Exploring the Best Lesbian Sex Toys: My Honest Experiences and Recommendations
If this is your first time reading my reviews, let me introduce myself. I’m a 24-year-old lesbian with an extensive collection of sex toys, especially strap-on-related products. I’ve tested and explored a wide range of lesbian sex toys, and today, I’m sharing my experiences. I’ll tell you which ones are worth every penny and which ones should have never hit the market.
For the past two and a half years, I’ve worked at Adultsmart, and during this time, I’ve learned an incredible amount about adult products. Before this, I had no idea how many different types of lesbian sex toys even existed. Honestly, I still discover new ones all the time. The adult toy industry is constantly evolving, with innovations designed to enhance pleasure and cater to all kinds of preferences.
I want to give you honest, no-BS recommendations so you can make the best choice for your needs. Whether you’re a first-time buyer or looking to expand your collection, I’ll guide you through the best options and what to avoid. My goal is to help you enjoy a more exciting, fulfilling, and pleasurable experience with the right sex toys.
Double-Ender Strap-On: A Birthday Surprise Gone Wrong
We all have to start somewhere, right? My journey into lesbian sex toys began on my 20th birthday when my first girlfriend surprised me with a trip to the Gold Coast. As we sat on the plane, we made a spontaneous decision, our first stop would be Condom Kingdom, where we’d pick out our very first strap-on together. At the time, it felt like an exciting and slightly nerve-wracking adventure.
Looking back, I have no idea what led us to choose what might have been the worst double-ended strap-on in the entire store. Maybe we were overwhelmed by choices, or maybe we just had no clue what we were doing. Either way, we ended up wasting our money on an absolute disaster.
I still remember the moment we got to the hotel, eager to unbox our new purchase. We ripped open the packaging and pulled out a jelly-textured, double-ended dildo with flimsy, stretchy straps. It looked questionable at best, and we quickly realized that it was going to be a struggle to use. Let’s just say that was the night we learned not all lesbian sex toys are created equal.
It Didn’t Look Safe: A Rookie Mistake
Within minutes of unboxing our double-ended strap-on, my girlfriend gave me a look that said it all—this thing did not seem safe. The material felt questionable, and she wasn’t willing to take any risks. Without hesitation, she made me sprint across the road to the nearest convenience store to grab some condoms to cover it. If that doesn’t scream bad purchase, I don’t know what does.
At the time, I had zero experience with lesbian sex toys, while she had already owned a few vibrators. I figured she knew what she was doing, so I let her take the lead. If she said we needed condoms as a protective layer, I wasn’t about to argue.
When I got back, she examined the toy again, clearly still skeptical. But despite the red flags, we had already spent the money, so we decided to give it a try. She handed me the strap-on and told me to put it on. I fumbled with the cheap, stretchy straps, quickly realizing that this wasn’t going to be as easy, or as sexy as we had imagined.
Here came the next problem of the night….
The next issue of the night hit fast. The straps didn’t fit me at all, no matter how much I adjusted them. They were either too tight in the wrong places or way too loose to provide any support. When my girlfriend tried to wear it, she had the same problem. The flimsy straps offered zero stability, making the whole experience awkward and frustrating.
After struggling for what felt like forever, we finally managed to get into position. That’s when we realized another major issue. The dildos felt terrible for both of us. There was no real comfort, no pleasure, just an uncomfortable and awkward mess. We kept trying, hoping that maybe it would get better, but eventually, we had to admit defeat. We set the toy aside, feeling disappointed and slightly annoyed at how much money we had wasted.
Months later, we decided to give it another try. Maybe we had been too quick to judge. Maybe with a fresh mindset, it would work better this time. With a mix of hesitation and curiosity, I pulled the strap-on out of the drawer, only to be met with pure horror. The once-purple toy had somehow turned brown.
That was it. No second chances, no hesitation. I threw the disgusting thing straight into the bin, where it belonged from the very start.
My First Experience Almost Ruined Sex Toys for Me
That double-ended strap-on was the first and only sex toy I had used before working in an adult shop. After that disaster, I genuinely never wanted to try one again. If I hadn’t started working in the industry, I doubt I would have ever given lesbian sex toys another shot. That one terrible experience was enough to put me off completely.
