Hands On – A Finger Sucking Expose
Hand fetishism or hand partialism or also cheirophilia is the sexual fetish for hands. So before you go off on a finger sucking expose, lets get down to the nitty gritty and find out what it is all about.
What is a Hand Fetish
Hand partialism is a sexual preference or fetishism where an individual is sexually aroused or gratified by a specific aspect of the hand, such as the fingers, nails, palms, or wrists. This fetish may involve the use of the hands in sexual acts, or the appreciation and admiration of the physical characteristics of the hand.
Hand partialism is considered to be a subcategory of partialism, which is a sexual attraction to a specific body part. Partialism may involve any body part, such as feet, breasts, buttocks, or hair.
Like other fetishes, hand partialism is not necessarily harmful unless it involves non-consensual behavior or causes distress to the individual or others. It is important to note that fetishes are a normal part of human sexuality and can be explored safely and consensually.
Whether it’s giving a massage, typing a love text, or moving your nails boldly under the waistband of your partner’s pants, hands are essential for many hot sex activities. But for some people, it is the hands themselves that turn them on. And that, my friends, is called a fetish.
Just as foot fetishes, voyeurism, or exposure can make some cheaters, using or looking at fingers, palms, wrists, or the whole hand can make the water flow for others. . So, if you find yourself paying close attention to people’s hands, feel like you’re shaking during a haircut, like to suck your fingers, but If you just want to know what it’s like to have a hand fetish, we have what you need.
You have a fetish
People are attracted to each other for many reasons. For some it’s the look, for others it’s the feeling, and for others it’s watching their hands do things, says the expert dominatrix and the founder of The Dom House Mistress Rogue.
It is important to note that although you may find the hand sexy, fetish is not only an attraction to the hand. Adam & Eve sex therapist Jenni Skyler, PhD, previously told Cosmopolitan that “when someone has a clinical fetish, they need that thing [in this case, hands] to stimulate and reach orgasm”.
So unless you can see or interact with the hand (or finger, palm, etc.) to come down, you don’t have a fetus. You are probably a fan of hand worship or hand misery. This is still very interesting, and the advice below is definitely for you.
How can I do something with my fetish
“Start by doing something with your loved one’s hands, such as a well-oiled hand job after grooming or finger sucking as part of your prediction game,” Sparks says. You can also try massaging your partner or watching them touch themselves. Whatever you do, pay close attention to how your body feels and reacts. In addition, Rogue recommends taking the time to analyze body language and behavior with your own hands. “The hand is very powerful in seducing the other,” he explains. “Sometimes, something as simple as stroking your partner’s skin can cause the temperature to rise quickly.”
Sometimes people who have fetishes or are interested in hands also find the feet exciting. Of course, that doesn’t mean that everyone with a hand fetish will also have a foot fetish, but Rogue says there’s a real overlap. “It has a lot to do with how they are properly groomed: the color of the nails or lack thereof, the length of the fingernails, fingers, toes, etc.,” he says.
So if you get into it, consider adding some footwork to your sexy time to see if you like anything. It’s good
Being in the hand is very good because of defects and fetishes. Of course, you want to practice good general hygiene such as keeping your hands clean and your nails at a reasonable length to avoid soap (unless it’s something you and your partner do) required). It’s also a good idea to wash under your nails often because bacteria, dirt and “other nasty things” often live under there, Hoffman says.
And even if the hand game doesn’t seem as strong as, say, the summer game, the belief is still very important. “Be sure to set clear boundaries of where to touch and where not to touch,” Rogue advises.
Fun ways to play
The best thing about being on hand is the number of different game options. The art! Check your partner yourself! Give a massage! Wash your hands! Just ask your partner to trace your body with their fingers!
If you’re looking to change things up even more, Sparks suggests rubbing the Slow Sex Finger Play gel on your partner or adding a finger vibe, like Hot Octopuss DiGit, inside combination.
It’s also the perfect excuse to get regular manis. “I personally think that everyone should get manicures and pedicures, regardless of gender,” Rogue says. “Good clean hands are very attractive. Honestly, they don’t deserve it. A firm hold or a soft touch can drive your partner crazy—only you have to figure out their style.
Finger Sucking
So you may or may not want to experience of give your partner a finger sucking experience – its entirely up to you. Or maybe you just want to find out about some toe sucking?
Touch Starved – The Hunger We Lust For!
The pandemic created a very strange time for many of us and changed the way that we interact with people. Not only that, many of us now lead much more reserved life’s and are experiencing skin hunger. Yep, it’s a thing. Skin hunger or being touch starved comes from the deprivation of physical contact.
