Its a tough old world out there being in the dating game. Us singles crew really do not get it easy out there. I am 26 years old and everyone always say to me “Awww do not worry, you will find someone good one day”. “You are only young stop worrying, have fun”.
It is safe to say that I have had every strange, unique and weird characters there is out there that have giving me some memorable situations to be in. No one can shock me now with dating with my experiences. I feel like everything that could go wrong i have definitely witnessed it all!
But there’s no point in giving up or feeling sorry for yourself. You just got to dust yourself down and get yourself back out there.
Mr Right is Out There
I just have to keep looking and kiss a few frogs to find him! Look, working in an adult llifestyle centre has it’s perks. But it also open you up to a whole new world of ideas.
I thought I would share a couple of my memorable dating times that have happened to me to try show people that they are not the only ones out there with horror dating stories. And to not get so put off as its memories and stories to tell the grandchildren one day. Lets be serious we can all look back and have a good giggle about them.
The lovely old Tinder and Plenty of Fish has a lot to answer for the majority of my top 6 worst dates. They have let me meet up with a lot of colourful characters. Surprisingly the only thing that has not happened to me yet is being stood up. But I am sure with my luck I have probably jinxed my next date. As much as I have had some bad dates it has also opened up some doors to some lovely guys that just didn’t work for me. But I have had some lovely conversations and company for the night.
The Dating Game
Lets start back to my first ever Plenty of Fish date.
It was an Irish man, handsome enough big fella with good banter to chat away to. We had a lovely lunch and left with a cuddle which was nice and simple for a first meeting. I never got much of a spark. But thought lets not knock it straight away and maybe try to have a second date before cutting him off.
Few days after he messaged me to tell me he was moving to my area, which before our date he had never even heard of or stepped foot in the area I lived. He also at that moment lived around 45 minutes away from me.
So yeah was safe to say he started to get a little creepy after that.
That weekend I had a girls night out in the city. He continued to harass my phone with constant messages on what I was doing, where I was going. After the 15th message I nicely asked him to leave me alone as I was on a night out and wanted to enjoy it.
I had a fun night until 4 am in the morning when I was on the late night bus home.
Who do I find sitting in the front of the bus? Yep my new stalker!!! After that I blocked him on everything I could and luckily have never bumped into him again!
Bad Date Number 2
I went on one date with this next guy.
He seem decent enough, not sleazy just a normal john doe. We went to put put indoor golf to just have a bit of fun. I managed to win both games and he went into a massive mood because I had beat him. When he finally got rid of his pouted lip we went for a frozen yogurt.
He then decided to sit there and tell me his beliefs and what he didn’t think was right with this country. Now bearing in mind I have only lived in Australia for 3 years at this point as I am from overseas. He also told me that his father was born in New Zealand, his mother was Dutch and his grandmother was English/German back ground. So he believed that cultures and countries should not be mixed together and it was wrong.
Now I am sitting thinking is this dude for real!!
Do not get me wrong am very laid back on peoples beliefs and opinions being their own. I would never knock anyone on that. But i couldn’t understand why he would bother dating me as i wasn’t born in this country. And with his background being all mixed i just could not understand him at all.
Another blocked and deleted after the first date.
Getting out of My Comfort Zone Now
I was starting to get a little bored with meeting the same people. So thought I would get out of my comfort zone and start chatting with different people.
This lead me to start chatting with an Italian guy. He had a bit of broken English when he typed. But i thought ok lets see how this will go. He wanted to make the effort by getting an hour train to meet me. So i thought that was a massive effort he was making.
I started to chat away to him and he just had no clue what i was saying as i have a very strong accent. That meant any joke I made he just had no idea why I was laughing.
It just turned out to be a very dull and awkward date unfortunately.
We went to lunch and had a nice meal then went for a little walk about. Now you know people say Italians can eat. Well i had never realised this until i meet him. He had ordered two plates on our lunch date and then after the walk he said he was still starving.
Really have no clue how. They were both massive plates. We managed to find a nearby pub to have a few drinks before he left. He decided to ordered a family size bucket of chicken wings and totally demolished it in a couple of minutes.
He was a total grub and had the sauce half way up his face.
It made me want to enter him into eating competitions after watching that. We finally called it a day and were saying our goodbyes when he decided to go in like an octopus and try to tongue my face.
I kind of paniced and put my hand up to my mouth and went “STOPPPP! I don’t kiss on first dates“.
Poor guy looked mortified. But it was just so inappropriate and bad timing in front of so many people. Guess he couldn’t tell the vibes that i was just not feeling it.
Online Dating Peeves
The thing that annoys me the most about online dating is that a few days can go past that your chatting away to someone and think yeah this is going quite well. Then boom they just stop talking. Makes me wonder is online dating a good idea. But anyway, chatting and then NOTHING.
What’s with that?
Always wondered was it something i said or do they just get bored and move onto another person.
Next guy wasn’t an online man.
This one I actually got to meet in person at a club and he seem really keen to take me out on a date. I had only been here a couple of months and hadn’t really dated much before. So thought it would be a great way to just get out and about.
He was a little bit older than me so that was a bit intimating to start with. He also had to cancel my first date as he had fell off a roof and broke his arm. I thought this was just a crappy excuse.
Until he set another date up and picked me up with his arm all wrapped up and in the sling.
Nerves got the better of me on this date
Made me loose my appetite. We went to order and he decided to order every starter I think was possible from the menu. Even though I had told him about five times already I wasn’t hungry and wouldn’t be able to eat any of it.
The starters arrived and he spent 10 minutes trying to force me to eat something which made the date very uncomfortable. Started to feel bit strange like he was my father getting me into trouble for not eating my vegetables.
We then got round to ordering our main meals. Now with my chat before i had told him I can’t stand fish, anything about it makes me feel sick and put off.
