Sex Lives of the Disabled is an issue often ignored, so it is great to see a Disability Friendly Adult Shop. Yet it is important that it be addressed for those that are not friendly so all of us have more understanding and inclusion. It is a simple fact that the disabled have sexual needs just like everyone else.
The Impaired and Disabled Have Sexual Needs Too
Sex and disability tends to be a taboo topic that many people steer clear of. Members of our society that have physical or even intellectual disabilities in many instances are regarded as non-sexual or asexual people. Sex is often associated with energy, youth and physical interaction and some people just do not consider or even worse consider it not natural for those with disabilities to want to act out their sexual desires.
Opportunities for sexual exploration and fulfillment among disabled people are extremely limited, yet the young impaired have as much desire as an ‘able bodied person’.
Independence and Lack of Privacy
Often there is a lack of privacy as some disabled are less independent than others. Some require carers who are always around, giving them limited privacy to enact out their sexual requirements, whether it be solo or with a partner.
Many carers will not tolerate a disabled person masturbating, yet if they are under constant supervision this simple act then become out of bounds. Often the disabled are not taught sex education or punished for exhibiting behavior others consider socially unacceptable, simply because they are disabled . They may not have the freedom or mobility to explore support groups.
Sex and Disability
So many myths and assumptions exist with sex and disability. The belief of others that disabled are not interested in sex or do not have the right to sex. This often causes depression with disabled people and causes them to be influenced by these myths or narrow minded attitudes. It causes them to begin to believe they do not deserve to experience sex.
But that just isn’t true, is unfair and completely cruel.
Disabled often consider themselves disfigured,. It is sometimes hard for them to believe they are attractive, whether the beauty be within or without. In essence most people struggle with feelings of being unattractive, no matter what their state of their health or the condition of their bodies. This is accentuated in the disabled.
Sex Education And Resources for The Disabled
The good news is times are changing. There is now sex education for the disabled and adult stores that cater for the disabled with mobility impaired access. Staff are trained to explain different sex toys that can help the disabled whether they wish to experience self gratification or sex with a partner.
Many sextoys will help in love making and techniques. Pleasure objects have been created that will assist with all type of disabilities improving the sex lives of the disabled. Sex can be a wonderful reason to keep going, when everything else seems bleak. It can be a beautiful way of connecting with someone we love.
There’s really is no disability that makes sex impossible, if we define sex not as intercourse but as physical contact for the purpose of sharing intimacy and pleasure.
Adult Lifestyle Centres Sex Positive Shop
The Adult Lifestyle Centre at 12 Production Ave, Kogarah and 127-129 Wollongong St, Fyshwick has been ensuring that those people with special needs in Sydney have a friendly and easy place to access. It is an Adult Store to do their personal adult shopping in comfort and at their leisure.
Regardless of sexual preference people with disabilities deserve the right to have an safe, friendly and easily accessible outlet to purchase their erotic wants and needs. The Adult Lifestyle Centre caters for all aspects of sex and disability that will help in building a positive sexual self-image. With many of the sextoys on premises it will allow the customer to work out positions to minimize stress, and maximize pleasure; Certainly many of the products will assist in dealing with fatigue or pain during sex.
Those With Severe Disabilities
Many people with severe disabilities find it difficult to find a partner and even with a partner may find it difficult to engage in the act of intercourse. Adult products and sex aids will assist. As soon as you arrive at the store you will find a wheelchair ramp, giving easy access into the foyer that has no raises. Once inside the store you will see that the aisles are wide enough to cater for the largest of wheelchairs.
It is very important to know that we’re all different, both in how we respond sexually and what our needs are, and it’s impossible to generalize about making toys accessible. At Oh Zone we find the three most important things in making toys accessible are common sense, product knowledge and a sense of fun and humour.
We always recommend those with disabilities to shop for sex toys in person. Being able to actually feel the switch, smell the material, experience the vibrations, see how it looks is very helpful. Unfortunately most sex stores are not fully accessible which is what makes the Adult Lifestyle Centre in Sydney and Canberra points of difference
Sex Is An Important Issue
Sexuality for the disabled is an important issue that many try to sweep under the doormat. Whatever your disability be it mental or physical including sight impaired, deafness, multiple sclerosis, schizophrenia, quadriplegia, cystic fybrosis all should be given equal rights and service in regards to their sexual needs.
Sex Furniture: Be it a love stool or swing for those that suffer from fatigue or muscle dysfunction or dystrophy that can attach to the ceiling or a specially made frame. They elevate one partner above the bed or ground. This allows the other partner to have intercourse with them while standing, or oral sex while sitting up either in a regular chair or a wheelchair.
Love Swings: Can work for sexually adventurous able-bodied couples as well as for lovers who are disabled. Swings can be extremely helpful if you have a sore back or neck and prefer to give oral sex while sitting comfortably.
Penis Pumps: They are a vacuum device placed over the penis to create blood flow. It draws blood into specific tissues of the penis (the two corpora cavernosa), mimicking a normal erection. Placing a rubber ring around the base of the penis can help make it rigid enough for intercourse. This can be useful when a man is able to get an erection, but has difficulty maintaining it.
Cock Rings: After pumping to maintain that erection. Whatever your requirement our friendly and trained staff at Oh Zone Australia are there to assist you.
Where are we?
Adult Lifestyle Centre Kogarah is conveniently located at 12 Production Avenue, Kogarah New South Wales and open each day at 9am till late.
Hello Sexy Fyshwick is located at 127-129 Wollongong St, Fyshwick ACT and is open every day from 10am to late.
So regardless your disability come to a disabled friendly place.
We do not discriminate and are aware that sex and disability tends to be a taboo area for many abled bodied persons and is rarely discussed. As a result more than 50% of disabled people do not have any form of a regular sex life. Please do not let that 1 in 2 statistic be you.
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