I recently read an article about a young lad who was most confused. He had what he described as a bad case of Sexual Perversion. This was because he discovered that his slightly older and more experienced girlfriend enjoyed tying him up to a chair. Using various tools and toys to either torture him, tease or tantalise.
Sexual Perversion
He was confused because he enjoyed it, but also because he wasn’t sure if it counted as sex. Confusion existed because he was conflicted, he enjoyed the play, but he felt that it was perverted, dirty, weird. In some ways it was going to change him and how he experienced pleasure.
The idea of sex is something that confuses a lot of people. If you cross-interview sections of the population and ask them what do people consider to be sex, you’ll get a myriad of different answers and opinions. These could range from penetrative sex, PiV sex, oral stimulation, Over the Sweater action, Bondage play and scenes and everything in between. Some people rationalize their sex life by insisting that anal intercourse is not sex. Lkewise there are many people that don’t necessarily view a human pet play scene as a form of sex. This article is not necessarily designed to settle that debate, to do so would be limiting, and would be detrimental to how some people view the idea of sex.
What Do People Actually Consider As Sex
Regardless of whether you view the lads question as sex or sexual play, It is concerning to hear him suggest that he was worried that the enjoyment of this type of play was going to change him, or that he saw it as perverted. We could assume that he has had a sheltered upbringing. Since his girlfriend was slightly older than him that she was trying to broaden his horizons, and introduce forms of play that she enjoyed.
Firstly, let’s consider the idea of sexual perversion; which a quick google search reveals that the definition is;
‘A sexual behaviour that is considered abnormal and unacceptable.’
It is therefore safe to assume that perversion is an individual opinion. Why? Because people, as demonstrated above, have varying degrees of sexual practices, experiences, likes and dislikes. An individual who thinks that anything other than Penis In Vagina play is abnormal is certainly going to have a mini heart attack. If they were to witness a BDSM Tit torture scene with no sexual penetration it may be different.
The thing is that sexual behaviour is so broad and whilst I personally believe that sexual behaviour should not be considered abnormal. However if it is deliberately and without thought places someone in danger, involves animals or children, or does not involve consent as in rape it should be. Many others will not see it as that. In other words, perversion is generally going to be considered when the sexual play is deemed as outside the personal comfort boundaries of the person considering it. The reason why our young lad is confused is because it is clear that it is outside his normal boundaries, however, he enjoys it.
Is It Right To Enjoy Sexual Behavious Outside of the Norm
It could be argued that he enjoys the relinquishing of control, that he enjoys the focus being on him and that his girlfriend enjoys that shift in focus. It could be that he enjoys the challenge. Regardless of what specifically it is about this type of play that he enjoys. It is his journey and whilst he seems conflicted now. I can guarantee that his sexual pleasure will diminish his conflict. He will chase what he enjoys. It is a pivotal moment in his sexual development.
So what’s the point? My point is that it is can be potentially dangerous and limiting to consider forms of sexual play as perverse. It is limiting in the way that if you view perverse as anything outside your normal boundaries then you in all probability won’t challenge them. Engaging in play that pushes your boundaries is not perverse, it’s not damaging. The only thing it’ll change is your sexual play as you seek new forms of pleasure.
In a way it’s broadening, you’ll find greater satisfaction both within sexual pleasure but also within life as it will balance things out. It’ll help you gain an understanding of what makes you, you. It will exemplify both your individuality and cause you to be more in tune with yourself and your desires. Sexual play is an outlet of ourselves, and denying what gives you pleasure out of fear of having others think it is perverse, This will cause more disruption to your individuality than you think.
Secret Lives Of Celebrities & Their Fetishes
I recently wrote an article about golden shower fetish I was interested to learn about golden showers mainly because of our current world leader’s like donal tump alleged liking for them. When I mentioned this to a friend she sent me a really interesting link regarding another very famous historical leader’s penchant for unusual sexual practices. In turn that got me wondering about what other little fetishes our most famous faces might have. So without further ado, I will let you all into some of their sexual secrets.
First off, the historical leader I am referring to is Hitler who liked truly disgusting sexual fetish, He was apparently into ‘coprophilia,’or ‘scatophilia’ as it is sometimes known. For those still in the dark, that’s poo to you and me. Yes, Hitler liked to be pooped on. His niece committed suicide because he wanted her involved in it too. It all sounds very farfetched but the psychology behind it is really quite interesting.
Even old Mozart wrote a song about arse licking. Really he did, google it!