With the pandemic and the regulations it’s any wonder that many of the world’s population is suffered through this.
What is Skin Hunger?
Skin hunger is not just intimate touch. It’s any touch. Any physical touch. Shaking hands, a pat on the back, a hug, a kiss on the cheek. Hell, being squished in Sydney trains during peak hour. It all contributes.
All of these contribute to the production of oxytocin which is the super fighting hormone Oxytocin. Which if you really want to simplify it, is the arch nemesis to Cortisol, which in large quantities is the stress hormone.
You’re probably thinking right about now, that your cortisol levels have probably increased this last year. You would probably be right. Not only that, but the lack of touch has also been shown to contribute to the rise in cortisol. In past studies in offices, research found that after shaking hands staff felt happier or more at peace than those who routinely did not engage in shaking hands.
Being Touch Starved Doesn’t mean You Just Want Sex
It might just be the need for physical contact. Any physical contact.
As Humans we are hardwired to seek touch. In fact our bodies, our senses are primarily made up of “touch”. With our skin being our largest organ, making up a large portion of our senses.
So yes, while we are stuck at home, or not able to go around touching as many people as we did before, how do we combat our need for physical touch and closeness? I get it, it’s hard, and nothing is going to beat the real thing. Understand.
I am not suggesting that we say screw the system and go around touching. That would be ludicrous.
Self Touch Techniques
Instead, what I have is several self touch techniques that are here to help promote your oxytocin levels. This will stimulate your physical touch reserves and help with Touch Hunger. It is important to note that with these, it is very very very important to couple this with keeping in touch with friends and family, phone calls, texts, skype, video call to keep social.
We need to feed our social beasties as well for this to work long term.
You would be surprised how often we neglect our own bodies and forget to enjoy ourselves and be mindful of the way that we touch, feel and stimulate our own senses.
Some simple ways to promote self touch
- Run a warm bath – Add bath salts or oil.
- Wrap yourself in heavy blankets or pillows. Pressure of these will stimulate the receptors that will trigger the oxytocin as a by-product of the vagus nerve.
Massage Techniques for Self touch
- Using a rubber ball, place the ball beneath the arch of your foot either sitting or standing. Applying pressure (how hard is up to you) roll the ball up and down your foot and breathe deeply, activating the vagus nerve.
- Face One hand (B) palm up. Using the other hand (A), clasp around the forearm of your other arm (B) and squeeze ever so gently. Now turn Arm B so that your palm faces the sky then the ground. Repeat for 5. You should feel a warm tightening sensation in your muscles. Try moving your Hand (A) further up or down your forearm of (B). Switch arms and repeat.
- Placing one arm bent behind in a fist in the centre of your back, pull your elbow back to feel a stretch across your chest, shoulder and upper arm. Close your eyes and breathe. Using your other hand, rub up and down the bent arm, continue to rub, moving further and further along your shoulder and chest. Repeat this exercise on the other side.
More Massage Techniques
- Sitting down, take both your hands and start near your ears and temples, place your thumbs under the lobes of your ears and your fingers from the top of your ears along your temple. Move your hands back and forth across your scalp with varied pressure.
- Use oils and creams to lubricate your skin as you run your fingers along your body in long slow movements. This will activate your nervous system and help your body to connect. Not feeling it? That’s perfectly normal, as weird as it may seem. Closing your eyes, taking away your sight (one of your other senses) will help you to connect with your body and stimulate that oxytocin that your body needs.
- Don’t believe me? Try it. Even if it is just a little, simply rubbing your hand feels different when you close your eyes.
Masturbate
Masturbating is a wonderful way to get closer to yourself, not to fill a hole, but rather to get in touch with yourself and your desires. Being mindful of masturbation can be very rewarding and fulfilling. Try a new position you have never tried before.
Use a toy you haven’t thought to use. Use edging and denial, bring yourself close to climax and stop. Tease yourself and see how many times you can make it to the edge. Can you make it to ten?
Try warming or cooling lubricant or arousal oils. And who said libido enhancers have to be used only with company?
BDSM – Solo
BDSM doesn’t need to be something that is sacrificed during a pandemic. It just means that we need to get creative. We have touched on denying yourself orgasms.
Wear a cock cage, enjoy that feeling of chastity, your hands exploring your body over the device. This feeling will also increase your oxytocin levels which will help your feeling of Touch Starvation.
Have you tried wax play?
