Ask A Question

Who’s Answering These Questions

This isn’t a section where we wing it. The people responding to reader questions include sex therapists, clinical sexologists and medical professionals who actually know what they’re talking about. Contributors like Dr. Stacy Friedman bring years of clinical experience to questions that range from beginner-level curiosity to things most people wouldn’t dare say out loud in a GP’s office.

That professional backing matters. There’s no shortage of dodgy sex advice floating around the internet — forums full of anonymous opinions, influencer content dressed up as expertise, and articles that read like they were written by someone who’s never had an awkward sexual experience in their life. This section is the antidote to all of that. The answers here come from people with qualifications, not just opinions.

The Kind of Stuff People Actually Ask

The questions in this section cover a huge range, and that’s the point. Some are about technique — like how to masturbate without sex toys, which walks through methods and approaches for people who either don’t own toys, don’t want to use them, or just want to know what their own body can do on its own. It’s the kind of question plenty of people have but few bother to look up properly because they assume they should already know the answer.

Others deal with frustration and function — such as how to orgasm more easily, which tackles one of the most common concerns people bring to sex therapists. Difficulty reaching orgasm is incredibly normal, but nobody tells you that when you’re lying there wondering what’s wrong with you. Dr. Stacy breaks down what might be going on physically and mentally, and offers practical suggestions that don’t involve buying anything or performing some elaborate routine.

No Question Is Too Weird, Basic or Embarrassing

One thing worth saying outright — there’s no judgement here, and there’s no such thing as a stupid question in this section. People write in about everything from anatomy basics they missed in school sex ed, to specific kinks they want to understand better, to long-standing bedroom problems they’ve been too embarrassed to bring up with a partner or a doctor.

A lot of the questions we get come from people who’ve spent ages silently worrying about something that turns out to be completely normal. That’s what happens when sexual education is patchy and cultural attitudes make it hard to talk openly — people fill the gaps with assumptions, and those assumptions are usually worse than reality.

It’s Not Just For the Person Who Asked

The beauty of this format is that even if you didn’t submit the question, there’s a good chance someone else has asked exactly what you’ve been wondering. Browsing through the Ask A Question archive is a bit like eavesdropping on the conversations people have with their therapist — except it’s free, it’s anonymous, and you can read it in your own time without making eye contact with anyone.

We’ve found that the most popular questions tend to be the simplest ones. Not because the answers are obvious, but because they’re the things everyone assumes they should already know. Technique questions, anatomy questions, “is this normal” questions — they consistently get the highest readership because they hit a nerve that most people share but nobody talks about.

Got Something You Want Answered?

If you’ve got a question and you haven’t found the answer in our existing articles, send it through. We don’t publish your name or identifying details — just the question and the expert response. The more specific you are, the better the answer will be, but even vague “something feels off and I don’t know why” questions are worth submitting. Our sexperts have heard it all, and they’re not going to bat an eyelid at whatever you throw at them.