You are gay and you have a boyfriend – have you ever thought That Penis Is Tooo BIG For My Bottom?
You are together and have feelings for each other deeply while feeling you are on your way to love. You experience just one problem though. He has a big thick dick.
Tooo BIG For My Bottom – It Really Is
Giving him oral sex isn’t a problem but it’s just not going inside of you. This can cause pressure on the relationship as you both experience sexual frustration. That’s not to say you’re not having sex. Just, you’re not having all of it.
You’ve tried the various relaxation techniques.
You’ve tried lubricant.
You’ve tried different sex positions
It’s still not happening. Well, here’s the deal!
Even though you think you’re relaxed you might not be. You might actually be quite fearful of the size of it and you might unconsciously find it intimidating to deal with. So what else can you do to make it easier?
With Practice and Care You Can Take A Big Penis
Yes, it can certainly need a little care and practice to take a big penis inside. Especially if you haven’t had one for a while. One great way to practice and get back into ‘shape’ is to take incrementally sized anal toys. Slowly stretch and relax your muscles again.
Lube up the toy, relax a little and try again. If you’re feeling pain that’s a sign you could be causing damage.
By slowly increasing the size of the toy you can take smaller steps as opposed to simply going from 1 to a hundred, with nothing in between. You can buy sex toys in packets of three, the sex toy will have a small, medium and large size. So your body can get used of the size differences during foreplay and over the long term use of the products.
Are You Interested In Finding Out About Numbing Sprays?
There are several numbing sprays on the market and whilst I do not normally recommend them – they can sometimes be useful. I usually do not recommend them, excepting in rare cases, because pain is a symptom. It is a reflection of when things aren’t going well. The bodies natural reflex to protect itself.
By taking away that ‘pain’ you could be unknowingly doing damage to yourself. Numbing sprays are commonly used to help assist in this problem. It is a good idea to go the same speed of sexual intercourse as before you used the numbing spray.
Practice Will Make Perfect – Get Rid Of Performance Jitters
With your dildo or anal tool, use loads of lube and practice taking the big penis or dildo inside in the way that is right for you. This means both in terms of technique and in terms of your opening up and relaxing physically and mentally. Lubrication will make you feel exited, it will make foreplay that much easier.
If you are having a fun time time without any pain, lube will make penetration easier, when you are ready. A technique that usually works is to push slightly with your anus against the dildo, or penis. Dstract yourself with some quality gay porn. That way, your anus will open up.
Of course, you will need to know you’re clean inside when you do this. Douching can help with this, but may not be necessary. Experiment with how you sit, kneel, squat or stand as well as you might find some ways are easier than others.
Remind yourself, with the dildo, about what it is like being a bottom when having sex. Let your self go with the old feelings and get ready to enjoy them again. You might even want to do this with your partner there.
He might feel a bit weird at the start of using the dildo on you. When you’re loosened up you can start to have sex without the feeling that he’s hurting you. Basically, it’s not a question of forcing your anus to open out, more of allowing yourself the right frame of mind and using the right techniques.
This will include the gay sex positions which allow you to open up most fully. Some say a deep missionary is best for this, while others prefer a doggy style position, with the ass really angled up from the lower back. So, by following these simple tips you and every gay man can now experience how great anal sex is.
Does Anal Sex hurt you? Say no more! We’ve got must-try Hacks.
‘Anal is amazing; I like it up the butt’ – said a few.
We often hear couples disagreeing over anal sex. They find it pleasurable for men & unpleasant for women,
You always have two types of opinions for anal sex – Yes from the people who like it. No from the ones who dislike it. Someone will rarely share the middle ground.
Do you know not all people have experienced Anal Sex?
First timers will say ‘it hurts.’
It’s all because of the taboo we’ve believed for centuries. What reality is – Anal sex is quite common & its orgasm rates are quite higher when anal play is your legit erotic repertoire.
A glance at Anal Sex with an Example
Let’s understand this scenario in someone’s opinion that’s quite weird yet factual:
Have you ever felt the need to poop, and you’re in a public place,?
