Masturbation was a stigma when you were a little kid but now you have got to know your body and the instints coming from deep inside. Let’s face it all men want to last that little bit longer and find ways to delay ejaculation.
So you masturbated many times behind the closed doors with the fear of getting caught. All you wanted was to reach climax before being seen.
How could you have possibly known that it would come back to you as premature ejaculation in the future?
Premature Ejaculation is Common
Joking aside, according to research, 20-30 % of men experience premature ejaculation which is basically defined as “The lack of control over ejaculation”.
But it is pretty normal to lose control over ejaculation if it happens occasionally like for the first time you have sex or if you haven’t ejaculated for a long time.
What I’m talking about is to orgasm frequently. Or sooner than you would like which means that you may ejaculate during foreplay or as soon as you insert your penis.
A study revealed that whilst the average time to ejaculate is around 7 minutes, this value decreases to 1.5 minutes for men with premature ejaculation.
What Causes Premature Ejaculation?
Depression or anxiety, expecting failure, problems within relationship, stress, feeling anxious about rejection by the partner can be seen as psychological reasons for premature ejaculation.
It was thought to be mainly psychological in the past. But now it is said that a chemical imbalance in the brain also contributes to premature ejaculation.
And, of course, there are some solutions to premature ejaculation like doing maths problems during sex to distract you.
Ways to Delay Ejaculation
1. Masters & Johnson
There is a technique called Masters and Johnson. You simply squeeze your shaft when you feel like you are close to climax to delay it. It seems like a useful technique but it may be hard to perform it during sex though.
2. Delay Gels & Sprays
You can reduce penile stimulation especially around frenulum by using some delay gels/sprays or using lubricants formulated with desensitizing ingredients.
But you should wear a condom in either way just to prevent the desensitize from transferring to your partner. Using condom also contributes to prolonging your ejaculation by the way.
3. Kegel Exercises
So, Kegel exercise is another way to improve your ability to delay your ejaculation.
It basically helps you strengthen your pelvic muscles to have better control. Simply, you can contract your muscles tightly and hold for 10 seconds, repeat 10 times, 3 times in a day.
A study indicates that people who complete Kegel exercise over a certain period of time become able to increase their ejaculation to over 2 minutes from half a minute.
4. Viagra & Herbal Pills
You can also use some pills to overcome your problems which are viagra or herbal pills equivalent to it. Also most of the antidepressant called “Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitors” have side effects like retarding your ejaculation.
But of course you need to use that pill over a time period unlike the others which are taken prior to the sexual intercourse.
5. Cock Rings
Using cock rings to restrict the blood flow out of the erect penis and restricting semen spurting out.
6th Way to Delay Ejaculation
I’ve mentioned 5 different ways to delay your ejaculation. Here is the 6th way which is the most effective and permanent method to train your dragon, The Stamina Training Unit by Fleshlight.
We all know that there is only one thing coming to our minds when we talk about masturbators which is Fleshlight.
Fleshlight designed a special masturbator to make you longer lasting.
- It consists of a sturdy case and a sleeve.
- The case is golden this time unlike the other black Fleshlight cases.
- Material of the sleeve is the mixture of medical grade, phthalate free polymers.
- Its length is 10 inches, the maximum penis length that can fit perfectly is 9 inches though.
- Weighs around 700g which is pretty light.
I wanted to emphasis this because people who have no idea how perfect thsi product it. Generally its dimensions and weight are seen as a big problem but it is not that bad, believe me.
What Makes this STU So Special?
There are different shapes at the entrance like pussy, mouth, butt which is a regular feature for all Fleshlights.
Well, what makes the STU so special?
There are tiny skin balls a.k.a. speed bumps inside the sleeve and they massage your penis constantly with every thrust of you. Also its very tight nature challenges you to extend your masturbation time which is exactly what we are looking for.
Sorry guys, but no men can last longer than 10 minutes with this toy.
If you achieve it, I assure you, you can easily double your time in real life.
Of course, you should follow a certain path to train yourself.
Training with the STU
At the beginning, start with light strokes and stop when you feel close to ejaculation then keep thrusting.
Once you get used to your path, try to masturbate continuously without any break. Plenty of lubricant (you know that it must be water-based) helps you to have less friction on your penis. This is so that you will get stimulated moderately.
Preferably, you can adjust the tightness of the lid at the bottom if you want to get additional suction/vacuum in the sleeve.
