We all need a bit of fun and playfulness in the bedroom. The less uncomfortable you feel about discussing it, the more stimulating and pleasurable it can get. Of course, communication is key if you want to spice up your sex life.
Being able to tell your partner what you want to try out and what your kinks are is in fact quite liberating. And of course will lead to a great and fulfilled sex life. Sex toys and roleplaying are a great part of this conversation as they will help you explore your own sexuality as well as that of your partner.
Spice up Your Sex Life with Sex Toys
If you lack experience when it comes to choosing the right sex toys. You can always do a bit more research as to what does what and have a look at a guide to adult toys.
There is a wide range of sex toys. From those suitable for her or his pleasure only to those that can stimulate both partners at the same time. On the other hand, if you are quite clear regarding your preferences, it will be much easier to make a choice.
In case you don’t have a willing partner to participate in this exploration, you can always find someone with similar kinks by browsing online so as to fulfill your specific bedroom needs. Most important thing is that you feel comfortable using sex toys.
Relax and just enjoy the ride.
Introducing Some Drama into Your Bedroom
No no, not the negative connotation of this phrase. More like some actual theatre. Roleplaying can be a powerful aid when it comes to unleashing your innermost desires. This is mostly because we feel freer doing certain things as someone else.
So, by opting for some quality sex role-play we get to explore both our own sexuality and that of our partner guilt-free, and more importantly, shame-free. Feeling shame over some things that we want to try in the bedroom is not a good sign. It means that we are suppressing our true desires.
With role-playing, we can get over that feeling and simply make our character do or say exactly what we need at that particular moment. You can always go a step further and introduce fun and interesting costumes to help you and your partner get into character even more.
Have Sex in Different Places
Yes, it can be as simple as that.
Breaking the routine of always making love in the bedroom can do wonders for your sex life. For starters, explore different locations within your home, just make sure you are all alone, and no guests are expected.
Shower sex or bathtub sex can always be a fun alternative, and the water can be quite stimulative. Another option is sex in the kitchen and various surfaces there. This can also lead to some interesting position changes that you both might enjoy. The next step is completely leaving your home and finding an alternative spot, a hotel room, perhaps.
This option can be great if a bit of roleplaying is added. You can also explore the great outdoors if you feel comfortable with it. Remember, feeling relaxed and comfortable is essential for this change of pace to work.
Watch Some Porn
This can be an interesting option, not only as a way to spice up your sex life but also as a window into your partner’s specific interests. You need to feel assured that your partner won’t judge your particular interest when it comes to pornography. And you shouldn’t judge theirs either.
Instead, discover what it is that has that stimulating effect on you when it comes to a selected genre of movies. This way you might discover more about each other’s needs and by doing so improve your sex life.
Start by discussing what your interests are when it comes to pornography. Then select movies that can combine some or all of your listed preferences. Just relax and enjoy the rest of the intimate evening in each other’s company.
Options are limitless, all you need to do is feel comfortable
First with your own desires and wishes and then with those of your partner. That way you can explore everything together, trying out different things and simply enjoying each other to the fullest.
Remember, the truth will set you free. So be open as honest as you possibly can and you will reap the benefits of such a relationship, both in bed and in life.
iSex Kit – Just Plug In & Play!
Today I’m taking a look at the iSex USB massage kit by Pipedream.
Pipedream iSex USB Massage Kit is a bullet style stimulator with some extra interchangeable heads to mix things up a bit. Like their plain bullet, this is an all-white sex toy which is reminiscent of iPhone accessories. Honestly, I’m not heaps into Pipedream iSex USB Massage Kit for myself personally, for reasons I will go into in a minute. But that doesn’t mean it’s not going to be great for some customers.
Reasons Why I’m Not Keen
Firstly, there doesn’t seem to be any control buttons. It only has one constant speed. Once you plug it in, it starts working immediately!
Pipedream iSex USB Massage Kit has a USB plug, as the name suggests. So it has got to be plugged into a computer, an Xbox, a Play Station (or your car) to use it or else get an adapter.
