I Guess I Want To Be A Maid To Order
Throughout my life I have always had a willingness to serve, the word no is not an easy word to say for me. I guess I’ve been almost like a maid to order around. I have always enjoyed creating a meal for my partner, small tasks like making the bed, cleaning, washing clothes and other domestic duties.
After servicing I get a sense of feeling proud from showing my partner that I have made our house a “home”. This would be cringe worthy for most feminists. I have never understood why these tasks give me such a feeling of achievement in my relationships.
My Kindness Was Usually Exploited
For the most part it has been taken advantage of, as with most people, in most situations someone who says yes, all the time becomes an “easy” person to deal with or someone who most will call upon in times of need as they always know they will say yes.
What’s a Servitude Fetish? – A Maid To Order
A people pleasure, a slave, a yes person, but today I learnt that in the BDSM world this set of attributes is a fetish; servitude- This is a service orientated submissive. It is a relationship within the BDSM lifestyle where the passive partner is both physically and emotionally “in service” to the dominate partner. It’s not all about sex though, these relationships might not even involve sex and romance but focus on pleasing their dominant in any way they wish to be served.
Several couples add this type of play or practice into their everyday lifestyles, examples of ways such as; housework wearing a particular outfit or in nothing at all, fetching drinks, meal planning or cooking of meals, personal assistance. Very often outfits such as nurse and maid, are worn to bring a more realistic sense of the service orientated submission.
Can This Be More Personal Assistant Instead Of Slave?
Yes and this is a part of the BDSM world that I can resonate with, which has surprised me. Not many things shock me anymore, I have come to appreciate and accept the different ways in which people will express their passions and desires.
My desire for service and pleasing my partner has become something that I have always thought was just the way in which I loved and showed love. It is something that unless it is understood can be very dangerous and damaging to a person, for someone to fully understand they need to respect and without respect a person will feel as though they are a slave and not understand why they are constantly taken advantage of.
My pervious partners have all seen these particular attributes as a weakness in my personality, constantly they would ask me to do things I may not be comfortable with doing, knowing full well I won’t say no to their request, and if I was to say no it wouldn’t be hard to change my decision.
Despite First Glances, Healthy BDSM Focuses On Respect And Boundaries
As someone who isn’t involved into the life of BDSM and only dabbles into certain areas, learning that the world is more about respect and appreciation rather than dominance over another person makes it a little less scary and a lot easier to understand.
To the outside world BDSM is full on, and to some the deeper you get the more that is involved but to those on the outside even the art of cuffing can be scary. The biggest misconception that I see from working in this industry is that an uneducated person believes that because it is depicted a certain way it must be ok. Truth is to serve someone or to allow someone to tie you up can be the most frightening thing, to some it can be amusing, and to others it can be a way in which they express their sexual desires.
How Do I Keep Servitude Healthy? – Being A Maid To Order
Servicing your partner should always be done in a way that does not hinder your confidence or respect in yourself, to allow someone to be dominate over you is a huge power play and you and your partner need to understand the boundaries and respect those boundaries. You must first be dominate with yourself, and after that having the ability to selflessly serve your partner with the only satisfaction being how happy you have made your partner and the feeling of being useful in a task done well, is enough to give you happiness.
Express And Explore To Your Hearts Content
Exploring this way of life in a new light is exciting and makes me feel more Intune with my body and the way in which I express myself. I feel as though I can understand the reasons why I do things the way I do and why I feel happiness after doing something my partner has asked, even more so when I do something in which my partner enjoys and is proud of without him asking.
To have someone who respects you is the biggest achievement in life especially if your someone who struggles with trust. Being able to express yourself fully and without the fear of being hurt or taken advantage of is a right every person should have, we need to respect each other more and take more time to show respect for ourselves as well.
Here Are 10 Tips For Those New To BDSM!
- What does BDSM stand for?
BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism, which are various sexual preferences and practices. - Is BDSM safe?
BDSM can be safe when practiced consensually and with proper communication, understanding, and use of safety protocols. - How do I establish boundaries in BDSM?
Discuss and agree on limits, safewords, and boundaries before any BDSM activity to ensure safety and consent. - What is a safeword in BDSM?
A safeword is a pre-agreed word or signal used to stop or pause a BDSM scene immediately if needed. - How can beginners start with BDSM?
Beginners should start with education, communication, and exploring soft BDSM activities to understand comfort levels and boundaries. - What is aftercare in BDSM?
Aftercare involves post-scene care to help partners recover emotionally and physically, ensuring mutual comfort and support. - Can BDSM be part of a healthy relationship?
Yes, BDSM can enhance intimacy and trust when practiced with clear communication, mutual respect, and consent. - What is a Dominant and a Submissive?
A Dominant takes control in a scene, while a Submissive follows and complies with the Dominant’s directives. - Is BDSM only about pain?
No, BDSM includes various activities beyond pain, like role-playing, bondage, and control, catering to different preferences. - Do you need special equipment for BDSM?
Special equipment is optional; many BDSM activities can be enjoyed with minimal or no gear, depending on preferences.
Morgan x
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