It is a well-known occurrence that men are able orgasm asleep especially when they are experiencing puberty. This is made obvious as they may wake up after they have ejaculated which is known as having a wet dream.
But are you aware that women can also have sex dreams that end in an orgasm to? Only difference is that women don’t have any physical evidence that the experience had happened.
Experiencing an Orgasm Asleep is Nothing New
In 1986, the Journal of Sex Research did a small study on women who were in college. They found that 37% of the women had experienced an orgasm in their dreams.
When you are sleeping an orgasm happens during rapid eye movement (REM).
REM sleep allows your brain to react in the same way as if you were awake. Only difference is that your body is paralysed and you may experience a dream.
Your brain is connected to the nerves in your body which can make the dream feel incredibly real. This is enhanced by increased blood flow that is sent to different areas of your body including your genitals.
- When it comes to men, the extra blood flow is the reason why they wake up with morning wood and have erections throughout the night.
- Women wake up in the morning, the clitoris can become bigger, extra sensitive and aroused.
Tips for How to Experience an Orgasm Asleep
If you combine the intensity of having a sex dream with the extra sensitivity of the genitals, you may be able to achieve an orgasm that feels incredibly intense.
So, if you have never experienced an orgasm when you sleep there are certain things you can try.
Fantasise before you sleep
Think yourself to sleep with a sexual fantasy. You will need to do this every night and eventually you may find yourself dreaming about the fantasy. Since you are in control of the fantasy before you fall asleep, you may be able to naturally control your dream. If this is not the case, you can train yourself to take control of your dream.
Find the dream
You will need to be able find a dream that works for you. Make a dream diary that outlines the type of dreams you experience and how they have physically affected you. After some time, you may be able to notice a dreaming pattern that affects you the most.
Understand the difference between reality and a dream
If you are aware of the type of sex dream you experience, the more likely you will be able to pick up that you are in a dream.
Dreams are often very different from reality. You will be able to find things that stand out that. For example, maybe you are wearing clothes that you don’t actually own. Maybe there are new people you are interacting with that you don’t actually know in real life.
Once you are aware that you are in a dream, you will be able to change your dream and interact with it. This is known as lucid dreaming.
Change Your Sleep Position
Sleep on the front of your body in full contact of your bed. Since your genitals will be extra sensitive when you are asleep, the movement of your body will more likely be stimulated through the direct contact.
Movement of your body when you are breathing can also stimulate your nipples.
Above all else, what does a sex dream feel like?
You find yourself entrapped daydreaming about sex that you will fall asleep to your thoughts. During the sex dream, your need to be relieved from your sexual frustrations can feel extremely intense.
You can feel your body naturally reacting to the dream with warmth and sensitivity. As the dream keeps on going, the pleasurable experience intensifies.
Until you build up your orgasm and climax.
If you orgasm is strong, you will most likely wake up from the dream. You may find yourself breathing heavily, overheated, confused. Sometimes your clothes may be twisted together near your genitals.
From here you can decide whether you would like to continue masturbating to finish off your orgasm. You can also relax to catch your breath or begin fantasizing again to attempt another orgasm in your sleep.
Some people find it easier to orgasm in their dreams then in real life
Madeleine Castellanos author of “Wanting to Want: What Kills Your Sex Life” said.
“I’ve had women in my practice who were not able to have orgasms with a partner or with masturbation but have had them in their sleep.
Think about it, when you have a sex dream, the brain is creating an environment to get to the full level of arousal, and you don’t have to be anxious or distracted. It’s all based on eroticism.
So sometimes it might be easier to reach orgasm in your dream than in real life. It’s like a gift from your brain.”
Have You Tried Temperature Play Yet?
I took out a sex toy today that I haven’t had a chance to examine yet. It is a butt plug from Svakom called “Primo”. I was really impressed by the way Svakom Primo looked.
There is a picture of it on the packaging but it really doesn’t do it justice. I keep finding myself glancing over at it whilst it recharges.
Have liked all the Svakom adult lifestyle products I have come across so far. I am not alone with this opinion. As so far they have won multiple awards including the German IF Design Award, Reddot Award and the Golden Pin Design Award.
