Tips About Life And Girls
Working in Adult has been an amazing ride for me. People don’t realize that everyone (well at least 93% of the world) have sex daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly or yearly, however they still have it! This guide offers practical tips about life and girls, helping you build better connections, improve communication, and embrace personal growth.
I’ve been in adult the last 5 years and can tell you that I have come across all walks of life, from Business man, the crazy sexual aunty, the group of girls who all want to experiment together, the local gangsta who wants to be tough but still likes to be pegged on the weekend (thats why there really is such thing as ‘omerta’), to your local goody-two shoes trying to spice up his sex life.
This industry is versatile and has no bounds (only if you’re into BDSM). Oh if these walls could talk, I’d be sitting next to JK Rowling on the NY Best Sellers book list. However, in all of my interactions with the normal, weird and outrageous, I have picked up some outstanding life lessons that I would like to go back and tell my 18 year old self.
Do not ever, ever judge a book by it’s cover:
Never judge a book by its cover—it’s a principle that life consistently reinforces. Every individual carries unique traits, interests, and experiences. Some people may share your passions, while others explore paths unfamiliar or even shocking to you. Regardless of differences, everyone deserves acceptance for who they are.
However, acceptance doesn’t mean tolerating rudeness or disrespect. Set clear boundaries that uphold your values and maintain your self-respect. Treat everyone with kindness and understanding, regardless of how different their thoughts, ideologies, or morals may seem. Respecting others demonstrates your own strength of character and emotional maturity.
Life introduces us to people from every walk of life, each with stories and perspectives that shape who they are. Take these encounters as opportunities to learn, broaden your horizons, and practice empathy. Maintain a high standard of behavior for yourself by treating others with dignity, even when you disagree.
Carrying an open mind and a respectful attitude enriches your interactions and strengthens relationships. By judging less and loving more, you contribute to a kinder, more inclusive world. The respect you give often returns to you, creating a positive cycle of understanding and mutual growth. Live by this principle and lead with compassion every day.
Don’t give up:
Don’t give up—you never know what will happen until the very last moment. Life often surprises us when we least expect it. Working in retail has taught me this lesson countless times. Letting anxiety take over because things aren’t going as planned only robs you of peace in the moment.
I’ve endured 12-hour shifts without making a single sale, feeling the weight of stress and frustration. As the clock ticks down, I sometimes resign myself to failure, thinking it’s too late for success. Then, with just 20 minutes left, something incredible happens—a surge of customers, and I make $850 in no time. I leave work amazed every single time.
This experience reinforced a vital truth: releasing negativity can transform your outcome. The energy you project often mirrors what you receive. By shifting from anxious thoughts to positivity, you open yourself to unexpected opportunities. The universe has a way of rewarding optimism and persistence.
So, let go of doubt and embrace hope, even when things seem bleak. Trust the process, stay focused, and keep pushing forward. Success often comes in ways you can’t predict, but only if you refuse to give up.
Avoid being a sleeze!:
This has to be one of my favourites, but it didn’t go that high on the importance list. I see and hear it so many times with guys and girls who come into the store and are either sleezy to staff, other customers or in general. Before this I worked at a nightclub and would constantly see the losers at the bar trying to shoot their game. Take this as the ultimate tip of advice (guys and girls), it is the rule of Supply and Demand, the less attention you give, the more it is demand.
The more attention you give, the less it is in demand. Simple economics. So how does this work for you? It’s simple, if you go out.. Girls like a guy who is living is life, and going about his business. If they see a guy who looks like his having fun with his friends group and is enjoying the moment, she will be attracted to him because he hasn’t made his world revolve around her. However, if you constantly chase her or try pester her at the bar, she isn’t going to want to give you the time of day. Live your life, have fun and the guys/girls will come.
