Jaiden Lillith is a gentleman, lady, escort, professional Dom/me, educator and a Shibari artist. Jaiden Lillith explores both feminine and masculine sexual identities, embodying Master Jaiden and Mistress Lillith. They embrace open-mindedness and a sex-positive outlook, delighting in exploring diverse facets of sexuality and emphasising meaningful connections.
Temple 22 in Sydney or Fetish House is where Jaiden can be found in Melbourne – available for private sessions, lessons, and public performances.
Jaiden, a sadist, derives pleasure from inflicting pain and humiliation, creating in-depth, seductive, subtle, theatrical, and exotic experiences.
Jaiden Lillith exercises complete control, drawing from years of experience and training with top figures in the BDSM community. Professional business is conducted with absolute discretion.
VIP Interview With Jaiden Lillith – Escort & BDSM Professional
In this VIP interview, Jaiden Lillith discusses inspirations, gender fluidity, BDSM play, shibari, and sexual lifestyles exploration.
Tell me about yourself
My name is Jaiden Lillith, I am an escort, BDSM professional and lifestyle switch, kink educator, Shibari performer and musician.
What inspired you to become a professional BDSM practitioner, performer and educator?
I’m inspired to connect deeply with others through my music, art, and performances, creating unique intimate experiences and meaningful journeys. I’m a passionate, sensual individual who enjoys pushing boundaries and exploring the depths of human psychology and desire. Through sex work and BDSM, I merge my passions, deeply impacting and exploring individuals’ minds and bodies intimately.
In terms of education I love imparting knowledge to people and helping them on their journeys. Witnessing others grasp knowledge and excel brings me profound satisfaction; their successes resonate as my own. I also feel like I’m corrupting the world, which makes me happy, haha!
What inspires you?
Everything! Engaging with fellow practitioners, sharing experiences, and witnessing their work and play inspire me daily.
“Nothing is true, everything is permitted.”
I encountered this concept in William S. Burroughs’ “Naked Lunch,” a work that deeply inspires me with its surrealism and evocative language. I found this idea in William S. Burroughs’ “Naked Lunch,” which deeply inspires me with its surrealism and language. It inspired me to explore alternative forms of existence, connection, sexuality, and unconventional thinking, challenging societal norms.
I aim to bring the same transcendent feeling found in great art and dynamic music to my sessions. Jung and Nietzsche’s writings on the subconscious and power dynamics deeply influence my philosophies and lend meaning to my work. There is an amazing quote from Dune by Frank Herbert which is something that I think of often.
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
Submission entails bravery. I deeply respect and empathise with those who choose it, honouring their trust, even in extreme sessions.
What is it like being gender fluid mistress and master?
As Mistress Lillith, Master Jaiden, or Sai Jaiden Lillith, I embody different energies and headspaces, drawing on varying degrees of feminine and masculine traits authentically.
Many ancient cultures included individuals outside gender norms in spiritual roles, a tradition I feel connected to. As an outsider, I’m liberated from societal constraints imposed by binary identities, though it can be isolating.
How does being Gender Fluid benefit affect your BDSM practices?
It provides diverse interactions and experiences, expanding my play partner and client base beyond conventional bounds. Experiencing submission and dominance in varied masculine and feminine roles, I grasp energy dynamics in diverse configurations.
I serve feminization clients who prefer interactions with a non-CIS presenting male, offering a unique experience. They select me because they recognize my experiential understanding, a depth not common among practitioners. Some clients seek a less hyper-masculine dynamic, finding allure in a biological male embodying feminine traits. Gender-fluid or non-cis individuals often feel a deep connection and rapport with me.
In play, my stance, affect, voice, bearing, touch, and manner of infliction vary between selves. I don’t consciously perform small actions; embodying personas naturally alters my approach.
Practically, it means maintaining at least two or three separate wardrobes of clothing.
How did you gain skills for BDSM, shibari and kink play?
I’m an intuitive person and I pick things up very quickly. Believing in firsthand experiences, I’ve enjoyed the power of submission, offering valuable insights into engagement choices. Play parties, learning with people and growing with them personally, on the job experience, training sessions and skill exchanges with other BDSM professionals.
Being an empath, I’m very sensitive to the emotions of others and this helps me to create connective sessions and to keep things safe. I began shibari as a rope bottom, and experiencing the intoxication of subspace was crucial to me in understanding the potential of the rope, and having found that space I love leading others into it and enjoying the energies from the top side of things. I was very lucky to have begun my rope journey with an incredible female rigger, whose style greatly influenced and still influences my shibari.
Workshops at Sydney Rope Dojo, Studio Kink, and intensive sessions with international shibari experts like Nawashi Kanna and Osada Steve accelerated my shibari skills. I’ve also been lucky to have been friends with, worked with and have drawn on the knowledge of some of the great professional and lifestyle dominants in our local scene such as Tallula Darling, Artemisia DeVine, Penelope Dreadful, Domina V and Mistress Tokyo. There have also been a lot of transferrable mental skills from creative aspects such as being a performer and a musician and composer in terms of creating and holding a space.