If you want to turn it off, you’ve got to unplug it. You will also need to unplug it when you are charging the heads. As it will be a way to difficult to change them whilst it’s vibrating. Cord is pretty long, so it’s not a huge inconvenience to need to be plugged in to use it. Although I do prefer more versatility in a sex toy and usually go for rechargeable or battery powered. So I can take them lots of places and not be attached by a cord.
But I really find it annoying that there are no control buttons.
I don’t want it to vibrate as soon as the plug goes in. Really I don’t want to have to unplug it to change the heads either as that is to time consuming. It may be lazy of me. But I just prefer to have something that is more convenient to use.
I also prefer being able to switch between a constant vibration and a wave or pulsation patterns. That doesn’t seem to be an option here, unfortunately.
Vibration is reasonably strong but it’s not ideal. I prefer a more rumbly sensation.
What is it Made out Of?
Pipedream iSex USB Massage Kit material is hard ABS plastic. That’s super body safe which is a plus. But I felt like the heads should have been silicone. I
enjoy silicone materials as it will be more smooth and soft to the touch which is more gentle for the body. Oh well. One of the heads does have softer nubs for a teasing sensation at least.
Features
Pipedream iSex USB Massager itself has a rounded end with small hard nubby bumps for extra stimulation. I think it’s pretty decent.
Then it has three extra heads.
Firstly a curved and kind of pointy head which reminds me of a bird’s beak or anteater nose. You could use that for very pinpoint stimulation.
Secondly, there is a small probe that is reminiscent of anal beads. I assume it’s intended for the anus so that’s a nice addition. Should mention at this point that the heads screw on quite firmly so there shouldn’t be worries about the head coming off while it’s in the butt! You could also use this head externally.
Lastly, there is a head shaped a bit like many finger vibes are shaped, longish and pointy-ish. It has the soft nubs I was mentioning earlier. This is probably my favourite head. I think it would be lovely for external massage anywhere delicate and sensitive.
In general, though I am not wild about the heads although I don’t hate them. More of a ‘meh’ response from me.
More Variety than a Plain Bullet
I like that Pipedream iSex USB Massage Kit has a bit more variety than their plain iSex bullet.
But again, it’s just not hugely my cup of tea.
Pipedream does have a large selection of sex toys available from vibrators, dildos, BDSM, massage oils, lubricants, games and lingerie just to name a few! We recommend having a look at our other reviews to see what other product are available.
Sex toys and products are so vast these days, there is definitely something for everyone.
FAQ’s To Help You Spice Up Your Sex Life
Where do we begin to re-ignite the fire in our long-term relationships?
Communication is the secret. Fantasies, desires, and boundaries can be shared in a safe space for exploration. Even stuff as light as date nights, trying new things together, or bringing novelty to the bedroom, like sensual massage oils or even just some light role-play, could serve to reignite intimacy.
Where to start trying these new things without feeling awkward?
Start small, build trust, talk about your comfort zones. You can do something new together: sensual films, couples’ game, trying a new toy. Do it with curiosity and humor. Just enjoy the awkwardness, which is all part of the fun.
How do we address mismatched libidos?
The key is honest, empathetic communication: understanding each other’s needs and finding middle ground, such as scheduling intimacy or focusing on non-sexual touch. It may also be worth exploring the use of libido-boosting supplements or techniques to reduce stress.
Can spicing things up help strengthen emotional intimacy?
Absolutely. Exploring new forms of intimacy deepens trust and connection. It’s not just about the physical; sharing new experiences can bring emotional vulnerability, creating a stronger bond. Think of it as an ongoing journey of discovery together.
What if one partner feels hesitant to try something new?
Respect and patience are vital. Gently discuss why they feel hesitant and reassure them that it’s okay to go slow. Introduce ideas gradually, focusing on mutual enjoyment and trust. The goal is never to pressure but to grow closer as partners.
Spice Up Your Love Life
If you have been married or dating for a while now, you probably would not describe your sex life as being what it used to be. Chances are, it’s not quite as exciting and you would like to spice up your love life. Though your sex life might have started out as hot as a habanero pepper you have likely ended up in the pepper range. However, the good news is you do not have to stay in this range.