After a short period both you and your partner will notice the difference in bed for sure.
It is kind of classical conditioning that doesn’t make you Pavlov’s dog but you are more likely to be a stallion.
Cleaning and Care
- Feel free to clean the inner sleeve under running water with mild soap after each use
- Turn inside out and pat dry.
- Don’t rub any cloth or tissue as you don’t want to see any lint on it.
- Use its powder and store carefully so that you can use your toy for years.
- The STU is also available as a value pack on the market including lubricant, powder, toy cleaner, and shower mount which is strongly recommended for hands-free sessions.
C’mon guys isn’t it time to hold the reins guys!
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“Are you finished already?”
You could just see the disappointment in her face. Her whole body language changed.
5 minutes ago I could not get her to be quiet whilst my fingers were wondering around her soft skin. Her chest raising and then crashing down hard like waves hitting a cliffs edge as she gasped with pleasure.
And her heart racing as it shot blood to all her erogenous zones.
In just 2 minutes of inserting myself inside of her, I had unloaded.
Carly had been my girlfriend for 2 years now and I thought she was used to it but this time I think it just pushed us both over the edge.
My first time was exactly the same. Except I lied when I had cum and said that I had a cramp to cover up that I blew prematurely.
She believed me the first time.
But started to put the pieces together every time we had sex until she just came out and told me that she understands that I always prematurely ejaculate.
That was a sad moment for me
Because I had to accept it myself and not just think it was because I had a beautiful girlfriend. I had searched up on the internet things I could do to last longer so at least Carly can get some more pleasure while we have sex.
All the websites just pushed me onto ridiculously priced scams and methods to make you “last longer”, or “go all night”.
I got sick of searching for ways to try better the situation and I thought it was like your blood type, you’re born with it and have it until you die.
After a couple weeks I gave up all hope on lasting longer in bed
And I just came to terms that I have to make the most out of the 2 minutes of sex.
A few weeks later, I thought to myself that I would get Carly a cheeky sex toy, to give her something to look forward to when we have sex.
I went into an adult store called Adultsmart and it not what I had expected at all. When I walked up the stairs I was expecting to be greeted by a sleazy worker, in a dingy dark store that hadn’t been cleaned in 5 months.
I was wrong. When I walked up the stairs I was greeted straight away by a young guy.
“How are you mate” he said.
I didn’t know how to reply but I just gave him a happy nod.
“If there is anything I can help you with please let me know, I would be happy to help” he continued.
There was so much to choose from, half of the names and categories I had never heard of. I turned around to the guy and I just fired out as many questions that came to my head.
“What’s a rabbit?” “Is this toy stimulating for her?” “What is the point of a cock ring?” I couldn’t control my curiosity and then… it slipped!
“How can you last longer in bed?”.
He did not look shocked at all when I asked him these questions and he was like a stone in a river, just letting the questions flow.
What’s more he responded in detail to all of them. But it was the last response I was particularly interested in.
“Lasting longer in bed has been a lot of men’s desire. To last longer I can recommend two products. One is short term and one is long term benefits, use them both and you will take control of your destiny” he said while he laughed.
“I mean your ejaculation” he continued to smirk.
The two products he decided to show me was a Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit and Pjur Superhero Spray
Both looked so complicated but he explained it to me in the simplest way. The Pjur Superhero spray was a numbing spray that you spray on the head of the penis and it temporarily numbs it allowing you to last longer.
Pjur superhero spray was the short term method.
Fleshlight was the long term method.
How it would work is you teach your body while you are masturbating to last longer.
Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit is a soft silicone sleeve with ripples and different textures in a hard discrete plastic case. Instead of using your hand to masturbate you use this.
It replicates the real feel of having intercourse especially if you use a warming lube.
I walked out with both of them in my hand and a new found confidence that when I use these products in 6 months I’m going to be at my peak sexual performance.
7 months down the track
I can honestly say I went from lasting only 30 – 40 seconds to now being able to last a solid 10 – 15 minutes.
My confidence in myself and my relationship with Carly is so much stronger, and she is always cumming before me as I don’t cum too fast. If I didn’t have the confidence to first walk into that adult shop to see what I could do about my issue, I would still be a sexual mess today.
Most probably a single sexual mess.
Best decision of my life.
Meet Rick, Adultsmart’s owner with 35+ years in the adult industry. A sex blogger, advocate for gender and sexuality equality, offering a diverse product range.
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