Most budding slaves who are in a state of Lock The Cock will have plenty of fantasies of having a Mistress handing out punishments for their misdeeds, and rewards for good behavior. But does the reality reflect their imagination?
While one of the cornerstones of male chastity is the use of punishments and rewards to emphasize the dominance and submission involved in the relationship, the idea of being whipped or chained up for a simple misdeed is often over exaggerated. Instead the kinds of punishments and rewards used in each relationship will depend on many different factors.
The Rules of Engagement – A Chastity Contract
Underpinning every aspect of a chastity relationship is the contract. Before any play takes place, and cage is worn, or any orgasms provided, both people need to sit down and hash out all the details of the arrangement.
Usually this chastity contract will cover many of the important details such as the kind of cage the slave will be expected to wear, how long for, and what the Mistress will offer as a reward for his loyalty. Importantly for this discussion though, the contract will also cover punishments and rewards.
Spontaneous action is great, and helps to maintain excitement in the relationship, but once BDSM is involved it can quickly get out of hand. A small gift as a reward for a night of serving your Mistress is fine, an unexpected caning for misbehavior is not.
This is where the contract comes into play. Both the slave and Mistress should lay the groundwork for their time together, covering the things that will be expected of both parties, the punishments the slave will receive for failing his obligations, and the rewards he can expect for fulfilling them. Each part should be specific. If more hardcore punishments like beatings, being tied up, or being fucked by a strap on are on the table, it should be clear to the slave exactly what mistakes will lead to these punishments.
Even though each punishment should carry weight, there should also be safe words in place to protect both partners from letting the play go to far. Even if you’ve agreed that a paddling is the punishment for forgetting Mistress’s birthday, there still needs to be an off ramp to avoid any serious harm. Your safe word should be something simple and easy to remember during a heated moment.
For a detailed guide on writing a chastity contract, check out this article from Lock The Cock.
Keeping it Simple – Vanilla Punishments
Even if you’re more willing to explore some of the more hardcore style of chastity relationships, you’re still going to need some simple and effective punishments to use for minor transgressions. These can be the most difficult to get right, as you’ll probably use them more often than any others, but they need to reflect the severity of the slave’s mistake.
This kind of punishment is often very similar to those used to discipline a child. If the slave doesn’t keep the house tidy, he might be deprived of luxuries like TV time or a night out with his friends. If he doesn’t mow the lawn, he might be made to trim the grass with a pair of scissors.
You can be as creative as you want, but generally the basic forms of punishment will shy away from anything that can fall under the BDSM umbrella, so no humiliation, nothing causing pain, and nothing sexual.
Make Him Regret It – Humiliating Punishments
An interesting dynamic to explore when thinking about potential punishments is humiliation. You don’t always need to be harsh or brutal to get the desired effect. Sometimes something subtle will be much more effective.
Depending on the limits of the slave, these could involve male chastity, or be completely unrelated.
For example, a misbehaving slave might be made to wear something that causes him some embarrassment. This could be easily explained away with a clever excuse if he’s made to wear some feminine underwear, but a collar or necklace emblazoned with the word “owned” will be tougher to hide.
Similarly, a slave could be taken out of his comfort zone with punishments forcing him into awkward or unexpected scenarios. He might be made to talk to a stranger in a bar (potentially even another woman), confess his pledge to his friends, or made to go on a run wearing an embarrassing outfit.
It’s important to think about these kinds of scenarios when laying out your contract, as keeping your chastity play behind closed doors can be very important to some slaves (or Mistresses), and a luxury waiting to be taken away for others.
Teach Him a Lesson – Painful Punishments
Naturally, if we’re going to talk about chastity punishments, we have to talk about pain play. This is what gets a lot of people interested in chastity in the first place, and often is an expectation for some slaves. The sky is really the limit here, with all kinds of different toys and devices just waiting to be explored.
The most important thing when using these kinds of punishments though is to consider how realistic they really are. A session of flogging or edging isn’t just something you can do at the drop of a hat. You’ll often need to set aside a dedicated period of time for it.
So you don’t want to be using these punishments for everything. Sure a light spanking may work for a slave who forgets his manners, but you aren’t going to want to pull out the whole bondage kit every dinner time.
His Suffering Can Be Her Satisfaction – Pleasurable Punishments
Most of the time when thinking about punishments for a chaste man, it often follows the same negative lines. He needs to suffer, he needs to regret it, he doesn’t deserve things. That doesn’t always need to be the case though.
Many Mistresses use their own body as a way to punish their slaves. The cage they wear denies them their own arousal, so what could be crueler than getting them extra horny as a punishment?
Perhaps when he forgets to do his chores, rather than denying him something, instead the Mistress will order him to provide her with oral pleasure. For couples in a more open relationship, a particularly poorly behaved slave could be punished by being made to watch his Mistress have sex with another man.
When his desires are laid bare right in front of his eyes, he might regret not being a little better behaved.
Subverting Expectations – The Unexpected Punishments
Another interesting weapon the Mistress has for teaching a slave better behavior is to subvert his expectations. This is often most effective in sexual scenarios.
For example, rather than punishing him immediately for his mistakes, she might take note of them over the course of the week. Throughout the week she could drop hints that she’s going allow him the privilege of sex at the weekend, so the slave will spend all week thinking about all the pleasure he’s going to enjoy when he’s finally released.
But when the big day comes, rather than removing his chastity device, instead Mistress hands him a strap on. Instead of letting him have sex with her, instead she treats him to some anal sex. Instead of bringing him to orgasm, she can tease just enough to get him close then lock his penis back up.
The feeling of deflation and desperation will surely be enough to keep him in line in the future.
Good Punishments Need Good Rewards!
There’s an awful lot of choice when it comes to punishing a bad slave, but many people tend to overlook that good slaves should also be rewarded. While the obvious reward is to be uncaged and allowed a period of pleasure, that shouldn’t be the only way a slave is rewarded. After all, if he knows he’s only ever going to be punished then what’s the point of behaving?
So explore and take joy in dreaming up plenty of devious punishments for your chastity relationship, but don’t forget to make the rewards for good behavior worth striving for!
About The Author:
MISTRESS TRACY
Mistress Tracy is the leading author and face of Lock The Cock, known for blending playfulness with strict discipline in the world of male chastity. Originally from San Francisco and now based in New York, she guides newcomers and experienced players alike through the intricacies of chastity and BDSM.
With her signature ‘playful kitty with a barbed-wire collar’ style, she shares expert insights, sets the rules of engagement, and ensures obedience is never optional.
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What does “Lock The Cock” mean?
“Lock The Cock” refers to male chastity, where a chastity device prevents erections and sexual release, promoting control, submission, and discipline.
How do I choose the right chastity device?
Select a device based on comfort, material, and size. Silicone options are flexible, while metal provides durability. Proper fit ensures long-term wearability.
Can I wear a chastity device for long periods?
Yes, with proper hygiene and a well-fitted device, long-term wear is possible. Regular cleaning and occasional breaks help maintain comfort and safety.
Is chastity safe for beginners?
Yes, but start with short durations and gradually increase wear time. Listen to your body, ensure good circulation, and avoid excessive pressure or discomfort.
How do I introduce chastity into my relationship?
Communicate openly with your partner, discuss limits and expectations, and ease into it. Establish trust and mutual understanding for a fulfilling experience.
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