Don’t go halves on your purchases:
Don’t go halves on your purchases—it’s a concept that truly makes me cringe. Splitting costs, especially in a relationship, often sends the wrong message. I’ve seen men insist on dividing expenses, usually covering the cheaper item while expecting their partner to pay for the rest. It’s not just about money; it’s about the energy you bring to the relationship.
Step up and handle the bill confidently. Taking charge and paying for everything shows thoughtfulness and leadership. It demonstrates that you value your partner and aren’t focused on trivial details. These gestures often resonate deeply and create a stronger emotional connection.
This isn’t about outdated gender roles—it’s about creating a dynamic of care and generosity. Showing that you’re willing to invest in your partner builds trust and appreciation. More often than not, these moments return to you in intangible ways, enhancing intimacy and strengthening your bond.
So, instead of splitting hairs over who pays for what, take the lead and handle it with confidence. It’s a simple gesture with a powerful impact, fostering respect, love, and connection in your relationship. Generosity, after all, is a cornerstone of any meaningful partnership.
Don’t always go for the biggest toy:
Don’t always go for the biggest toy—size isn’t everything, especially when it comes to sex toys. Choosing the right toy requires consideration, not assumptions. Each body is unique, so what works for one person might not suit another. Take the time to consult the expert helping you make your purchase.
Jumping straight to the largest option, like the infamous 12-inch King Cock, might seem tempting, but it’s rarely the best approach. A toy’s effectiveness depends on your comfort level, preferences, and experience. Starting small allows you to ease into the experience and discover what truly works for you.
Open communication is key, especially if the toy is for shared use. Discussing preferences ensures both partners feel comfortable and excited about the choice. Rushing into a decision based on someone else’s recommendation can lead to discomfort or dissatisfaction.
Take your time, explore your options, and prioritize quality and comfort over sheer size. Gradually working your way up ensures a safe and enjoyable experience. Remember, the best toy isn’t the biggest—it’s the one that meets your unique needs and brings you pleasure. Choose wisely, and enjoy the journey!
FAQs for First-Time Visitors to an Adult Sex Toy Store
1. Is it normal to feel nervous about visiting?
Absolutely! Many first-timers feel nervous or shy. Staff are trained to create a welcoming and judgment-free environment.
2. Do I need to know exactly what I want before I visit?
Not at all. You can browse at your own pace, and knowledgeable staff are there to guide you if needed.
3. Can I ask questions about products?
Yes! Asking questions is encouraged. Staff can help you find the right product based on your preferences and needs.
4. Are the products hygienic and safe?
Reputable stores sell body-safe, high-quality items. Look for toys made of medical-grade silicone, glass, or stainless steel.
5. Can I touch or test the products?
While you can’t test them, many stores have display models you can handle to get a feel for size and texture.
6. What’s the price range for sex toys?
Prices vary widely, from budget-friendly options to premium luxury items. Staff can recommend options within your budget.
7. Are purchases private?
Yes, stores prioritize discretion, often providing unmarked bags or packaging to protect your privacy.
8. Can I return or exchange items?
Due to hygiene concerns, most stores don’t accept returns. Always ask about their specific policy before purchasing.
Wrapping Up
It has been an interesting ride and a very informative one working in adult lifestyle shops for the last 5 years. Hopefully, give me another year and I can release that best seller!
I know how it feels to be hesitant and intimidated about the first visit to an adult toy store. Been there, done that. Honestly, it is much less intimidating than it seems. The key is to walk in with an open mind and a willingness to explore. Remember: no question is too silly or awkward; the staff are there to help, not to judge.
When I first walked into one of these stores, I had no idea what I was looking for. By asking questions and being open to suggestions, I learned so much about what works for me. It’s not just about buying a product, it’s about understanding yourself and what brings you joy.
So take a deep breath and truly enjoy the experience, trying to remember not to overthink it. You never know—you just might leave with something that changes your life in ways you hadn’t expected.
Morgan
Meet Morgan, a young designer advocating equality and speaking out against violence. Her journey in the adult industry has been transformative.
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