You can add some heat, excitement, and fun to your love life. “Dinner and a movie” is the classic date, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t get boring. Regularly adding spice to your relationship is crucial, whether you’ve been dating for weeks or years. Even as friends with benefits, consider these suggestions to maintain excitement in your relationship.
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
Always doing the same thing? Try something that you both have never done before, like scuba diving or even a painting class. Exploring beyond the routine, whether skydiving or not, adds excitement and allure to life.
Repeat The Past
Remember your first date? Of course you do, and you probably remember all of the feelings and emotions that went along with it. If you’re trying to keep things interesting, why not repeat that first date? It obviously worked at the time, so who knows how much you’ll enjoy it now.
Change Something
Most spouses fall into a habit of doing the same old thing all the time, for instance, having sex in the bedroom. This is not good, repetition gives way to boredom, mix things up. Every time you have sex, change something, perhaps the location. You don’t have to go to a hotel, you can have sex in the dining room or on the floor!
Introduce New Sex Toys
If you’re stuck in the same routine in the bedroom you can get really bored and introducing something different like sex toys can really spice things up. You don’t have to jump straight into whips and chains but start somewhere. Buy a vibrator or a dildo and test it out. Just have a play with it, make it fun. Buy a fantasy costume like a nurse or French maid. If it’s with someone you trust, why not try some fluffy hand cuffs and let the other person do whatever they want to you (within reason obviously).
Make Sex Fun With Public Play
Vibrating panties can be a great way to spice things up. Vibrating panties allow you to have your partner control a vibrator that’s hidden in your panties either via a remote control or a phone app. That way you could be in a park or anywhere public and your partner can give you an orgasm. I wouldn’t jump straight into this though, test out some vibrators and dildos before you move on to something a little kinkier like vibrating panties.
Spice Up Your Love Life With Adult Games
Introducing adult games like strip poker into your relationship can significantly enhance the connection between partners. These games foster a playful environment that not only breaks the routine but also encourages openness and vulnerability. By engaging in such light-hearted yet intimate activities, couples can explore new aspects of their relationship in a fun and safe setting. This can lead to deeper emotional connections and a revitalized sense of intimacy, making the relationship feel more exciting and fulfilling.
Talk About It
This might be hard but it can bring you closer together to open up and talk about your sex life. Poor communication has been the source of many problems in a marriage. So don’t go bottling things up, let your partner know how you feel and what you think. This will show them that you value the marriage as well as your sex life. Also, listen to what they have to say. It is not good to assume what the other feels.
Channel Your Inner Artist
Feeling creative? Picking up a sketch book and some pencils makes for an inexpensive date, and you already have the best looking model at your disposal. Taking turns posing for a sketch is exhilarating and will definitely open up the rest of the day to more fun.
Do Some Reading To Spice Up Your Love Life
Looking to keep the passion alive? There’s no harm in picking up some spicy books to inspire you and your partner. From steamy romance novels to sultry how-to guides, there’s a whole world of reading out there for the two of you to enjoy.
Pretend To Be Strangers
Perfect for the couple who has been together for a while – pretending to not know each other. Dress up and arrive separately at a bar with pseudonyms and back stories already created. There, you “find” each other among the crowd and allow your alternate personalities to hit it off. This imaginative game adds a layer of mystery and excitement, allowing you to explore each other in a fresh, intriguing way.
Apply All Of This To Spice Up Your Love Life
Incorporating these dynamic strategies into your relationship can reignite the spark and maintain the excitement you desire. Whether it’s revisiting cherished memories, introducing playful new elements, or daring to step outside your comfort zone, each approach offers a unique way to enrich your connection.
Keep communication open, continuously seek novel experiences, and most importantly, enjoy the journey of keeping your love life vibrant and thrilling. Embrace these tips not just as occasional fixes but as ongoing practices to ensure a fulfilling and passionate relationship.
No matter which one of these date ideas you decide to try, spicing things up if you’ve been together a while is important. With these simple tips, you can get the ball rolling. Remember all these cannot be accomplished by only you, it requires your partners help as well, what you can do is take the initiative and as I said talk about it!
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