Have a MMF Without Other Men
Fantasies can be tricky subjects especially with something like How to have a MMF when you have a long term partner who might not be as sexually inclined as what you would be. Sometimes if they are not as sexually experienced or sexually mature, your requests to try not so common things can come off as either an attack or something that might be ‘weird’ or ‘unusual’ to your partner.
This tends to be a common theme when women ask their partners (most of the time they struggle to muster up the courage because they don’t want their partner to think that they want to cheat on him) to have a threesome that includes another male joining her and her male partner, making it a Male Male Female (MMF) threesome. This idea also plays on the sexual fantasy of Double Penetration which is a female being penetrated both vaginally and anally simultaneously. But how do you fulfil this fantasy when your partner doesn’t want to invite another male into the bedroom?
There are a few things you can do to actually substitute the additional male out (although it won’t be the actual fantasy, this solution is a lot better than nothing at all). By substituting another person for multiple different positions and toys, you can actually have more fun for yourself and your partner. So here are a few steps you can take and/or do to get you close to fulfilling the fantasy without another man marching all up on your partner’s masculine territory.
COMMUNICATION
First things first, you have to communicate to your partner about your fantasy. This might be a tough conversation depending on who you choose to lay with. If you have experienced issues in the past when it comes to being open and communicating, then it might be best to really consider if this is the right person for you (Why do you want to be with someone who won’t even hear you out?). However, if you are with someone who is open to listening to you communicate then the first option would be to sit down and express to them what your fantasy is.
It is super important in this conversation that you reassure him that it’s not about emotionally involving another man into the equation but rather the physical aspect. Explain that he is more than enough and that this has just always been a one off fantasy. By reassuring your partner that he is more than enough and he provides you with all the pleasure you need, this will heap him hopefully come to a decision to consider inviting another male into the bedroom.
Also if he isn’t so comfortable with the idea and says he isn’t interested in doing it, he doesn’t walk away with a bitter taste in his mouth thinking that he isn’t good enough. In the case of the later option, this is where you can bring in a whole bunch of toys to substitute and fulfil.
As we all know, toys are a comrade for men rather than a competitor. They are designed to help increase pleasure for both partners and often help women reach climax. So what type of toys can you introduce to give you that MMF feeling? Well there are 2 different options that I would recommend.
DOUBLE PENETRATION
A double penetration dildo (Please see image for visual recognition). This toy is great for the exact same rhythm that the penis is doing when it comes to anal penetration. How it works is, it is held in place by 2 rings (One goes around the testicles and the other goes around the shaft of the penis). The dildo actually sits comfortably between the shaft of the penis and the testicles. It will move with your body when you thrust, giving the exact same motion of when you insert your penis.
There are a vast amount of different positions you can use this toy with including the usual missionary, cowgirl and doggy. To really add pleasure to the experience, have a clitoral stimulator working the clitoris at the same time.
Suction cup dildo’s have always been an amazing addition to any single or couples toy collection. Reason being is that they are the closest toy that can simulate the real thing, especially when you’re using it on walls for doggy or on chairs for cow girl. How can you include it for your MMF experience? By using it on the glass you can either give the dildo oral whilst your partner pounds from behind, you can use the dildo anally whilst your partner is holding you up thrusting from the front vaginally.
Switching up the different variants are very fun when it comes to involving both the dildo and your partner.
GANG BANG
These 2 options are fantastic if your partner does not want to include another Male. However, they can also be used if you’ve wanted to experience a multi-person gang bang also. Make sure to always look for ways to increase your pleasure. Have fun!
10 Useful Tips For Those New To Gang Bangs!
1. What should I expect from a gang bang?
A gang bang involves multiple sexual partners focusing on one individual. Communication, consent, and boundaries are crucial to ensuring a safe and pleasurable experience.
2. How do I set boundaries beforehand?
Openly discuss your limits and expectations with all participants before the encounter. Consent is key, and everyone must respect your boundaries.
3. What safety precautions should I take?
Use condoms and dental dams to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Ensure everyone involved is on the same page about protection and hygiene.
4. How can I manage nervousness or anxiety?
It’s normal to feel anxious. Take your time, communicate openly, and only proceed when you feel comfortable. You can also designate a safe word to pause or stop the activity if needed.
5. What should I do if I feel overwhelmed?
If you feel overwhelmed at any point, communicate clearly. It’s okay to stop or take a break. Your comfort and consent are the top priority.
6. Do I need to prepare my body in any way?
Hygiene is important, so shower beforehand and ensure you’re comfortable with your physical state. Some participants might also choose to shave or groom, but this is a personal choice.
7. Can I withdraw my consent during the event?
Absolutely. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, even during the encounter. Clearly communicate this if you wish to stop, and everyone must respect your decision.
8. How can I ensure emotional safety?
Check in with yourself emotionally before and after the event. Engage with people you trust, and communicate any concerns or feelings that arise throughout the experience.
9. What should I do afterward to process the experience?
Take time to reflect on the event. Talking to a trusted partner, friend, or therapist can help you process the experience, especially if you have strong emotions.
10. Are there any legal considerations?
Ensure that all participants are consenting adults. It’s important to understand the legal landscape of your location, as some jurisdictions may have laws around group sexual activities.
AJ is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Stores
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