Sexuality labels are a common topic of discussion these days. People often use labels to describe their sexual orientation or identity. It’s a way for individuals to express themselves and find a sense of belonging within a community.
But it’s important to remember that labels are subjective and can be limiting.
Sexuality is a complex and fluid spectrum and it’s okay if someone doesn’t fit into a specific label.
Respect Self-identified Sexuality Labels
Sexual orientation and identity can evolve over time. Let’s embrace diversity and create a world where everyone is accepting sexuality, regardless of the labels they choose or don’t choose to use.
The other day I was providing advice to some poor soul on FetLife who was feeling isolated by using Social Media.
I agree that sexuality is something which is meant to be so liberating but it can be quite isolating at times too.
Like this lad, I had spent many hours searching for other people who were similar to me.
I looked at their memories and spoke to them on a regular basis.
But eventually I became basically depressed because you’d see these groups, people. And realise that whilst you knew them, you really never knew who they were at all.
Labels can be so debilitating at times
One of my primary concerns of the queer community is the labeling of other people.
You label many people through their gender, you can identify people through their sex and you can label yourself as a subset of culture.
Examples of this can be; feminine, butch, masculine, gay, bear, twink, otter, jock, leather, cub, cis-gender, androgynous, asexual, bi-gender, fluid, gender queer, dyke, lipstick lesbian, intersex, pan-sexual.
It goes on and on and on.
Sometimes hard to find a particular label that suits you
When you do it gets put into the overarching umbrella term of queer. That is both good and bad, dependent on the situation.
One of the other commenters on this fetlife post had discussed the idea of intersectional feminism. I was intrigued by the concept as it was not something I’d been used to.
Intersectionality
Refers to the ways in which subsets of a particular group overlap, interact with each other through varying social identities. And related systems such as discrimination and/or oppression.
Essentially, in the case of feminism, it understands that there are different types of women
Whether those differences be through performance of gender, sexuality, skin colour, religious beliefs, age etc.
It recognizes that an older black woman whose a lesbian will have different issues to a white, cis-gendered middle age woman.
What tends to happen in social politics is that these more marginal groups such as lesbians, black women, older women etc, will often get forgotten in the race towards gender equality and their voices will get drowned out.
Similar things happen within the queer community as well.
I have long argued that there is inherent homophobia even within the queer community itself.
It’s one thing to say that they’re pro-gay relationships but discriminate within their lives/profiles etcs by stating ‘Nothing personal, I don’t like femmes’, ‘masc only’ etc.
Intersectionality acknowledges that there is no singular experience of identity.
Just because you are male, queer, female doesn’t mean that you have experienced the same as others within your social group.
It is something that social activists often forget.
Marginalizing the very groups that they’re trying to support, albeit not always realising that it’s occurring. This makes it difficult for social advocacy as it often appears that there are ‘different’ groups essentially fighting for the same, yet different things.
It’s difficult to wrap ones head around a multidimensional social platform
But it is an essential discourse to consider in order to approach and effectively support marginilised groups.
We have personalities separated from our sexuality that are so unique and so different. Placing people into labels, takes something away from the unique experience each individual has.
Although labeling can group similar people together, it can also create a boundary between people by separating them through stereotypes.
Some stereotypes can also be subconsciously connected
This means our brain create a network of links between events and information that we have learnt through our lifetime. For example, if I had a balloon that popped in front of me, my brain could link that to a happy surprise or even a fearful memory.
So the next time a balloon is in front of you, you may naturally become scared or happy due to the network that was previously created in your brain.
Is it possible that even though labeling of people exist, that we can personally learn to separate our sexuality from our social identity which will create a more welcoming and open community.
Author: Stephen Smith – BA Of Social Sciences, M.Ed
Sex, Sexuality & Genders of The Future!
The other day I was reading a book and a question was posed.
Are people a product of their genes or of their environment or as the academics put it Nature Vs Nurture?
I wondered how that applied to many things including sexuality. With science rapidly improving we are able to dip into and alter the gene pool and genetically modify everything from crops to humans.
In 2015 scientists altered the DNA of human embryos, genetically modifying them using a method called the Crisper technique.
Welcome to the Brave New World where science fiction written in 1931 is becoming a reality.
With the technology available today scientists and doctors are now be able to change a person’s physical, intellectual. And possibly even mental capabilities through this engineering.
It will allow in the future the riddance of many hereditary diseases and allow man to play god.
