Dr. Stacy Answers All – From Specific Kinks To How To Last Longer In Bed
Dr. Stacy is a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach who offers monthly insights to our Adultsmart community blog readers. She addresses many topics related to sexual health and performance, including how to last longer in bed. Her expertise draws upon extensive clinical experience that focuses on helping individuals improve their intimacy and emotional well-being. She values open communication and believes that informed guidance can ease stress about sexual concerns. She invites readers to submit questions but cannot answer them all, since her schedule stays busy.
The Adultsmart community attracts more than 1.4 million unique viewers yearly, which means Dr. Stacy’s inbox overflows. That volume of inquiries reflects the growing need for clear and accurate information about sexual matters. Dr. Stacy’s role involves sorting through these questions and offering practical suggestions. Her responses often touch on techniques, lifestyle adjustments, and emotional factors that influence satisfaction during intimate moments. She encourages readers to seek professional medical advice when needed and to remain patient in their search for answers.
Her blog entries aim to connect with readers on a personal level. She strives to share facts in a friendly tone so people feel comfortable. Her ongoing commitment to healthy sexuality makes her a trusted voice within this expanding community of curious minds.
First Question By Stephan: I don’t last more than 2 minutes. How can I last longer in bed?
Premature or early ejaculation is when you are either letting it all out 1-2 minutes or less after the start of intercourse or that you ejaculate faster than you would like. What is normal? How long are you supposed to last? These are commons questions and concerns that many men have. Studies have shown that most men ejaculate 3-5 minutes after penetration. There are a couple of ways you can work at improving the ability to last longer. One is the squeeze technique by Masters & Johnson.
Practical Approaches and Exercises – Last Longer In Bed
When you are erect, squeeze the tip of the penis where the skin joins with the tip of the penis (frenulum). Use your thumb to squeeze the frenulum against your index finger. The squeeze should last about 10-15 seconds but make sure not to squeeze too hard where it becomes painful. For this technique to work, you need to be able to feel that you are approaching the point of no return, the point beyond which you can’t control ejaculation. When you are about to reach that point, you or your partner can squeeze and then start again.
The next technique is the stop-start method. You can do this one alone if you want to practice without your partner but it is something that is also helpful to do with your partner once you can perfect it on your own. Once you become stimulated, before you hit the point of no return, stop what you are doing, rest for 30-60 seconds and then start stimulating again but don’t allow yourself to get to that point of inevitability. Repeat this cycle 5-6 times before allowing yourself to ejaculate.
If you are by yourself, you can finish by masturbating or if with a partner you can have penetrative intercourse and allow yourself to finish. There are a few ways you can masturbate to practice on your own by going from using a dry hand (being gentle), then a wet hand with some sort of lotion or lube and then work your way to intercourse.
Recognizing Early Ejaculation and Its Challenges – Last Longer In Bed
These are a couple ideas to help with early ejaculation but you can also look up Kegel exercises online which help strengthen the muscles in the pelvis to be able to control the urge to ejaculate easier. There may be more to your situation if you have a partner that is not helpful, rushing you to finish or is not open sexually so if these ideas don’t work and you need some coaching to look deeper into your situation as to what is going on, please contact me at www.DrStacy.org
Second Question By Len: Are urethral sounds safe to use?
Understanding Urethral Sounds and Their Purpose
A urethral sound is a device that slips into the urethra for healthcare or sexual exploration. These tools come in various shapes, including rigid or flexible varieties, and often only go halfway into the opening of the penis. This ensures that they can be pulled out without difficulty. Some devices, such as catheters, can go deeper to reach the bladder. Many people enjoy this experience for physical or pleasurable reasons, since the urethra contains sensitive nerve endings. Some individuals also seek a mild prostate massage by carefully directing the sound deeper into the penis.
These tools have a medical background, but they have gained popularity in adult play. Their design helps reduce harm and irritation. The choice of a proper material, often stainless steel or silicone, enhances safety. Before using any new product, research the item’s specifications. Confirm that it is intended for use in the sensitive urethral area. The goal is to find a device that can be handled easily and cleaned well. That process lowers the risk of infection. Taking time to learn about recommended techniques boosts confidence and makes the entire experience safer. Always approach urethral sounding with a mindset of care, patience, and steady awareness.
