not want people screaming at you as some petty neighbors are likely to moan.
If you have no idea about venue
Find out from other people especially on gay exchange programs around. There is possibly a restaurant or a hall that you can hire for a day or two.
You might also want to consider the décor.
If you have a Monet painting sitting in the lounge room that you don’t want ruined, perhaps you should consider replacing it for the party.
Same goes with white carpets. You should consider the potential damage to your home and belongings. As well as any venues that you may hire for the night or weekend.
Safety First
This is a common thing that people forget and especially with gay sex parties. You might need to provide some condoms and lubricant for that particularly amorous couple that just can’t help themselves.
I assure you, it happens. Consider putting little signs.
Drinks and Music
Finally, work on the other logistics like the drinks and music. What is a sex party gay without booze and pumping music anyway? Are you going to have it catered, or are you cooking?
Or are you simply going to buy a bunch of pizzas and have them delivered. Whatever you choose it is certainly something that needs to be considered and echo the tone of the type of party you want to achieve.
Establishing a classy atmosphere in a black tie event may not particularly go down well with pizza.
You can have DJ in-house, good for you or you may have to hire one. If you are having it at home, do you have a nice music system? At poolside, you don’t have to worry about very powerful system.
Buy a mixture of different types and brands of alcohol and enjoy your gay sex party!
Or better yet, have everyone BYO especially if you’re the one providing the food for everyone and only offer ‘house’ spirits and wines.
I have been in a gay relationship for many years. But recently I have been having feelings and desires to a person of the opposite sex. Having been a loud and proud gay person it has been difficult for me to come to terms with the fact that I was gay and now I’m bisexual.
One of the most critical circumstances in my life is when you have to open up to your partner and tell them..
”I was Gay but I think I am bisexual now ”
Relationships take a lot of effort to build and maintain.
Therefore, it is quite tricky when you have to tell your loved one that you have feelings for the opposite sex. A communication barrier has always been a common problem in many relationships. Many partners always feel that their counterpart is not on the same page with them.
Honesty is an important element in effective communication in a relationship. You have to be completely honest with your partner about the feelings and reactions that you are experiencing. This is a very challenging step.
But you have to do it because your partner is an important part of your life. A partner’s reaction is significant and revealing this kind of information is very risky. Either way you have to do it because definitely things are not right in the relationship. The guilt of the attraction you feel for the opposite sex can be quite suffocating.
First Things First – Make Sure you Pick a Good Location
A good spot should be organized, somewhere with no distractions.
- Go ahead with your story without filtering anything.
- Express how you feel when come across a member of the opposite sex.
- Take charge of your thoughts and emotions and display them as they are for better understanding.
- Sincerely, opening up always feels like a load has been taken off your back. Your partner will definitely be hurt but at least they will have a clear picture of what is happening.
- Point out the negative facts in the relationship such as loss of spark. It is not fair to blame your partner for this. Because it is true, that it takes two to tango.
- It is wise to also listen to the views and reactions of your counterpart. If neither of you is happy in the relationship the best solution, which is hard, is to break up and move on. It is not fair for you to want your partner to be available while you are enjoying yourself with partners of the opposite sex.
Sex and Romance are Important
Point out to your partner that sex and romance happen to be very important ingredients in any relationship. It is therefore, important to talk about the underlying issues in the relationship. Such as the attractions you are experiencing for the opposite sex.
A good partner will always respect and honor the views and feelings of the other party. If your partner loves you, no matter how hard the situation is, they should not stand in your way.
Open Relationships
They might accept the open relationship way.
It is equally not easy because both of you will have to deal with the downside of this kind of union such as awkward situations. Apparently an open relationship may keep both parties on toes. Because there is someone out there who is working so hard to please your partner.
All in all admitting to your partner, “I am Bisexual” still is an enormous task.
What is Bisexuality?
Bisexuality is just when a person feel attracted to somebody of their own sex. And also sometimes achieves emotional and sexual satisfaction with people of both sexes. Bisexuality has been prevailing in our society since prehistoric times. There is a social stigma that is attached to this condition. But there is nothing worrisome about the feelings of being bisexual.
At any stage of their life a person can have the feelings of “I Like Both men and women”.
There are lots of bisexual myths.
Men and women are completely different when it comes to expressing themselves or doing things with someone of the same sex. Women on one hand, on getting an opportunity, will do things which might look completely bisexual to most men but in reality are not. And men on the other hand, keep distant from each other physically in case they be accused of being gay.
We cannot exactly know the reason for someone to be bisexual
It is just another human orientation like that of being heterosexual or homosexual.
Scientists have developed a term called the “bi-curiosity” for a man or woman who admire the beauty and body of their own gender. Bi-curiosity can eventually turn into bi-sexuality if a person is undoubtedly attracted emotionally or sexually to someone of his or her own gender.