Regardless of where your stance is ethically on this it does pose some uncomfortable questions.
- Under What circumstances could this genetic engineering take place?
- Who would qualify?
- Would it be only used to correct ailments and deformities or would it be optional for parents to choose the color of there to be born child’s hair or eyes?
- What controls will be put in place?
- Will it be used to improve intellectual abilities of the masses?
What about SEX?
The sex of a new-born child can be genetically engineered to that of the parents, or viewing into the future, the buyers/creators choices.
So that is all well and good but how about sexuality and sexual preferences. With sexual revolution in the late 60’s and early 70’s tolerance between sexual preferences, now being politically correct genders, was practiced by most.
It was still accepted that there was a man and a woman. But the expectation that relationships be solely between a man and a woman were broadened. There were the straights (some being closeted straights).
And the LGBT community was formed which stands for Lesbian Gay, Bisexual and Transsexual.
In the 90’s the LGBT acronym was expanded to LGBTQ the Q standing for Queer or Questioning.
In the year 2000 this new gender equality world there were 63 accepted variations of gender rather than that of a man and a woman.
Question of gender equality was raised and debate began as being a sex positive community what additional genders should be included. In the United States the acronym became LGBTQQIP2SAA whilst in the United Kingdom it became LGBTIQCAPGNGFNBA.
This has been expanded further still and some acronyms carry 26 letters which is just absurd.
Sensible gender accepting people now simply use LGBTQ+.
In Australia we are currently in the middle of a plebiscite for same sex marriage.
Controversy has raged with many members of the public who thought that the vote was to allow a man to marry a man or a woman to marry a woman.
Many are still not aware that there that included in this vote are over 100 genders. And the vote is for the legal right for one human being to marry another human being regardless of sex, sexual preference or gender.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I will vote ‘Yes’ and I am an advocate in same sex marriage
But even I struggle with a gender that is described as a ‘Feminine Male That is Attracted to a Bisexual Hermaphromale’. In any event different strokes for different folks and certainly in principle and in practice.
So where am I going with this?
If we can genetically engineer the sex of a child and there are now over 100 gender identities where does the future of sex lie?
Will government regulate what gender preferences there are available?
- So, will there be scope to tailor make and custom build your future child’s gender?
- Will gender society become more fragmented in the Brave New World that can be a reality? And there become gender exclusive communities, or cities or will we come back to strict definitions of a man and a woman?
There is nothing natural about genetic engineering but is it possible that nurture may overcome genetic engineering?
Scarier still the technology to clone humans already exists. So why has a human being not been cloned officially?
Who knows what has occurred off the record?
Your baby boy has just died, would you not love to have the exact human clone produced from his DNA? It is not easy to clone primates but with enough money and resources it would be.
The reason is that commercially it is not viable to clone a human, and some would throw in the ethical argument.
Most humans have 23 pairs of chromosomes that are basically identical and found in almost every cells nucleus.
Differences between humans are caused by genes that segments of DNA that make each human being unique. But as this DNA is passed down from mother and father to offspring there are traits will be unique to them which allows for DNA testing.
Believe it or not DNA testing will accurately test for family ancestry for at least 5 generations. If the gene pool is strong enough up to 700 years. So we are not all from the same gene pool.
Livestock Cloning
Intrexon a bio-tech company has been cloning sheep, cattle, pigs and pets for years.
The average price to clone your recently passed canine it about US $100,000 but that is a small amount when you consider cloning a successful race horse.
Buying one that is bred can cost millions of dollars – however will the racing authorities allow you to put a cloned horse on the track?
Well perhaps not! However in 2013 Polo star Adolfo Cambiaso rode on a cloned horse, their team winning the Argentine Polo Open.
So what happens when in the future if we start cloning human beings?
Imagine the same scenario as before but rather than just losing your baby boy you also lost you sweet daughter. You were a nucleur family – husband and wife with son and daughter.
Distressed beyond belief and in your despair look at cloning as an option but because of the cost involved you can only afford to create one.
You cannot make the choice so you choose to use DNA from both. Forget about the moral and legal injustice that a clone is not born so therefore cannot be considered a human being.
can Cross-cloning be done between the same species?
Theoretically most experts agree that the result could only be female in sex. But hang on a second, cloning creates an embryo. Scientists genetically engineer an embryo to make changes, including sex.
Do you see where I am heading with this?
Let us hope that we do not enter this brave new world. But if we do what will it mean for sex, sexuality and gender options?