Svakom Primo is no ordinary plug
It warms up and is remotely controlled. Only heated butt plug I have come across. I haven’t had a problem with a cold bum myself. But I know that a lot of people like temperature play.
People who like temperature play or wax play often choose materials that adapt to temperatures like steel or glass.
Svakom market the Primo as a unisex sex toy which can be used internally or externally for vaginal play. It also looks like a butt plug because the base is flared making it safe for anal play.
Safety First With Anal Sex Play
It can’t be emphasised enough how important it is to always use sex toys in butt play that are designed for that purpose. Anal sex toys must either have a cord or flange to make sure nothing gets sucked up there. And to ensure you can always retrieve it if it does.
Svakom Primo comes in a nice sturdy expensive looking black box. It looks like a jewellery box. This box would be perfect for long-term storage of the sex toy. There is a sleeve around the box that has a picture of the product but as I said, this picture really doesn’t do it justice.
Neither does the website in my opinion.
Inside the Box
Primo is mounted alongside the remote control on a foam board. In the compartment underneath you get a storage bag, charger cord, warranty card, instruction manual and a spare remote battery.
Features
- It has remote control are made of phthalate free body safe silicone, which is also environmentally friendly.
- Silicone is powdery and smooth. It is right up there with all the other luxury brands.
- A fairly slender plug measuring 26 x 120mm.
- Softly rounded and slightly larger at the top end.
- Comes in a colour choice of burgundy or black.
- On the base of the sex toy, there is a rose gold metallic disc with the Svakom logo on.
- Lettering lights up when the sex toy is charging and looks really expensive. It was actually this light up feature that I couldn’t stop staring at. Made me want to review it.
- It is charged using a USB cord.
- You get an hours play on maximum for only 2 hours charging.
Svakom Primo is firm and inflexible.
Its remote operates separately from the sex toy and is wireless. Seemed to function fairly successfully in the limited tests I was able to perform. This sex toy can be operated by itself using a single button on the flared base.
- Press the button for 2 seconds for on and off.
- Single click the button two, to switch through the 5 different modes.
- Double click the button to switch through the 5 intensities. I haven’t come across a sex toy that uses double clicking before. Must admit I was sceptical, but it is a genius idea.
- It provides so many options with just a single button. There are 25 options to be precise.
- Only thing you can’t do is operate the heating function.
For that, you will need the remote.
I am not keen on this function, as the remote is very small and easy to lose. But that is why you get the drawstring bag. Remote takes a normal polymer lithium flat round battery. Svakom include a spare in the box as well.
There are 3 buttons on the remote.
- One button is for the constant heating.
- There is an on and off button which when single clicked, scrolls through the modes.
- Also a +/- button to change the intensity.
Remote is a great convenience for the user. But the remote doesn’t show what the sex toy is doing though. No one wants to be rummaging about their back passage double clicking and hoping for the best.
It is not so great for couple’s play, unfortunately.
As the controller has no idea whether their partner has a whimpering kitten up the bum or a 40 degree hot rocket. This is a mistake lots of sex toy companies make when they design remotes.
Can be used externally on the clitoris and the slightly bulbed end will be great for prostate or g-spot stimulation if used internally. Vibrations are fairly powerful and perfectly acceptable for the price of the sex toy.
While Svakom Primo doesn’t blow my mind
With its rumbly deep frequency vibrations, the range is very impressive and I really liked the lower settings. There is a buzzy element which increases as the intensity increases. But it isn’t numbing in the way some sex toys can be.
It feels more rumbly on the sides of the sex toy than at the tip, which suits internal use.
Heating element is exactly as the sex toy promises.
One click of the button and in a couple of minutes it reaches a very pleasant, warm and toasty 38 degrees Celsius. Some heating sex toys take an annoying amount of time to heat up and require a bit of forward planning.
It is great that this one doesn’t. Plug is 100% waterproof which is interesting even though there is a pinpoint charging hole and it is a heating sex toy.
Svakom promises you can even take it into the pool with you.
Waterproof functionality is a great feature for any sex toy as it means you can wash it thoroughly with soap and water. This can be a particular comfort to some when it comes to anal play.