Now might be the time. It’s a wonderful sensation play perfect for solo adventurers. Start with massage candles and their low low burning temperatures before moving onto the sweet thick trails of the warm then hot wax.
Nipple clamps, clamps, cupping and suction have always had the ability to be lovingly used solo and leave loving little marks
Vampire mitts and paddles can also administer perfect little kisses for your attention.
Impact play can be self-inflicted at varying degrees as well for the solo masochist.
It is not the same, I am aware, it is not supposed to be the same. We are not condoning nor suggesting this as an exercise as self harm, but merely as another form of self touch. Think of it as a slightly more extreme massage such as a gentle whack with a paddle to the thigh.
Bondage is a little harder solo.
Cuffing yourself can be a little dangerous so we do not condone it safely. Rope play can be stimulating for the sense however, tying hip harnesses or futomomos provided that you have safety shears close at hand.
These ties will give you the pressure as well as the delight and sensory feel that may appease in symptoms of Touch Starvation. There are some wonderful online tutorials for simple self-ties to try like through Rory’s Brainworks or Studio Kink’s online courses.
Craving touch and closeness is not something new
Nor is it something that we should be ashamed of.
It is indeed a very human trait. That want for sex you may be craving may in fact be personal closeness and it is important to recognise this during this strange time where it may be harder to go out and meet new people.
Visit our Stores online or at Adultsmart Kogarah for other tips and sex toys to add to your self pleasure routine to better know your body and kickstart your system’s touch reserves.
Tweeze Away With Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps
I don’t know why but I am always interested in nipple play in a very specific way. That’s why one of my first reviews for Adultsmart was about nipple clamps.
Here are some lines from that nipple clamps review for those who have not read it.
“…the second and more amusing part is removal of the clamps, the blood rushes back into the nipple and it makes the user feel another level of intense sensation…” (Goki wrote at 15.37 on 22.02.2016)
Here is another quote which is directly related to Tweezer Clamps.
“…pressure at the tip can be adjusted easily by the help of metal ring around the arms of the clamps and this makes the toy useful for new starters. Besides, most of these types of clamps have rubber tips which can be removed for cleaning and they are aesthetically pleasing to people’s eyes…” (Goki wrote at 15.37 on 22.02.2016)
Anyway, I don’t want this blog post to be full of quotations, especially while I’m quoting from my own article!
Tweezer Clamps for Women
For women, Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps can be used with one clamp for each nipple while the third one is attached to your clitoris.
There is a small piece of metal that you can drag up and down to control how tight you would like the Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps. This is a lot of fun to play with to find what your pain threshold it. Or to find just how pleasurable you find the pressure on your erogenous zones.
Allow your lover control of the Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps to let him or her pull on the chain so that you feel intense sensations. Its pulling sensation will feel quite different from the clamping sensation. Especially if you love your nipples being played with. It can be a quite gentle clamp if that is how much pressure you would like to apply or it can be a quite strong force.
Tweezer Clamps for Men
For men using the Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps, you are free to clamp both of your nipples. Then for the third clamp you can use it on your perineum. There are a lot of nerves in the perineum so the feeling can be quite intense.
If you like the Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps you can also try using the Spartacus Y-Style Adjustable Tweezer Clamps with a Cock Ring. It’s Cock Ring will help to keep the blood flow within your penis to maintain a longer lasting and much stronger erection.
Likewise, give the control to your partner and reach the summit of the Himalayas.
Using Tweezer Clamps as a Couple
As a couple there are lots of possibilities here for nipple and breast play as male/male, female/male, female/female etc. Whatever your gender or sexual identity is, just ensure that one of the clamps must be attached to your body while your partner has the others.
For example, use 2 clamps on your partner’s nipples and let the third one be on your scrotum/perineum (it is up to you) during intercourse. By this way, both of you will have great sensations with every thrust of you. This would be a completely unique experience because as your lover moves, you can feel it on your own body.
There are lots of sexual zones and positions to use the clamps on.
I can think of a few in my mind but neither society nor my English is ready to describe them. You can use the Spartacus Y-Style Tweezer Clamps to experiment with and find out all the points on your body you crave a little bit of painful pleasure.
At this point, it is essential that you adjust the openings of the clamps wisely or lubricant if applicable. It should not be used in an excess amount so that your fun is not interrupted by slipping clamps.
I can’t help but sharing it. Last but not least quotation.