There are some commonly held beliefs about bisexual relationships which are not correct and can contribute to problems faced by the bisexual community. In this article, I will go through 6 bisexual myths and show you why they are wrong.
Bisexual Myths Debunked
1. Bisexual people are just confused.
They need to pick a side. Sexuality exists on a spectrum. Many people tend to think you are either gay, or you’re straight, and that’s it. But in actuality there are many many people in this wide world of ours who don’t fit neatly into those two boxes.
You’ve probably heard of the Kinsey Scale.
Alfred Kinsey used a scale of 0 to 6 to document varied sexuality. Because he realized that people have varying levels of same sex and different sex attraction.
Research has since broadened our understanding even further but Kinsey remains the most famous source.
So, we are not all simply gay or straight.
Some people are even fluid in their sexuality and their primary attractions can change.
And, don’t get me wrong, a lot of people who are gay or straight experiment. Or feel confused before they figure out that they love or lust after people of only one gender.
There’s nothing wrong with being a bit confused.
Many of us are, when figuring out our sexuality! But when the implication is that bisexuality only exists as part of the journey towards discovering you are actually gay, or actually straight, there is a problem.
That erases the reality of countless people’s lived experience and identity.
It can make bi people feel they don’t fit anywhere and contribute to mental health problems. As well as encourage rejection of bi people from communities they should be a part of.
2. Bi people are all equally attracted to men and women.
You can be 1% attracted to men and 99% attracted to women and still be bisexual. Just like gay and straight people, you don’t have to have had any sexual experiences yet (or ever) with anyone at all to be bisexual.
Bisexual folks can also be just as into non binary people too. Which brings me to….
3. Bisexual people are attracted to two genders only and that excludes trans, intersex and non-binary people.
This is a slightly complicated one because many people who fall outside the gender binary feel that the label ‘bisexual’ is exclusionary towards them. And prefer other terms such as ‘pansexual’.
It is totally fine to use other labels. I kinda prefer Pansexual from an aesthetic viewpoint myself. But don’t assume that just because someone refers to themselves as bisexual they are excluding people based on gender.
There is actually a really big push in the bi community right now to get the message out that bi, in this sense, means attraction to two or more genders.
No doubt some bi people, just like gay or straight people are transphobic or not accepting of non binary people. But it’s not all of us by any means!
4. Bi people are just looking for attention
Unfortunately for many people the image they have of bisexuality is the idea that young drunk girls pretend to be bi and make out with other girls just to get attention, especially from boys.
That is a trope we see played out in the media a lot.
It’s kinda sexist and slut shaming and it also feeds into some pretty harmful misinformation about bi people.
The reality is that a lot of the attention given to bi people is often very negative and on the whole we really don’t court it. In fact a lot of bi people never come out of the closet for that very reason.
It’s another case of sure, some people have an exhibitionist streak. But the perception of bi people just doing it to seek attention is really just another form of bi erasure.
5. Bisexuality is a modern invention
It is documented to have existed since ancient times and it is observed in many other species than in humans alone. And in many cultures through history it has been not only known but also accepted.
Just like the use of objects as sex toys has been documented by images from neanderthal man, bi-sexuality has been present too.
6. Bi people will cheat on their partners
Some people think that bi people are incapable of monogamous relationship. This is because whichever sex they are with, they will be unfulfilled and still need partners of the other sex too.
But the truth is bi people are just like everyone else.
Not everyone wants to be, or is able to be monogamous. Lots of people instead have poly relationships or stay single. Or unfortunately, have covert relationships outside their supposedly monogamous ones.
But being attracted to more than one gender doesn’t make you more likely to cheat. If we commit to one person, it’s just as real as it is for straight or gay people.
Look, a straight woman may like more than one kind of guy too. It doesn’t mean she’ll be unsatisfied with Mr Tall, Brunette and Circumcised just because she’s also dated Mr Stocky, Blond and Uncut, does it?
Nope. Related – not all bi people want threesomes. Those can be a lot of work, and bi people are just as lazy as anyone else!
6 Dating Apps to Fulfill Your Threesome Dream
The advancement in technology has made it possible for users to have mobile applications for anything they want.
No matter, it is finding a soul mate for marriage or looking for a threesome partner, everything is available on the internet. We often receive requests from our viewers about which apps are the perfect choice for finding the right partner to enjoy a threesome.