Warranty
Company must be confident with these claims as they offer a year warranty and a further 10 year quality guarantee. If you register the sex toy online using the warranty card included in the box, Svakom will give you the cost back in the first year. 50% of the cost back for the next 10 years if anything goes wrong.
A good entry sex toy in all senses of the word.
This is one of the best plugs I think we have for someone purchasing their first one. Look and size are elegant and unintimidating.
Are You Aware That Sex Can Help You Sleep?
Sleep deprivation is a widespread issue in Australia, affecting nearly 40% of adults. According to a report from the Sleep Health Foundation, about 7.4 million Australians struggle to get adequate rest regularly. This growing concern impacts overall well-being, increasing the risk of chronic conditions like heart disease, obesity, and mental health disorders. Sex Can Help You Sleep and has many other benefits as well.
Many people turn to sleep aids, from prescription medications to herbal teas and white noise machines, in a desperate attempt to sleep better. While some of these methods may help, they are not always effective, and long-term use of sleep medication can lead to dependency. But what if there were a more natural, enjoyable, and scientifically backed way to improve sleep quality?
Research suggests that sex may be a powerful sleep aid. Dr. Michele Lastella from the Appleton Institute of Behavioral Science at Central Queensland University found that over 60% of people reported better sleep after engaging in sexual activity. This suggests that sex could be a simple, drug-free solution for those struggling with sleep deprivation. But is it really the key to getting a good night’s sleep? Let’s explore the science behind it.
Sex releases sleep-inducing chemicals
A mind-blowing orgasm doesn’t just leave you feeling satisfied—it also sets off a powerful hormonal response that helps you sleep better. During sex, the body releases a surge of hormones, including oxytocin, dopamine, and vasopressin, all of which play a crucial role in relaxation and sleep regulation.
Oxytocin, often called the “cuddle hormone,” is particularly beneficial for women. It helps reduce stress and anxiety, two of the biggest contributors to insomnia. High oxytocin levels promote feelings of security and calmness, making it easier to fall asleep. Dopamine, known as the “pleasure chemical,” enhances feelings of euphoria and relaxation, helping the body transition into rest mode. Meanwhile, vasopressin, a hormone released after orgasm, has been linked to improved sleep cycles, ensuring deeper, more restorative rest.
Beyond these hormonal benefits, sex also lowers cortisol, the body’s primary stress hormone. High cortisol levels are associated with restlessness and poor sleep quality. By engaging in sexual activity, you effectively lower stress while increasing relaxation, creating the perfect conditions for a restful night’s sleep. This natural, pleasurable sleep aid may be the solution for those struggling to unwind before bed.
Everyone sleeps better after a workout
Regular exercise is one of the best ways to improve sleep, but did you know that sex can provide similar benefits? Studies show that moderate to mild-intensity physical activity reduces the time it takes to fall asleep and improves sleep quality. Exercise is also known to decrease the severity of conditions like sleep-disordered breathing and obstructive sleep apnea. But instead of hitting the gym late at night, why not break a sweat in bed instead?
Sex is a full-body workout that gets your heart pumping and muscles engaged. It increases blood circulation, improves cardiovascular health, and releases endorphins, all of which help the body relax and prepare for rest. A study found that sex burns around 3.6 calories per minute, making it more effective than a brisk walk when it comes to energy expenditure. Plus, unlike traditional exercise, sex comes with the added benefits of intimacy, stress relief, and pleasure—all of which contribute to better sleep.
So, the next time someone tells you that sex isn’t real exercise, remind them that it combines cardio, muscle engagement, and relaxation techniques into one enjoyable activity. Best of all, you won’t need a gym membership to reap the sleep-boosting benefits.
You send the correct signals to your brain
While sex with the lights on can be exciting, getting intimate in the dark may actually help prepare your brain for sleep. The body relies on environmental cues, such as darkness and horizontal positioning, to recognize when it’s time to rest. Engaging in sexual activity in bed reinforces these signals, helping the brain transition into sleep mode more efficiently.