This is exactly why I always warn first-time buyers. If you’re thinking about getting a cheap sex toy just to test the waters, don’t do it. It might seem like a smart idea, but chances are, you’ll end up regretting it. Poor-quality materials, uncomfortable designs, and lack of durability can completely ruin the experience. Instead of exploring something exciting, you could end up swearing off sex toys forever.
You are so much better off spending a little extra on a well-made toy that you’re actually going to enjoy. A quality toy will last longer, feel better, and provide a far better experience. Trust me, that small investment can make all the difference in whether you love or hate using lesbian sex toys.
Do Your Research Before Buying a Sex Toy
Before you buy a sex toy, take the time to research brands and read reviews. Avoid cheap, low-quality products that will fall apart or, in my case, turn into literal trash after a few months. Trust me, spending a little extra on a well-made toy will save you money and frustration in the long run.
Over time, I have developed a personal checklist of five must-have features that every toy needs before I even consider buying it.
High-Quality Material – It must be made from body-safe materials like high-grade silicone, glass, or steel. No jelly, no questionable plastics, and definitely nothing that smells weird out of the box.
100% Waterproof – If it can’t handle water, it’s not worth it. Waterproof toys are easier to clean and allow for more versatility.
Rechargeable – Battery-powered toys are a pain. I don’t want to run to the store mid-session for AAAs. A good toy should have a USB-rechargeable battery that lasts.
Warranty – If a company doesn’t offer a warranty, that’s a red flag. Good brands stand by their products.
Quiet Motor – If it sounds like a power drill, it’s a no from me. A discreet toy makes for a more enjoyable experience.
Taking the time to research and choose the right toy will make all the difference in your experience. You deserve something that works well, lasts long, and brings real pleasure.
Lesbian Sex Toys: Strap Ons for Girls
I will be completely honest. I hate all types of double-ended strap-ons because, no matter which one I try, they always fail me in some way. Each one has had its own set of issues, and after several attempts, I have accepted that they just aren’t for me.
Within the first few months of working at the shop, I decided to give the Fun Factory strapless strap-on a chance. It looked promising and ticked all the right boxes. It was made of high-quality silicone, fully waterproof, rechargeable, and had great reviews. I had high hopes that this one would finally work. Unfortunately, I was wrong.
From the very first use, it was uncomfortable. Every single time I used it, I ended up with a bacterial infection because of the constant cross-contamination between me and my partner. It also refused to stay in place. My pelvic floor muscles weren’t strong enough to hold it in, which meant it would slip out at least five times during play. No matter how much I adjusted or repositioned, it just wouldn’t stay put.
This experience taught me that strapless designs aren’t for everyone. If you don’t have strong pelvic muscles, they can be more frustrating than pleasurable. While they work great for some people, for me, they were nothing but a hassle.
BUT you need to get through a storm to get to a rainbow.
You have to go through a storm to get to a rainbow, and when it comes to strap-ons, I have definitely had my fair share of storms. After too many failed experiences, I have learned that the best approach is to buy straps and dildos separately. Whenever they come as a set, something is always wrong. Either the straps are terrible, or the dildo is low quality, and I refuse to settle for either.
When I want my partner and me to both experience internal stimulation, I have found a setup that actually works. I wear my We-Vibe Sync, which provides internal and clitoral stimulation for me. Then I put on my chosen harness and attach a dildo that actually feels good. This way, both of us enjoy the experience without sacrificing comfort or quality.
I have owned the Fun Factory harness for about two years now, and it is the one that gets the most use. I also bought the Rodeo underwear harness because, visually, it was everything I wanted. Unfortunately, as a functional harness, it was a complete letdown. There was no dildo support, making it useless for anything beyond aesthetics. Now, it is just the most expensive pair of underwear I own.
Being Comfortable is Important
When I wear my Fun Factory straps, I always wear a pair of male underwear underneath. That’s what makes me feel comfortable, and I highly recommend doing the same if you prefer more masculine-style harnesses. A good harness should feel secure without being restrictive, and layering with underwear helps prevent chafing and adds extra comfort.