Another historical figures who liked stuff that comes out of bums was the author James Joyce. He loved it when his wife left brown stains on her knickers and had a particular fondness for farts. He even wrote about them in love letters:
“You had an arse full of farts that night, darling, and I ****** them out of you, big fat fellows, long windy ones, quick little merry cracks and a lot of tiny little naughty farties ending in a long gush from your hole” James Joyce, 8 December 1909
Charlie Chaplins Young Girl Fetish
Then there was Charlie Chaplin who fucked young girls. He was married 3 times to girls in their young teens. He also made young actresses strip naked while he threw custard pies at them.
More recently another deceased old pervert, Chuck Berry had his musical legacy tainted by the discovery of secret cameras he’d had installed in a restaurant he owned in LA. He filmed his lady customers go to the toilet. They then unearthed hundreds of tape recordings of women undressed and went to the bathroom. All these women were filmed without their knowledge. You will be pleased to know, the victims successfully sued Chuck Berry for a lot of money.
Talking of tape recordings, Russel Brand, a self-confessed lover of anything sexual, shocked Katy Perry. I would have thought she was pretty open minded but she wasn’t pleased when she found hundreds of DVDs containing self-filmed recordings of Russel “Air fucking”. Yes! It’s a thing. He loves it apparently. It is the sex version of playing an air guitar and there are even championships held for it.
Angelina Joly Loves Blood
There are a couple of other celebrities that are pretty well known for their sexual perversions. Angelina Jolie when she isn’t busy foraging about in deserts looking for children to adopt, is known to be into ‘hematolagnia‘. That is someone with an abnormal love of blood. It is a fetish that often goes hand in hand with BDSM practises and she likes those too. Openly admitting to liking bondage play, she is also known to have used knives with Billy Bob Thornton. They both cut each other and licked the blood. They kept each other’s blood in vials around their necks.’
A love for surrendering and being tied up with silk scarves is also shared by Eva Longoria. BORING! A far more exciting celebrity is James Franco who absolutely loves experimenting in BDSM scenes . James Franco deals with Kink.com and the famous Armoury who do hard-core operations. Then there is Penn, from the magic act Penn and Teller. Penn has is own dungeon! I saw it in an episode of Cribs once.
Quinten Tarantino Loves Feet
The most popular fetish among the rich and famous today, appears to be feet. Hollywood loves feet. Quentin Tarantino is the most well-known fan of the foot. He likes licking them whilst masturbating. Yuck, thank god I have feet like teen wolf! He even makes a feature of them sneakily in films. When I found that out, I immediately remembered exactly what Uma Thurman’s feet looked like in Pulp fiction!
I have read the same which can be said of a scene in from Dusk til Dawn with Salma Hayek. He reportedly stares at actress’s feet on movie sets. Uma Thurman even toasted him out of her stiletto once at an award ceremony, making him drink from it. Christian Slater likes toe sucking, so does Jack Black. Even Elvis’s foot fetish has been well documented.
Nick Lachley Wears Womens Clothes
While not exactly a foot fetishist, Nick Lachey, loved to wear women’s shoes and adored his then wife Jessica Simpson’s wardrobe full of them.
Wearing women’s clothing is something Johnny Depp has admitted to enjoying and he is free to borrow mine any time he likes. Well maybe 10 years ago, when he was young and beautiful.
From licking toes to licking arm pits. Licking arm pits is a fetish with its own special name ‘Maschalagnia’. Actor Robert Pattison loves to do it and Kristin Stewart loves it being done to her. Maschilagnaists loves the smell and feel of armpits, some choosing to go to second base and actually fuck the things! Having sex with an arm pit name is called ‘Axilism” but I don’t know whether this famous couple do that.
Christina Aguilera Love Dressing In Latex
Just a couple of others before I wrap this up, Christina Aguilera loves Latex, but we knew that anyway. Donald Trump loves a golden shower or urolagnia, to give it its correct name. Even good boy, clean cut Ricky Martin (of Latino pop star fame…not Oh zone fame) loves to piss on women in the shower, I guess that is clean cut version of Urolagnia though really.
I thought I would end up on a story from the mid-80s that I vaguely remember, where a certain Richard Gere. He was admitted to an LA hospital in the middle of the night to have his pet Hamster Titus removed from his Anus. Yes, there is even a name for that too, for people who have a penchant for putting small furry animals up their bums, it’s called ‘gerbilling”.
I am afraid I can neither guarantee the absolute truth of any of the above nor confirm that no animals were harmed in the writing of it.
Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres
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