Lying down in a comfortable bed naturally prompts the body to prepare for rest. This subconscious association is why many people feel sleepy after sex, especially when they’re in a cozy, supportive sleep environment. Research suggests that a high-quality mattress plays a crucial role in uninterrupted sleep. A comfortable mattress not only enhances relaxation during sex but also ensures that post-intimacy drowsiness leads to a deep, restful slumber.
Beyond physical comfort, sex itself triggers hormonal shifts that further support sleep. The release of oxytocin and decreased cortisol levels create a sense of tranquility, reinforcing the brain’s sleep signals. So, if you want to maximize the sleep benefits of sex, turn off the lights, sink into a comfortable bed, and let your body do the rest.
If you don’t have a partner, go solo
While having a partner to share intimacy with is great, the real sleep-enhancing magic lies in the orgasm itself. Whether it happens through partnered sex or solo pleasure, an orgasm triggers a powerful hormonal response that helps the body relax and drift off to sleep.
Research shows that orgasms release a cocktail of sleep-promoting hormones, including oxytocin, prolactin, and serotonin. These chemicals work together to reduce stress, ease tension, and create a state of deep relaxation. At the same time, dopamine levels spike during arousal but drop after climax, leaving you feeling satisfied and ready to rest. Masturbation provides the same benefits as partnered sex, making it an excellent natural sleep aid for those struggling with restlessness.
So, the next time you find yourself tossing and turning, consider ditching the sleeping pills and opting for some self-love instead. Not only will you feel relaxed and euphoric, but you’ll also set yourself up for a deeper, more restorative night’s sleep. Plus, unlike medication, this remedy has no side effects—just pure satisfaction and better rest.
The Link Between Sleep Deprivation and Low Libido
Getting too little sleep doesn’t just leave you feeling exhausted—it can also take a serious toll on your sex drive. Studies show that chronic sleep deprivation leads to lower libido, decreased arousal, and even erectile dysfunction in men. Sleep is essential for maintaining hormonal balance, and without it, testosterone levels drop, making sexual desire harder to sustain.
How Sleep Affects Testosterone and Sexual Desire
Testosterone plays a vital role in both male and female sexual health. In men, low testosterone can result in reduced energy levels, poor sexual performance, and less frequent spontaneous arousals. In women, inadequate sleep has been linked to lower sexual motivation and difficulty reaching orgasm. Research from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who got more sleep reported greater sexual desire the following day. Even just an extra hour of sleep significantly improved their likelihood of engaging in sexual activity.
The good news is that prioritizing sleep can help restore a healthy sex drive. Engaging in regular sexual activity before bedtime can create a cycle of better sleep and higher libido. As your sleep quality improves, your body naturally boosts testosterone production, leading to stronger sexual desire and performance. In this way, sex not only enhances sleep but also helps revitalize a dwindling sex drive over time.
If you find yourself feeling uninterested in sex or struggling with performance issues, poor sleep could be the culprit. By making rest a priority and incorporating sex into your bedtime routine, you can break the cycle of fatigue and low libido, improving both your overall well-being and intimate relationships.
Morning Sex: Kickstarting Your Day with Energy
Most people associate sex with nighttime relaxation, but morning sex offers a completely different set of benefits. Instead of winding down for sleep, morning intimacy gives your body a natural boost, setting a positive tone for the entire day. Engaging in sex first thing in the morning floods your body with feel-good hormones like dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins, which promote happiness, reduce stress, and leave you feeling energized.
Why Morning Sex is the Ultimate Mood Booster
Starting your day with sex can significantly improve your mood and mental clarity. The release of oxytocin strengthens emotional bonds with your partner, helping you feel more connected and less stressed throughout the day. Additionally, morning sex triggers the production of endorphins, which act as natural painkillers and stress relievers, making you more resilient to daily pressures.
Testosterone levels, which naturally peak in the morning, also play a crucial role in enhancing sexual desire and performance. Higher testosterone levels lead to increased stamina and more intense orgasms, making morning sex an invigorating way to start the day. Unlike caffeine, which provides a temporary energy spike, sex offers sustained benefits that last for hours.