There’s no place for you to go, so you have to wait, and you’re really, really uncomfortable. Like, you almost don’t even want to breathe or sneeze because you’re afraid of what might happen. You are just this huge ball of unhappiness and tension. You can’t enjoy anything in the world, and you can’t concentrate.
Oh! Don’t feel pity.
By the time you finish this read, you’ll see that anal sex can be enjoyable. It need not always be bad, weird, or dirty at all. We’re sharing some incredible hacks for you to have a look & enhance your sex life.
For having healthy and pleasurable sexual activity.
8 Hacks to Feel More Pleasure & Less Pain with Anal Sex
Take it slow
People getting into anal sex for the first time are likely to feel more uncomfortable than those who’ve been banged a couple of times. Let’s be frank here. You don’t need to choke it all in at once.
Talk with your partner and tell them that you know they’re quite uncomfortable. So should be your actions like your dialogue. Know your breathing & moments of anxiety. Also, make your partner easy by inserting that pinky finger before sliding your anal sex toy or bigger object.
A gradual size increase is all you need for a less painful anal experience.
Be a Solo Experimenter
You’re dreaming of anal sex day & night with your partner. How about giving a try on yourself? No, we aren’t talking about putting something hard in your hole. But, you can always try touching your butt just like you would do with your partner.
Try it with lubricants on your hands & feel the sensations. This is how you can make it better & better. When you’re finally up for anal play, you’ve got some magic tricks to make her feel heaven with your butt-touch moves.
Isn’t it erotic?
Don’t think about Penetration, you’ve got more to feel
Sex, be it Anal or vaginal, it’s beyond putting your tool in & penetrating. You’ve got many untapped aspects to discover. Sometimes, all you do is making her feel like she wants you by touching, sucking, kissing, giving massages, and making love to her body.
Once you take anal penetration off the menu, you’ll enjoy her thoroughly. It’s an amazing sex therapy that subtracts anal sex stress & adds pleasure to make things a lot better.
Enjoy everything. Anal sex is more than an ass hole.
Focusing too much on her butt & ass hole rubbing can spoil things & bring a painful end. Do it as you would do with romance & excitement. Get indulged in sizzling foreplay & allow both of you to feel the sensations you’ve been carrying within.
Double your pleasure by servicing her clitoris & ass hole together with both your hands & feel the extreme joy. Also, use your cock for producing arousal patterns & get hornier.
That’s incredible!
Learn how it feels in there
Don’t be a dumbass who just wants to stroke the penis in her ass hole. Understand how it works & what does it make her feel. The most exciting thing about anal sex is almost all age people can enjoy it, regardless of gender.
We all have butts! When we know how things work, it helps us be less apprehensive about it — and breathing and relaxing are major hacks when it comes to anal sex.
Get some toys for Anal play
You’ve read almost all the major hacks for anal sex & you’re here. It’s time to upgrade your anal play like a pro with some toys. It’s great to start enjoying the penetration with sex toys & make yourself comfortable to the penis later. Grab the anal trainer kit with different penis sizes.
Begin with the smallest one & hold it completely to feel how your body responds to it. Also, let your muscles relax & get familiar with the toys before you get the hard cock in.
Try something different than Doggy style
When it comes to anal sex, it doesn’t have to be Doggy-style always! The spooning position & missionary position are the hottest favorites for anal sex. Pick the desired position depending on the penetration depth you want to feel. Get deeper in her hole & make her want more with such alternate positions as awesome as Doggy style.
Shelve Penetration
Get a new course for your sexual menu with shelve penetration techniques. It’s nothing but holding off for as long as you can until you choke her like a pro. Do this at the point when your arousal is at its peak.
Once you’re holding your erection, keep practicing your tried-and-tested anal techniques & have extended fun.
The Takeaway
As discussed above, anal sex isn’t for everyone. Some enjoy it like heaven while some hate it like hell, but if you enjoy it, then this read must be useful.
Try these hacks & tell us what you think about it!
That’s all, folks!
Meet PJ Weir, former Gay Exchange stalwart and gay rights advocate. Now caring for his mother in Queensland, he reflects on a decade of LGBTQ+ activism.
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