“Especially for new starters, don’t use clamps more than 10 minutes. This is a general rule of thumb and can change person to person. Watch for signs of distress if the nipple begins to turn colour, remove it. Before removing the clamp take a deep breath and release the clamp slowly because the true pain comes at this point when blood rushes into the nipples again.
Deciding To Touch
Here we go, my personal story of how the me of today came to light. Not all of us come into this world of sexual excitement and enticement with a “bang”. A one in which magical arousing confetti erupts into the air as the “to be” most enchanted moment arrives. It can be a long journey before deciding to touch again. Some start off with fear, caution, and betrayal, that “thing” that everyone says won’t happen to them happens.
*Disclaimer- assault may trigger some readers please be advised*
You don’t have to be drunk at a party or be put in a dodgy situation for this to happen, sometimes just walking your dog in a friendly neighbourhood can become a crime scene. We all utter the words “I won’t put myself in that situation for that to happen” but it’s not always our choice.
Choice is my most used word in my vocabulary, choice is the motto of my life. My choices are what got me to where I am today, although that road was a rough ride with many mistakes I am proud to say they were all because I chose.
You Can’t Blame The Victim For The Actions Of Another
Not all those who are assaulted go out into the big bad wide world and to put it bluntly “sleep with everything that moves” to fill that void and numb the pain. Don’t get me wrong it works for some but for me, this wasn’t an option I was willing to take. I chose to choose my emotions over my body, and it’s a choice I’ll never regret.
The body never forgets and it’s the fault of the mind, simple touches that should be arousing and intimate become triggers for pain and emotion. Flinching is normal, flinching at the most normal touches almost become unbearable. Hugging is a huge one for me, a simple hug is not easy because you are allowing someone into your personal space and your body.
The body recalls a touch that was once sensual and arousing and turns it into a trigger to shut off and become numb. I chose to handle myself the best way I knew possible, I chose to choose. My first time was taken with scares as a memory every single day. I had to teach myself to feel again, I had to learn to not block out my emotions and to become myself again.
All I Felt Was Dirty And Wrong
I had to learn not to shower five times a day because I constantly felt “dirty” and I had to choose to stop getting embarrassed about a huge scar that runs up an intimate part of my body and warning people to stop them from being shocked by it.
For me, this was a long journey in which I have lost and found myself many many times, but finally, sex became meaningful, intense and powerful. For me, I became more open and willing to try things that before this happened I would have never even considered. I explored myself first, I learnt what I liked about myself and how my body reacted, I learnt to love myself first not in the sense that I liked the way I looked but in the sense that I listened to my body and emotions.
My self-discovery is where I learnt to trust my gut feeling and to never let what I went through dictate the rest of my life. I chose to not hate all men but to trust my own instincts, which might I add didn’t have a 100% strike rate! But I learnt and that’s the main thing!
Work Towards Recovery, One Step At A Time
Trust exercises, goals, boundaries these are all the things in therapy you are told to write down and think about. These don’t mean just with a partner these also relate to yourself, and how you build your journey into intimacy. Sexual healing takes patience and don’t ever do something until you are ready for it emotionally and physically.
5 Steps That Can Ease Your Recovery:
- Seek Professional Support: Connect with a therapist or counselor experienced in trauma recovery to guide you through the healing process.
- Build a Support Network: Surround yourself with trusted friends and family who can offer emotional support and understanding.
- Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote physical and mental well-being, such as exercise, meditation, and hobbies you enjoy.
- Educate Yourself: Learn about the effects of trauma and recovery strategies to empower yourself with knowledge and understanding.
- Be Patient with Yourself: Recognize that healing is a journey, and it’s important to give yourself time and grace to process and recover.
I Could Not Enjoy Intimacy For A While
For a very long time my mind and my body were disconnected, every time I chose to have sex I did not enjoy it because my body and mind would constantly disassociate. This was my greatest hurdle because feeling meant triggering “that feeling” and I can’t tell you how many times I burst into tears during and after sex. But each time I did I grew and I evolved and I became stronger!
There are plenty of supportive, understanding partners out there, but there are also people who are going to make you feel like their sexual needs are more important than your safety needs. Being able to address your history on your own timeline, without having to even consider anyone else, is a wonderful benefit. It may take you some time to fully process this experience, and it may continue to surface in surprising and frustrating ways. But don’t let this person steal your chance for joy and intimacy. If you have the desire to learn how to enjoy sex (and again, you don’t have to), you can get there.
My most favourite quote which I tattooed onto my body is “you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have”.
Learn, grow, feel, and most importantly discover yourself first!
About the author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres
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