One of the best things about the Fun Factory harness is that it is machine washable. Cleaning it is effortless, and I never have to worry about lingering odors or buildup. It is also fully adjustable around the legs and waist, which means it still fits perfectly even if I have indulged in a few too many McNuggets that week. Comfort and convenience go hand in hand, and this harness delivers on both.
Fun Factory is one of those rare sex toy companies that consistently gets it right. Their products are made with quality materials, designed for real-world use, and built to last. Finding a reliable harness that checks all the boxes can be difficult, but this one has proven to be a solid investment.
Recommended hardness brands (masculine & feminine)
Finding the right harness can make all the difference in comfort, control, and overall experience. Whether you prefer a more masculine or feminine style, investing in a quality harness ensures better support and durability. Here are some of the best brands that offer a mix of both aesthetics and functionality.
Fun Factory Harness – Known for high-quality materials and adjustable fits, Fun Factory harnesses are durable, machine-washable, and built for comfort. They work well for various body types and provide excellent support.
Liberator Harnesses – If you want a luxurious feel, Liberator harnesses are a great choice. Made with soft, comfortable fabrics, they are designed for long sessions without discomfort. They also offer stylish designs for those who appreciate aesthetics.
CalExotics Harnesses – A great budget-friendly option, CalExotics harnesses come in various styles and sizes. They may not last as long as premium brands, but they offer a solid balance between affordability and performance.
Sportsheets Harnesses – These harnesses cater to both masculine and feminine preferences with a wide range of styles. They are well-constructed, easy to adjust, and provide a secure fit for different body types.
Recommended dildo brands – Lesbian Sex Toys
Choosing a quality dildo makes all the difference in comfort, durability, and overall experience. Here are some of the best brands that consistently deliver in terms of material, design, and pleasure.
Fun Factory – Known for high-quality silicone and innovative designs, Fun Factory dildos are body-safe, long-lasting, and come in a variety of shapes and textures.
BS Atelier – These handcrafted dildos are visually stunning and made with premium materials. They offer bold colors and unique designs without compromising on function.
Tantus – One of the most trusted names in the industry, Tantus dildos are made from medical-grade silicone and designed for both beginners and experienced users.
Evolved – A great option for those who want affordability without sacrificing quality. Evolved dildos are body-safe, soft yet firm, and offer a variety of shapes and sizes.
Many customers tell me they throw away their dildos after breaking up with different partners. If it’s an emotional decision, I get it. But if it’s purely for hygiene reasons, please don’t toss an expensive dildo unnecessarily. High-grade silicone is non-porous and can be fully sanitized by boiling it in water.
So instead of wasting a perfectly good toy, just boil away the bad vibes and store it for when you’re ready to use it again. A well-maintained dildo can last for years, making it a worthwhile investment.
How To Make A Lesbian MOAN!!
First, a quick shoutout to Stephen for all the blog ideas. I have been trying to come up with something fresh to write about besides my usual toy reviews, and this topic seemed like the perfect change.
I know it is every straight man’s dream to be taught how to make a woman orgasm by a lesbian. But let’s be real, if reading this somehow makes you feel insecure or challenges your idea of masculinity, that is a personal problem. If this post gets your ego in a twist, maybe take a step back and grow up. Because at the end of the day, pleasure should never be about proving something. It should be about truly understanding what your partner enjoys and knowing how to make them feel good.
For those who actually want to learn something, stick around. This is going to be a real, no BS guide on what actually works in the bedroom. If you think making a woman moan is all about jackhammering or mindlessly poking around, you are in for a serious wake-up call.
So, my friends get your notepads ready
Because I am about to give you all the tips and tricks on how to make your queen orgasm without a penis. I know for some men this might come as a shock to you as I have heard a lot of you think that the only way is to stick it in and go…
Well, that definitely is not the case.
Before I start though I just need to quickly clarify that I’m not going to sit here and tell you a list of all the stuff I personally like. Because we all get off to different things. What I will do though is tell you all the things you definitely shouldn’t do…
^^^ Just in case you forgot what a vagina looks like.
Oral Sex – Lesbian Sex Toys
I understand when people watch porn to teach themselves how to give a good blowjob or handjob.