I am always learning, always growing.
What are your favourite memories from working as a BDSM practitioner?
My best memories as a BDSM practitioner are those sessions which take people deep, and leave them (and me) strongly affected. Being with them laughing, crying, holding them, that sense of aftermath is beautiful. I comforted a man moved to tears by his experience, stroking his head as he thanked me.
Those so affected by the rope that they just lay in my lap smiling for a good long while after the session ended. A man’s face, deeply moved, upon seeing his feminized reflection in the mirror, was a beautiful moment. A hardcore interrogation session where all of my electro toys were and a large number of medical implements were used, and a person who embraced their role with gusto so that we had an amazingly fun experience together.
An interrogation/sexual training/shibari session where the person who entered the room shy and feeling guilt about their kinks was by the end gleefully lost in abandon. All these moments and more are some of my most treasured memories.
Do you have any performance highlights?
Performance highlights would be performing at OzKinkFest – it was an amazing experience to be alongside such great performers and artists like Avalon, Mistress Tokyo and more. I also pushed myself and my rope bottom to the limits during the performance, which is always an intoxicating feeling.
I think the workshops at OzKinkFest have to be the highlight of my educational career so far, especially the Genitorture workshop. It was delightful running through free flowing mini sessions, and the class cheering on as I made my workshop partner electrocute herself on the anus by making her press the button of the shock device was great! That also ranks as one of her favourite memories, by the way.
What do you find satisfying about being in sex work and being a professional dominant?
In both, it is sharing the moments of vulnerability and making a deep connection with them. Being a professional dominant allows me to explore the inner workings of people. It is a privilege having them open up to me, finding their personal blueprints and the road to their desires, the frisson between what they think they need and what they actually need.
Finding that moment of vulnerability, seeing the look of surrender and the intensity of the sensations and feelings, the satisfaction of unlocking someone’s authentic self and helping them find that moment of release. Feeling like I’ve helped someone overcome their own barriers.
Being able to witness and hold people in these incredibly cathartic moments, walking them through these intense experiences, getting to unleash my sadist, parts of myself which could manifest in negative ways but within these contexts are positive is incredibly liberating and affirming.
You are known for your shibari work, what do you find satisfying about shibari?
I love the ropes! They provide a tool of sensual/sadistic/sexual connection that is so versatile. You can wrap someone entirely, embracing their entire being with the ropes. It’s something that you can put together in so many different ways, from the simplest floor ties to the most complex suspensions – I love being able to free form with the rope, being able to flow with them. There is something very personal to me about layering rope, about taking someone deeper and deeper into bondage. With rope I can control an entire body, what it feels, how it looks, what shapes it is making. I am always holding them. It is wonderful and intoxicating.
What have you found that people need to do to be happy with their sexual lifestyles and sexuality?
I think people definitely need to be open minded and open hearted, being open to new experiences is one of the best ways to grow as a person. Being honest and authentic with yourself and others – if something doesn’t cause harm to another person, or irrecoverable harm to yourself then I believe that exploring both sexual/kink worlds and your own sexuality is a great way to be happy and comfortable in your own skin.
There is nothing more damaging than hiding a part of yourself, and feeling alone and isolated with that feeling. There is nothing more liberating than being authentically true to yourself, and finding those who not only accept but revel in the same. Society has a way of imposing norms and expectations that don’t always line up with the true self that people are.
Within this freedom though, boundaries become ever more important – finding and standing by what feels ok to you and what feels like it is having a negative impact on your wellbeing, and being able to communicate this clearly and honestly – and respecting those boundaries and needs in others.
An awareness that there are behaviours and ways of thinking which are unacceptable and unhealthy in the everyday world which can be extremely hot and liberating in the kink/sexual world – when it is in a defined boundary and space. Things like consensual non-consent, sexism, role play scenarios can all be deliciously fun and even healing in some situations. It’s only when something imposes negative harm on another that it becomes a problem that you need to address and work through.
What services do you provide?
So many! Haha, my most popular ones would have to be shibari, forced-bi, feminisation, role play, CBT/Genitorture, electroplay, sexual training, and cuckolding.
Visiting my website Fields of Lillith which provides a comprehensive list of such.
I also am a full service escort, providing companionship and intimacies of all kinds from conversation, cuddles, massages to sex.
Where can people find you?
I mainly session through Temple 22, although I do work with other independent workers for doubles sessions like cuckolding, as well as outcalls. I do travel to QLD and VIC as well – in Melbourne I tend to session from Fetish House.
Is there any questions or information you would like to add?
Jaiden Lillith is also an event organiser and promoter for the Sanctuary BDSM club in Sydney, as well as the vocalist and co-writer for the Industrial Electronic band Z(Cluster)
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