Potential Risks and Safety Tips
Urethral sounding can be risky if you pick the wrong tool, use poor lubrication, or go too fast. You may face infection, bleeding, and discomfort if you do not follow safe practices. Sticking with high-quality devices designed for sounding is essential. These items are made to reduce friction and fit smoothly into the urethra. Generous use of sterile, water-based lube helps guard against irritation. Progressing at a slow pace allows you to track any signs of pain or tightness that demand caution.
When you rush, you can cause tears in delicate tissues. That risk is why you should never force a sound deeper than it goes naturally. A gentle technique lowers the chance of injury. You can begin with thinner sounds, then move to thicker ones after you gain confidence. Watch for redness or lingering soreness. If a problem worsens, seek professional assistance. Communication with a partner is also vital if you explore this together. Both parties should set clear comfort levels before starting. This creates trust and reduces stress. Proper cleaning after each use keeps germs away and helps you continue safely. Your patience and attention to detail enhance the overall experience.
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Here Are 6 FAQ’s Answered By Dr. Stacy!
Can lifestyle changes help me last longer in bed?
Lifestyle choices often impact stamina in the bedroom. Reducing alcohol intake, eating balanced meals, and staying hydrated support healthier circulation, which can help delay climax. Adequate sleep also plays a role by stabilizing energy levels. Regular exercise lowers stress and boosts mood, contributing to better focus during intimate moments. Simple breathing exercises can center your mind and keep anxiety in check. Small adjustments in daily habits can make a difference, though you may see the best results when combining these shifts with tested methods like stop-start or the squeeze technique.
Does performance anxiety cause rapid ejaculation?
Worrying about pleasing a partner can increase arousal too quickly, leading to rapid release. These concerns create tension that makes it tough to control timing. Deep breathing and open dialogue with your partner can reduce mental distractions. If anxiety persists, therapy may help by exploring underlying fears. A therapist could suggest practical steps, such as guided relaxation or communication exercises. Addressing emotional triggers often brings steady improvements. Feeling more secure in your abilities and trusting your partner can slow the rush of excitement.
Can certain products help me last longer in bed?
Many men use desensitizing creams or condoms designed to reduce sensation. These items may extend intercourse by dulling intense pleasure. Results vary depending on how your body reacts to the active ingredients. Some products feel more natural than others, so experiment to find an option that works well for you. Combining these tools with training methods, like the stop-start technique, can offer a balanced approach. Always read instructions carefully to avoid skin irritation. If side effects appear, consult a medical expert.
Is it safe to combine urethral sounding with other forms of play?
Some people choose to introduce mild vibration or electro-stimulation while sounding. If you follow correct precautions, it can be done without harm. Make sure devices are approved for internal use. Focus on calm and deliberate pacing, because combining intense sensations can overwhelm first-time users. If you are uncertain about safety measures, speak with a professional or explore detailed guides on proper techniques. Always keep communication open when experimenting with a partner. Stop if you notice unusual pain or discomfort.
How can I spot infections related to urethral sounding?
Watch for early signs such as redness, lingering pain, or an unusual discharge. These may point to an emerging infection. Proper cleaning of your sound and the area around the urethra lowers the risk. Use sterile, water-based lubricants to prevent irritation. If symptoms persist or worsen, seek medical attention to prevent further complications. An expert can assess the issue, recommend medication if needed, and advise on safer practices. Prompt care helps protect your health and keeps future sounding sessions positive.
Should I consult a specialist before trying urethral sounding?
Speaking with a medical or sexual health professional can reduce worries and lower the risk of injury. Experts give guidance on choosing the correct size and material for your sound. They clarify proper insertion techniques and explain how to minimize harm. Getting reliable advice saves you from learning through painful mistakes. If you intend to experiment beyond basic insertion, specialized guidance can ensure you remain safe. Clear, accurate information boosts confidence and enriches the experience without risking your well-being.
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