To help those readers, our team has researched and identified the top 6 dating apps to fulfill your threesome dream in detail. Let’s go through each option and install the one you like most on your phone!
3rder
It is one of the most exceptional dating apps for couples or singles looking for a threesome. 3rder is a fun application that can be installed on both iOS and Android devices.
It is a special tool for open-minded individuals who are interested in doing something different. While visiting this site, you will find it is a playground for love where things begin with an awesome threesome sex chat.
AdultFriendFinder
The next application we want to mention here is AdultFriendFinder having a pretty solid collection of swingers and sex lovers.
None of the people will ever say something bad about this website thanks to its ability to make open sex enjoyable. Just try to stay away from scammers who make fake profiles on this platform.
BiCupid
The main tagline of the BiCupid app is to let the users find bisexual and erotic people. They work for people who like to explore new things and fantasies to boost their pleasure levels.
Stay honest with your needs on this platform while looking for a threesome, and we are pretty sure you will have a hell of a time.
Get It On
Get It On is a very terrific app that gives plenty of group sex options in every city.
Whether you are a couple or a single, this app gives liberty to explore new things hiding in your heart for a long time. Additionally, this app allows the users to post updates & stories just as Instagram.
3Somer
The fifth option we want to recommend to the users is 3Somer, specially made for those interested in threesomes.
It is an easy-to-use application where making a profile doesn’t take much time. You will full liberty to give your preferences while looking for a partner on this mobile app.
Fantasy Match
If you want to fulfill all your kinks & curiosities about sex, Fantasy Match is definitely a wonderful choice to make.
The users get plenty of options while using this application that is exceptional for sure. Unlike boring mobile apps, it offers much more than just a threesome sex chat and makes sure you get the ideal partner for real sex.
These dating apps are very amazing options to transform your threesome fantasy into a reality.
Whatever wish you have, we are pretty assured they will be very helpful for letting you move one step forward for an awesome pleasurable session.
Let’s discuss some popular and trending dating app terminology : Bisexual vs Pansexual vs Omnisexual. It’s crucial to familiarize ourselves with the diverse ways people identify their specific sexual orientation. Bisexuality, pansexuality, and omnisexuality, while often grouped together, each paint a unique picture of how individuals experience love and attraction.
This article is not just about terminology; it’s a deeper look into human connections that transcend traditional boundaries. Whether you’ve encountered these terms in conversations, media, or are navigating your own identity, this guide is designed to celebrate the differences, and foster a deeper understanding of these sexual orientations.
Defining the Terms: Bisexual vs Pansexual vs Omnisexual
Embarking on our journey into understanding human attraction, let’s start by laying the foundation with clear definitions. Understanding the nuances of each term is like unlocking the doors to a more inclusive and empathetic world.
What is Bisexuality?
Traditionally, bisexuality is understood as the attraction to two genders, typically men and women. However, the modern interpretation is far more encompassing. Bisexuality now refers to the potential for attraction to people of one’s own gender as well as other genders, not limited to just two. This evolution in understanding reflects the fluidity of bisexuality, embracing a wide range of attractions that are not strictly binary.
What is Pansexuality?
Pansexuality takes the inclusivity one step further by transcending the concept of gender in attraction. Pansexual individuals can experience a romantic or sexual attraction to people regardless of their gender identity or expression. It’s a testament to the idea that love and attraction are boundless, not confined by societal constructs of gender.
What is Omnisexuality?
Omnisexuality, while similar to pansexuality, incorporates an awareness and consideration of gender into its definition. Omnisexual individuals recognise and are attracted to all genders, but unlike pansexuality, gender plays a role in their attraction. It’s a distinction that highlights the complex interplay between gender and attraction for omnisexual people.
Exploring the Differences : Bisexual vs Pansexual vs Omnisexual
We will now explore the subtle yet significant differences between bisexuality, pansexuality, and omnisexuality. This discussion is not about labelling or boxing in human experiences, but rather about understanding the rich variety of ways people connect and find love.
Bisexuality: The Dual Path
Bisexuality is often depicted as attraction towards both men and women, but this definition barely scratches the surface. A more nuanced understanding acknowledges that bisexuality embraces attraction to more than one gender, not necessarily in equal measure, and not limited to just two genders. Bisexual individuals might find themselves drawn to various gender expressions but don’t necessarily feel attraction to all genders.