Obviously, a lot of men watch porn and get off to the facial expressions the person’s making while they’re giving head and whatever it is that they’re doing with their hands or mouth. But honestly, it doesn’t matter if I am watching straight or lesbian porn, I usually skip past the scene where the girl is receiving oral because it makes me cringe!
Usually, you can see what the persons tongue is doing and the facial expressions that they’re pulling while they’re doing it. Most of the time it looks horrible.
If someone did that to me down there I would probably just laugh. I also know some tv shows and magazines tell you to do the alphabet… DON’T! Unless you really want to look like a clueless twat.
Build-up is key – Lesbian Sex Toys
Take your time and tease her, letting anticipation build naturally. Show her that you’re fully present, not rushing, and completely focused on her pleasure. Let her know that you’re there because you want to be, and you’ll stay as long as she desires.
No one should feel rushed, especially when they’re at their most vulnerable. The only exception? A steamy quickie before work or an urgent moment of passion. Otherwise, pressuring her can create tension, making it harder for her to relax and fully enjoy the experience.
A slow, teasing build-up does more than just heighten pleasure, it intensifies the final release. The longer you prolong arousal, the more powerful and satisfying the orgasm becomes. Think of it like stretching out a delicious meal, savoring every bite before reaching the most indulgent part. Take it slow, explore her body, and make every touch count.
G-spot – Lesbian Sex Toys
The G-spot is located at the top of the vaginal wall. It only takes about half a finger length to find it. Once you have inserted your fingers, do the come here motion to push up against the G-spot.
G-spot will feel like a rough bit of skin whereas the rest of the area feels quite smooth so this should make it a lot easier for you to find it.
On that note, I never want hear someone complaining about dick sizes ever again. It’s not about the size, it is about how it is used. I usually ask the woman who complain that their partners of 20+ years haven’t made them orgasm. If they’ve ever made themselves orgasm and the answer is usually no.
I’m sorry but if you don’t even know how to please yourself, then how do expect someone else to?
My favorite part about the beginning of any of my relationships has been the first few months of learning each other’s bodies. Teaching each other how we like to be pleased.
Listen and observe how your sexual partner is reacting to the different things that you are doing. Try and remember the things you did that she liked. Damn it if she tells you to go harder, faster or to continue doing that exact thing you’re doing, don’t think it’s a great idea to change it up or stop!!
Learning/teaching stage might be a little awkward at first
But at least you’ll have a laugh together.
Honestly, this ends up helping you in the long run when it comes to feeling completely comfortable with each other. This will help quiet down that little voice inside your head that likes to scream all your deepest, most painful insecurities at you while you’re trying to cum!
Extra Tips for Mind-Blowing Pleasure – Lesbian Sex Toys
Every woman’s body is different, but there are some tried-and-true ways to heighten pleasure and take things to the next level. Here’s how to make her experience unforgettable:
Labia stimulation is underrated but incredibly pleasurable. Gently massage, lick, or lightly tug on them to increase sensitivity and build anticipation. The labia have thousands of nerve endings, making them highly responsive to touch.
Urethral stimulation might not be for everyone, but some women find it deeply pleasurable. The area around the urethra is sensitive, so gentle strokes or licking can provide unexpected waves of pleasure. Always communicate and ensure she’s comfortable.
Arching her back makes G-spot access easier. A slight tilt of her hips shifts the angle, allowing deeper and more targeted stimulation. Pair this with rhythmic movements to maximize sensations.
Stimulating the G-spot and clitoris together is a game-changer. The two are connected, meaning dual stimulation can create more intense orgasms. Try a curved toy internally while using your tongue or fingers externally for mind-blowing results.
Toys aren’t just for solo play—they can make foreplay even hotter. A vibrator on her clit while you tease her elsewhere amplifies sensations and builds anticipation.
Always make her wet before penetration. Rushing can cause discomfort, while taking the time to arouse her fully ensures a smoother, more pleasurable experience. Lube, oral play, and teasing can all help.
And finally, don’t bite unless she asks. Some women love a little roughness, but others prefer a softer approach. Communicate, read her body language, and respond accordingly.
One last tip…
A blessing in disguise that most people don’t take advantage of… LUBE!
Explore Elliana’s journey at Adult Lifestyle Centres! She uncovers herself through quality product reviews and openly shares LGBTQIA experiences in Sydney.
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