There are some who believe that everyone is born with the ability to relate to both the sexes. But turn into becoming socialized in heterosexuality or homosexuality.
Attraction is the root cause for many inclinations occurring for both men and women.
Same holds true for bisexuality as well.
There can be various degrees of attraction. For example, it might include the wish to physically caress or kiss if the opportunity arises. If they are courageous enough to give in to their attraction, it feels like a dream come true for them. In this case, he or she is still attracted to person of the opposite sex as well.
Similarly bisexuality also can have various degrees.
It can start with someone having emotional inclination towards a person of the same gender. Or someone having sexual encounters occasionally with their own gender. This can also turn into a full blown relationship between the two people of the same sex who are emotionally and sexually connected.
But in this situation too they can still be sexually attracted to the opposite sex.
There have been many fascinating scientific data that throw light on our belief of bisexuality. Statistics show that around 75% to 80% of all the adult female fall under either the bi-curiosity or the bi-sexual category. But the degree may vary from just admiring to all the way having a full blown relationship with a female partner.
On the other hand, men exhibit completely opposite scenario.
There are only 5 to 7% of men who fall under the bisexual category. This clearly shows the difference between the female and male dynamics. So now if you are struggling with the bewilderment over your sexual orientation, just release yourself and be courageous to live your dream.
If you admit that “I Like Both men and women”,you can have a whole new world for you waiting to be discovered.
These Cuffs Will Make You #Cross Over!
Have you ever wondered what CrossOver Bondage Cuffs are? Or even tried to use them?
If not, you are really missing out. Last month, my husband and I wanted to try a new thing to make our sex life more exciting and better. We reached out to some of our friends and there was this one friend who had a very exciting idea; cross over bondage cuffs.
We decided to try on that because we had never heard of that. She advised us where she got them. We found out that they are device like handcuffs that are wrapped around one’s wrist. Or several arm positions during sex in order to put your partner to a position you desire.
We found cross over cuffs very exciting
Because you get to keep your partner’s body parts, mind, loyalty and actions where you want them to be.
They are simple and clever and the person who you are putting into bondage cannot free themselves without the key. You may think why bondage? But this is what I think. It is fun to play master and mistress. The master gets to control the mistress and the mistress submits.The Cross Over Bondage Cuffs are useful to keep your partner from getting away or changing positions you do not want.
It is sexy when one is the master and the other submits
With the CrossOver Bondage Cuffs you can get sexually creative.
Use them and you will straight away get out of your mundane normal routines and day to day life. CrossOver Bondage Cuffs challenging to play while you are tied up. You get to connect with your partner emotionally because they are giving you complete control over their body, trusting you with their physical and mental health.
If you take your time to experience their bondage hobby with them, by giving your partner what they want, they will appreciate and lust over your completely.
Cross over bondage cuffs are very easy to use
You just cross your hands, put the cuffs and they will automatically close themselves.
They are also very comfortable to use in that you can put them in any arm position you want.
Different materials
I also learned that they can come in different material whichever you desire. They normally come in body safe, medical grade, stainless steel. They also come in titanium, gold, and leather materials. I love the fact the the CrossOver Bondage Cuffs material can be changed based upon the type of material you choose.
They can be more like a jewelry piece making bondage that much more fashionable and enticing.
As much as we love fun and misery we all know that sex safety comes first where both parties who are experience sex together remain safe.
Safety Measures
Some of the safety measures we should take are.
- First, you should know about the circulatory system of your partner, as tying one up may course impaired or cut off circulatory system.
- You should know how to operate the cuffs before using it.
- Check the material used on the cuffs before use if you have any allergies or skin reaction to metals.
- You should know your partner’s health like high blood pressure, Asthma, Physical injuries, or physical limitations etc.
- Check in on how tight the cuffs are.
- If your partner wants out you let him or her loose before any injuries occur.
- And most of all discuss with your partner on how you are going to play. If there is any rule you can apply to make it more fun and to reduce tiredness.
My Sex Life Is On the Up
For me using the cross over bondage cuff has improved my relationship with my husband and our sex life.
I find it more exciting. We also communicate well during the time we are using. So it has improved our communication. It is very comfortable to use and it is very sexy to see your partner tied up and you are in command. Am so much in love with it.
These CrossOver Bondage Cuffs, have started us on a journey. We have booked tickets to go to the gathering in Sydney this long weekend to explore what other avenues there are for us to further our BDSM Relationship.
Meet PJ Weir, former Gay Exchange stalwart and gay rights advocate. Now caring for his mother in Queensland, he reflects on a decade of LGBTQ+ activism.
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