Married Sex is Vital in any relationship. Not only does an orgasm make you feel good, but it also brings you closer together.
Having sex regularly keeps you close, strengthens your relationship, and keeps you both focused on each other. When you have been married for a long time, it’s easy to be caught up with children, work, and other responsibilities that push sex to the back of your priorities.
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Remember that when you put sex at the bottom of your list of things to do, you may feel angry and irritated. If one partner isn’t getting their needs met at home, they may begin to look elsewhere.
To keep things interesting, fun, and free of anger, you should have regular sex in your marriage. If you feel that your sex life has become dull and monotonous and you aren’t having as much sex as you used to, there are several things you can do to spark the fire and keep it burning. Some of the things you can do include:
Be spontaneous
Most couples have a sex routine. They will have sex at the same time at night, in the same position, lasting the same time.
To spark the fire, you should get rid of routine. For example, you should stop having sex at night—sometimes, have it during the day.
Most couples will remove their clothes before they have sex. Don’t do this. Remove your pants and leave everything in place.
Other couples will have sex in the same positions all the time—usually missionary. As much as the position is intimate, you should change it and try other positions.
When you avoid routine, you make yourself unpredictable, which makes your partner guess what you will do next. As you can guess, this makes your sex life more enjoyable.
Have a quickie
If you have been married for a long time, you will agree that you rarely have wild, quick sex—your sex is routine and robotic.
To keep the fire burning, you should once in a while have a quickie. Sex doesn’t have to be a long, sensual, and emotional affair. Sometimes you can have great sex in five minutes with your pants down to your feet.
Quickies happen out of the blue and are hot. And the beauty is that you can have it anywhere.
For example, when you are in the yard relaxing, you can grab your partner, pull their pants down and give them a quickie. You can do it in the kitchen, bathroom, or anywhere.
You don’t have to wait until the evening.
When you grab your partner out of the blue, you keep them guessing when it will happen next, which comes in handy at keeping the sex fire burning.
Incorporate sex tools
Introducing props into the bedroom can do wonders for your sex life. For example, you will be surprised how useful a pair of fuzzy handcuffs can be. A blindfold made of silk? What about a fluffy whip? Perhaps flavored lube?
If you’re too shy to go to a sex shop to buy the tools, get what you need online
You don’t have a budget for the tools, you can always use what is readily available. For example, you can use ice, honey, and whipped cream as a sex enhancer.
Before you use any of the sex tools on your partner, first communicate with them and get their consent. You don’t want to do anything that will hurt them or make them uncomfortable.
Watch porn together
Everyone watches porn, so don’t be a prude and dismiss it. Make it a point to view porn with your significant other to spice up your relationship. These sassy films will not only turn both of you on, but they will also give you advice and sex ideas.
Not only that, but you’ll know how your spouse feels about it. Take note of the types of videos they like. Porn comes in different genres, so pay attention to what your partner enjoys and choose it whenever you want to turn them on.
It also doesn’t hurt to see what other couples are doing in real-time. Thanks to technology, you can watch what other couples are doing through webcams.
You only need to visit a website with voyeur cams or other types of cams and pick a couple you find interesting. For variety, choose a site with many options. An ideal site should have cams for lesbian, gay, and straight males for women watchers, trans cams, and bisexual couples.
Have sex at work
Nothing is naughtier than getting kinky at the office, which to most people, is one of the most boring places and the last place they can think about having sex.
If your partner has a private office, you can surprise them at lunch. Stop by their office with their favorite food and lock yourselves in.
You don’t have to dress provably as you will attract a lot of attention. For the ladies, dress regularly, but make sure you’re wearing something revealing underneath. You can go with crotchless panties, or any other sexy outfit.
For the guys, you can add some spice by not wearing anything under those pants. Just hang loose!
Have a naked time
When you’re with your loved one, don’t be afraid to flaunt your body. Nothing is more sensual than going about your daily business naked. When it’s just the two of you, spend some time completely naked with your sweetheart.
From making tea to reading the papers to flicking through your favorite television programs, do it while naked.
Walking around the house naked will arouse your partner, and they might sneak a quickie that brings you closer together.
To avoid surprises while naked, be sure that the children are not present and that you are not expecting the cleaning lady to enter the house.
Take a break
Taking a hiatus from sexual activity can sometimes spark desire and passion. If your sex has been dull, you can take a break and concentrate on non-sexual and intimate activities such as snuggling, massage, or simply spending quality time together.
This will generate anticipation and a sensation of longing, leading to more intense sexual interactions that will bring you together.
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