If you struggle with grogginess in the morning, consider swapping your usual routine for a more intimate wake-up call. Morning sex not only boosts energy and mood but also strengthens your relationship, enhances productivity, and creates a more positive mindset for the day ahead. It’s the perfect way to wake up, feel great, and carry that momentum into the rest of your day.
Prepare for a wonderful chain reaction
Sex and sleep share a fascinating connection—one fuels the other in a continuous cycle of pleasure and well-being. While sex helps you fall asleep faster and enjoy deeper rest, getting enough sleep also enhances your sexual response. This creates a powerful chain reaction: the more you sleep, the better your sex life, and the more you have sex, the better you sleep.
A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that adequate sleep increases sexual desire, improves arousal, and enhances overall satisfaction. Well-rested individuals tend to have higher energy levels, better mood regulation, and increased libido, making them more inclined to engage in sexual activity. In turn, frequent and satisfying sex leads to improved sleep quality, reduced stress, and enhanced overall health.
If you often struggle with sleepless nights, consider making intimacy a priority. Whether it’s a passionate night with your partner or a solo session with your favorite toy, indulging in orgasmic pleasure can help reset your sleep cycle. So, if you’re looking for a natural way to improve both your rest and your sex life, the answer is simple—more sleep, more sex, more satisfaction.
FAQs To Help You Improve Your Sleep With Sex!
Does sex-induced sleep work for everyone, or are there exceptions?
While sex can promote better sleep for most people, individual responses may vary. Factors like stress levels, hormonal imbalances, and underlying sleep disorders can influence how effective sex is as a sleep aid. Some individuals may experience a post-orgasm energy boost instead of drowsiness, especially if they engage in highly stimulating activities before bed. Additionally, those with anxiety or performance concerns might not fully relax after sex, which could impact their ability to fall asleep. If sex doesn’t seem to improve your sleep, focusing on a consistent bedtime routine and stress management techniques alongside intimacy may yield better results.
Can sleep deprivation lead to erectile dysfunction or decreased arousal?
Yes, chronic sleep deprivation has been directly linked to sexual dysfunction in both men and women. For men, lack of sleep reduces testosterone levels, which play a crucial role in libido and erectile function. Research suggests that men who sleep less than five hours a night often experience lower morning testosterone levels, leading to difficulty maintaining erections. Women also experience hormonal shifts when sleep-deprived, which can result in reduced arousal, vaginal dryness, and lower sexual desire. Prioritizing quality sleep helps regulate hormones, ensuring a healthier sex drive and improved overall performance.
Is morning sex better for energy than drinking coffee?
Morning sex offers a natural energy boost that can rival or even surpass the effects of caffeine. While coffee provides a quick spike in alertness, it can also lead to crashes later in the day. In contrast, morning sex triggers the release of endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin, all of which enhance mood and promote sustained energy. Additionally, testosterone levels are highest in the morning, leading to heightened sexual desire and performance. Unlike caffeine, which can sometimes cause jitters or anxiety, morning sex creates a calming yet invigorating effect that lasts for hours without the risk of an afternoon slump.
Can regular sex help regulate sleep cycles over time?
Yes, engaging in regular sexual activity can help regulate your circadian rhythm and improve overall sleep quality. The release of sleep-inducing hormones like oxytocin, prolactin, and melatonin post-orgasm helps the body recognize nighttime as a period of rest. Additionally, reducing stress through sexual activity lowers cortisol levels, preventing the late-night anxiety that often disrupts sleep. Over time, a consistent pattern of intimacy before bed can train your body to associate sex with relaxation and sleep, leading to a more predictable and restful sleep cycle.
What’s the best time to have sex for sleep benefits—before bed or in the morning?
The best time to have sex depends on your personal goals. If you’re looking to improve sleep quality, nighttime sex is ideal because it helps lower cortisol, release calming hormones, and prepare your body for rest. However, if you want a boost in mood, focus, and energy, morning sex is the better option since testosterone levels are highest at that time, leading to enhanced performance and greater pleasure. Some people even benefit from both, using nighttime sex for relaxation and morning sex for motivation. Ultimately, the best time is whenever it aligns with your natural rhythms and lifestyle.
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