How Do I Recover After A Breakup?
Breakups are a touchy subject, especially when you are under 25 and you feel like without that special person, your whole world is going to crash and burn. They took your heart, ripped it up and you over dramatize that you will never recover after a breakup. You continue to quote Tupac by telling the world through social media that “it’s my destiny to be lonely” and stay at home and eat junk or drink because it eases the pain.
Really it actually doesn’t ease the pain, it actually just fuels your self-pity and deters you from acknowledging the fact that you are in complete control of how you feel. Not saying you can’t have your sad moment and your time to mourn, but be an active mourner. You should take this crippling heartache and turn it into a motivating factor to really grab life by the reigns and take charge.
Whilst you are reading this, just know that I am in a loving and healthy relationship which took me 5 years to manifest. However, when the chips were down and all I wanted was salsa, I told myself that the only way that I will get over the heartache was going through was to stick to a few simple rules. These rules not only helped me find the love of my life, but they made me. They made me a much stronger, wittier, healthier, cunning, and confident member of society.
True Love Will Come To You
Here’s the thing, everyone is looking for love but the ones who find it are the ones who aren’t searching for it. The ones who are so engulfed with their own personal development, self love and growth. They are focused on going out and having fun, not going out and finding love or getting laid. If you follow these very simple habits and tips that I am going to forcefully give you below, not only will your life improve dramatically but the chances of you bouncing back and finding love or even just fun and companionship will sky rocket.
Let’s get you on a bigger comeback then Tyga’s breakup with Kylie. I mean this man survived what no man before him has… a Kardashian breakup.
1. MIND OVER EVERYTHING.
The biggest thing to do is accept the fact that the relationship is now in the past. Don’t hold any resentment, negative feelings or hurt towards it. There is no point holding onto something that you can no longer control, this just drains your emotional energy and does nothing for you. Instead, thank the universe for allowing you to have the time and the fun moments with that person (if it was toxic, thank the universe for removing that person from your life).
Tell yourself that you are no longer going to hold onto any resentment, instead you choose to have a growth mindset, be grateful for every aspect of life (including the bad) and you welcome all positives to flow abundantly into your life.
2. PLAN YOUR REINVENTION.
Sometimes when your down in the dumps and all you can think about the past, the best thing to do is to look forward and think about your future. Take the time to breath, sit down and start re-writing your goals for your work life, fitness and well-being and relationships. Plot out who you want to be in the next year and what you need to do to become that person.
Break your goals into smaller milestones to make them more achievable and track your progress regularly. Create a vision board or write affirmations to keep yourself inspired and focused. Reflect on your strengths and identify areas where you can improve. Seek advice from mentors, friends, or online resources to guide your reinvention process. Reward yourself for small victories along the way to stay motivated. Reinvention is a journey of self-discovery, so embrace the process with patience and dedication. Every small step brings you closer to becoming the person you aspire to be.
3. PRIORITIZE YOUR APPEARANCE.
Go and get a haircut, sign up at the gym, chuck out all your junk in the pantry and go and get some new clothes. You can trick your mind into thinking your in a more confident place by dressing and feeling the part. You’ll be walking down the street in 6 months and your ex will turn around and say “Oh fuck you look good”.
Enhancing your appearance doesn’t just boost your confidence—it also improves your mental well-being. Self-care sends a powerful message to yourself that you are worth the effort. Invest in skincare, experiment with a new style, or upgrade your wardrobe with timeless pieces.
Feeling good about how you look can positively affect how you carry yourself and interact with others. Remember, this isn’t about impressing anyone else but about embracing the best version of yourself. Confidence is contagious, and prioritizing your appearance can lead to better opportunities in all aspects of life, from personal relationships to professional endeavors.
4. BUILD FRIENDSHIPS THAT POSITIVELY AFFECT YOU.
You are who you hang out with. If you hang out with bums, you’ll become a bum. If you hang out with fun, enthusiastic and optimistic people, you will most likely become like them. This is your support system. You want to be around people that push you and motivate you to be better, not drag you down to the dumps.
5. DON’T STALK THEIR OR THEIR FRIENDS SOCIAL MEDIA OR BAD MOUTH THEM!
This is a big one. You don’t want to hold onto negative thoughts and constantly thinking if they have moved on or not. Refer back to point 1. Keep your mind positive and focused on yourself. You will soon forget about them because you are so engulfed in your own growth. No one likes the person who constantly bad mouths their ex or talks down of them. Don’t speak about them all.
6. GO FULL THROTTLE WITH LIFE.
Don’t hold back on going out. Focus on chasing the job you want or the career path. Don’t leave any juice in the tank. Go outside of your comfort zone and try things that you normally wouldn’t… chicken feet, sashimi, Korean food, that new restaurant down the road, anal, you know all the crazy stuff!
7. Go TO THE GYM!
This one is pretty simple, even 3 workouts a week will do wonders for you life.
It’s not just about lifting weights—fitness is about finding activities you genuinely enjoy and benefit from. Whether it’s yoga, cardio, group classes, or sports, the gym offers endless opportunities to explore your interests. Just three workouts a week can transform your mental and physical health.
Yoga improves flexibility and reduces stress, while cardio strengthens your heart and endurance. Sports add a fun, social element to your fitness journey. Enjoying your workout makes it easier to stay consistent and motivated. Rebuild your body, mind, and confidence by choosing activities that inspire you—your future self will thank you!
Use This Information To Overcome And Improve!
By using these simple 7 tips, you’ll be on your way to getting over your break up in no time!
Breakups are tough, but they’re also an opportunity to redefine your life. Trust me, you have the power to turn heartache into a fresh start. Focus on self-improvement, build strong friendships, and leave resentment behind. Reinvent yourself with new goals, hit the gym, and surround yourself with positivity. Don’t waste energy stalking your ex—invest that time in your growth. Life’s too short to stay stuck. With these steps, you’ll bounce back stronger, more confident, and ready for whatever comes next. Remember, your best days are ahead—embrace them fully.
AJ is a consultant at the Oh Zone Stores and is available to help with your adult needs.
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