So have a guess what he decided to order for his dinner….. Salmon!!
Was safe to say at that moment there wasn’t going to be a goodbye kiss coming anywhere near me.
Had a few guys with fetishes I just couldn’t handle.
Now each to your own, like what you like. But when you can’t stand anything about feet, someone having a foot fetish just isn’t going to work for me.
I had been talking to this guy for about a week but still hadn’t meet up yet thank god. He had been open about his foot fetish and yeah that should of been a red card for me. But I explained to him that feet wasn’t ever going to be my thing. He rang me up one day and started to ask me about what would happen if I drove over his little small convertible car with a big 4×4 truck.
I said well obviously you would be crushed.
His reply was and this was with a very panting voice “Awwww yeah you would wouldn’t you”. It started to click that he also had a squashing fetish. I would say he was actually masturbating over the other side of the phone while I was answering back.
Yep another one to be blocked and never to reply to again.
I could tell you so many more disappointing dates that have happened to you but don’t want to scare you off dating too much.
Sometimes it can get hard and feel a little like a let down but each male has opened my eyes up to what i am looking for in a partner and what i am not. Not to mention gave all my friends some giggles along the way. Its all about learning to just relax and not take it too serious.
Have some fun and explore whats out there. It also gave me so much more confidence with dating and brought me out my shell.
And if in doubt – don’t. It may be better to stay at home and just play with your sex toys.
New Dating App Matches People Over What They Hate
There is a new dating application in town named “Hater”. Their slogan is:
“Meet someone who hates the same stuff”
It is a first of its kind that matches people on the things they hate and dislike. This app was released for Android operating systems in February in celebration for one of the world’s most romantic celebrations, Valentine’s Day. It has just been two months since its release, the app has now gathered over 350,000 users mostly located in Latin America and Europe.
Users have continued to grow every single week.
It is now a popular dating app used worldwide.
So far there is a whirlwind of over 3000 different topics to choose from which either can be of wicked, innocent, light hearted or of a philosophical value. Whether you hate cilantro, types of sexual play, slow drivers, mosquitos, harambe, President Trump, bullies. Or even if you have a strong dislike for cargo shorts, Haters got your back.
Their application is operated by swiping down to hate, swipe up to love, swipe left to dislike, and swipe right to like.
When you’re done answering the questions, your profile will be full of your interests and disinterests. You will be matched up with other users with a percentage of how compatible you are. Sometimes it can be difficult to express personal opinions. But this application puts everything out on the table that you wish people knew about you.
Sex Topics on Hater
Since its release, Hater dating app found the answers to some of the harder to ask topics that were related to sex.
- They found that 88 percent of men were happy to participate with anal play. Whereas 48 percent of women were in favour of it.
- 91 percent of men were on board for threesomes.
- Whereas 43 percent of women were in favour of it.
- 64 percent of men were happy to participate in a one night stand.
- 33 percent of women were in favour of it.
- 80 percent of man were happy to engage in public sex.
- 50 percent of women were in favour of it.
- Some mutual positive areas of interest included sex toy usage, kinky sex, quickies, dirty talking, showering together, marijuana use during sex and playing music during sex.
These statistics are a surprising way of seeing how sex has become a less taboo topic within our society.
Although the idea to hating things can appear to be unkind this app brings it together by creating an enjoyable dating experience.
So how does hate bring people together in a positive manner?
Brendan Alper CEO of Hater has said:
“What we hate is an important part of who we are, but it’s often swept under the rug in our public persona. We want people to express themselves more honestly. Plus, it’s easy to start a conversation with someone if you know you both hate pickles.”
So apart from offering topics for a great conversational ice-breakers you are able to bond with other’s through a mutual understanding with a sense of trust and familiarity. It also proves the possibility of connecting people with compatible personalities together.
Brendan Alper said:
“It started off as a joke, a wouldn’t-it-be-funny-if and then we kept playing around with it and it seemed like it could work as an actual idea. People seemed to come together around things they hate. It surprisingly brings people together. And then I did some research on it and there are actual studies”
Mutual Dislike and Like
A 2006 study published named “Interpersonal Chemistry Through Negativity” by the University of Oklahoma and the University of Texas found that two close friends could have a mutual dislike for a third person. As well as a mutual like for a third person which could provide a foundation of a friendship.
The study said:
“Although shared positive attitudes are indeed important in promoting friendship, there seems to be something especially delicious about the process of sharing our grievances about other people.”
A 2011 study named “I Feel Like I Know You” followed up the idea and found that although you could establish friendships based upon common negativity, it also made the friendship stronger.
Hating Something Brings People Together
Can you imagine the situation of meeting someone who loves dogs just as much as you do. But excessively hates cargo shorts and the Beauty and the Beast.
You could spend your time talking for hours, about the things you love to hate and watch as your relationship and sexual lifestyle spiral into a joyful moment of complete synchronicity of matching opinions.
People often spend years getting to know each other’s personals dislikes or interests. But within one dating application you are able to learn all you need to know by swiping up, down, left and right.
After I spoke to Sam, Hater’s Public Relations Representative on how Hater has brought people together he recalled two great anecdotal stories.
Being Bonded by Dislike
“One couple matched because they both had “online dating” listed as their number one hate. They bonded over the irony. Also they both hated expensive cocktails and loved tacos. So they spent their first date at Mexican restaurant where they drank a lot of $1 Coronas. Another couple bonded over the fact they both hated the Super Bowl but loved queso dip (a requisite item of every good Super Bowl Party). So on Super Bowl Sunday, they actively avoided the game, but made their own queso dip and watched a movie.”
Saying that you found love through hate is quite an interesting tale for someone who may be the love of your life. Or even to connect with people who may just become one of your closest friends.
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