Pansexuality: The Boundless Love
Pansexuality steps into the realm of potential attraction to people of any gender identity. This orientation highlights the ability to form romantic or sexual connections with individuals regardless of their gender. For pansexuals, it’s the person’s essence – their personality, soul, or character – that sparks attraction, rather than their gender per se.
Omnisexuality: The Selective Spectrum
Omnisexuality, while similar to pansexuality in its inclusivity, brings its own unique flavour. Omnisexual individuals might feel attracted to all genders, but unlike pansexuals, they often recognise and appreciate the specific gender-related aspects of their attractions. There’s an awareness and acknowledgment of gender in their attraction, yet it doesn’t limit their ability to be drawn to any gender identity.
Common Questions and Misconceptions
A myriad of questions and misconceptions often arise when discussing the differences between bisexuality, pansexuality, and omnisexuality. Let’s address and debunk some of the most common of these, and shed light on the truths that foster understanding and acceptance.
Q1: Is bisexuality just a phase?
One pervasive myth suggests that bisexuality is merely a transitional phase between heterosexuality and homosexuality. However, bisexuality is a valid and enduring identity for many individuals. It’s not a stopover but a destination in its own right.
Q2: Aren’t pansexuality and omnisexuality the same thing?
While pansexuality and omnisexuality both recognise the potential for attraction beyond traditional gender binaries, they differ in nuances. Pansexuality is characterised by the potential for attraction to individuals regardless of gender, often focusing on personal connection over gender identity. Omnisexuality, while also inclusive, involves an awareness and appreciation of gender differences in attraction. The distinctions may seem subtle but are significant to those who identify with each term.
Q3: Do these orientations mean you’re attracted to everyone?
A common misconception is that identifying as bisexual, pansexual, or omnisexual means being attracted to every single person. Just like anyone else, individuals within these orientations have their own preferences, types, and non-negotiables. Their capacity for attraction is not indiscriminate but encompasses a wider spectrum of gender identities.
Q4: Are these terms just trendy labels?
Some may dismiss these identities as modern fads or unnecessary labels. However, these terms provide language for experiences and feelings that have existed across cultures and histories. They offer individuals a sense of community, understanding, and validation in a world that often demands conformity to narrow norms.
Why Understanding Matters
Understanding the distinctions between bisexuality, pansexuality, and omnisexuality is more than an academic exercise—it’s a step towards building a more inclusive and compassionate world. Here’s why truly understanding these identities and embracing their differences matters:
Fostering Inclusivity
Recognising and respecting the diverse ways people identify their sexual orientation paves the way for a more inclusive society. It allows everyone to feel seen and valued, not despite their differences, but because of them. Understanding these orientations dismantles barriers and builds bridges, making room for everyone to express their authentic selves.
Challenging Stereotypes
Stereotypes and misconceptions can lead to misunderstandings and prejudice. By educating ourselves and others about the nuances of bisexuality, pansexuality, and omnisexuality, we challenge and dismantle these stereotypes. This not only supports individuals within these communities but also enriches our collective understanding of the complexity of human attraction.
Encouraging Authenticity
When we acknowledge and celebrate the vast spectrum of sexual orientations, we empower individuals to embrace their true selves. Understanding that there are multiple ways to experience and express attraction can provide comfort and validation to those who may feel isolated or misunderstood within more traditional frameworks of identity.
Promoting Empathy and Connection
At its core, understanding these orientations is about cultivating empathy. By taking the time to learn about and appreciate the diverse experiences of others, we foster deeper connections. Empathy allows us to step into the shoes of another, to see the world through their eyes, and to connect on a profoundly human level.
Contributing to Mental Health and Wellbeing
Acceptance and understanding of diverse sexual orientations contribute to the mental health and wellbeing of individuals who identify with these labels. Feeling accepted and understood can significantly reduce feelings of isolation and anxiety, contributing to a healthier, happier society.
Celebrating the Sexuality Spectrum
By understanding the differences between bisexuality, pansexuality, and omnisexuality we open our hearts to the myriad ways love manifests. It’s a journey that challenges us to look beyond traditional binaries and embrace the complexity and beauty of human connection in all its forms.
Let’s carry forward the spirit of inclusivity, empathy, and understanding we’ve nurtured here. By celebrating individuality we contribute to a world that values and cherishes diversity. With understanding we find unity, not in sameness, but in the shared human experience of seeking love, acceptance, and connection.
In the end, it’s the diversity of our experiences that enriches our collective human story, painting a picture of a world vibrant with the colours of love in all its forms.
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