If you went on the street and asked people about their sex lives, you’ll get probably get the same answer. Whether their sex lives are good or not, everyone either wants to have better sex, a more passionate relationship or a stronger orgasm. Then you start asking yourself why aren’t people improving their sex lives. Well, many of them are too scared to open up about their desires and fantasies. Sure, some would love to join spanking dating online or take part in an orgy, but they’re either scared or embarrassed to take that step.
But now, the idea of sex is changing. Through social media and online communities, people are connecting with like-minded individuals, and are understanding their sexual desires are nothing to be ashamed about. If you’re interested in spanking but are entirely new to this, well, you’ve come to the right place. We’re going to help you out and show you the best spanking toys for absolute beginners.
Hand
If you’re an absolute beginner, this will be the most controlled spanking device you can use. Hands are not only the most commonly used tool for spanking, but they’re the least painful tool. As a beginner, of course, you could go all out, but why would you? If you want this to be an enjoyable experience, start with the dominant using their hands, having them work their way up. Plus, when using hands, it’s unlikely they’ll produce bruising or welts.
Paddle
As a beginner, the paddle is the next step up from using hands. The rule of thumb is the bigger the paddle, the less pain. Anytime you’re using a tool with a large surface area; it decreases the pain. But don’t be fooled by the paddle. Yes, it may not produce as much of a sting, but you can still get a bruised bum. It’s important when using the paddle that you’re not excessive. You don’t want to damage precious muscle tissue. With a paddle, it needs to be aimed at the meatiest part of the bum, avoiding any boney areas.
Strap
If you’re looking for a spanking device that’s easy to control, then a strapper is an excellent choice. A strapper is a thick piece of leather with a grip handle that gives the dominant more control. For beginners, it’s a great device to use. But don’t assume that because it’s easy to control, it won’t hurt. A strap can produce a severe sting and will leave a mark.
Crop
If you want to take it easy before using a whip, then a crop is probably your best bet. The crop is a stepping stone between a paddle and whip. It’s not as intense as a whip, since a crop has more surface area, meaning it’ll hurt less. But remember, the measuring of pain is pretty subjective. You need to also take into consideration the strength of the dominant. That said, if you want to go slow, the dominant needs to use a light hand.
Whip
If you’ve watched any movies featuring BDSM, then the whip is possibly the most famous spanking tool out there. This is undoubtedly one device which will leave a mark. Whips are long and thin; when using one, it’ll leave any bum with a mark. But if a dominant is a beginner, we suggest refraining from using a whip right away. There are specific whipping techniques a dominant needs to know. This is why we recommend using a crop first and then working your way to a whip. There are a variety of whips to choose from, but for beginners, a quirt whip will let both the dominant and submissive get accustomed to the feeling of one.
Flogger
A flogger is a whip with tails at one end. It’s used on various parts of the body, but usually for the bum, back, or thighs. The beauty of the flogger is it delivers a range of sensations, from mild pain to stinging. But not all floggers are meant for beginners. Ideally, we recommend you opt for a flogger that has thick and rounded tails. Take some time to get used to it, and once you’re comfortable, transition into a more heavy duty flogger.
Cane
As a beginner, you want a spanking device that the dominant can easily control. Though canes are easy to use and lightweight, they can give a sharp, stingy pain that will definitely leave some marks on the skin. When caning a submissive, use the lower end of the cane, avoiding the tip. It’ll give a sharp sting but won’t damage the skin.
The beauty of spanking is that you have so many different devices to choose from. With time, whether you’re submissive or dominant, you’ll find the right spanking device for you and your partner’s needs.
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