Long Distance Intimacy
Long distance intimacy can be challenging, but it’s absolutely possible to keep your connection strong with the right approach. This article provides answers to common questions couples face while navigating long-distance relationships. From communication tips to creative ways of maintaining closeness, you’ll find practical advice and helpful tools to bridge the gap.
Answering Your Long Distance Intimacy Queries:
“Hi Oz, My girlfriend has recently had to move to Sydney for work while I have to stay out west for uni. Do you have any suggestions for what can help keep us sexually active together, even when we’re so far apart? We do see each other every week or two, but we both enjoy sex a lot more than that. – WH”
Hi WH,
Thanks for your email. You, my friend, are in luck. The world of adult entertainment, be it porn or toys, has always been at the forefront of technology. Remember when Blu-Ray first came out, at the same time so did HD-DVD? Don’t remember HD-DVD, that’s because it disappeared when the porn industry decided to exclusively use Blu-Ray. The same happened decades earlier when VHS and Beta video both hit the market.
Interactive Toys Allow You To Interact Sexually When Apart
At the moment, there are a range of different brands out there offering very interactive toys for people in situations like yours. Probably the best out there has been developed by Kiiroo. They have a range of devices for him and her available, all available to interact on the free Feel Connect app.
For her, there’s the Pearl 2, Fuse and Cliona. The Pearl 2 is a strong solid regular vibe, the Fuse is the rabbit version. The Cliona is an external toy only. For him, the Onyx 2 delivers possibly the most realistic blowjob-like sensations out on the market, while adding a Fleshlight Launch to your regular Fleshlight will turn it into an interactive thrusting toy that takes you closer to penetrative sex, with needing to stroke as you go and save you a lot of cardio.
In saying that, the Kiiroo range, including the Fleshlight variatations, can be quite pricey. We-Vibe is one of the leading sex tech brands out there, and all about adding a new level of fun to couples both near and far. Utilizing their free We-Connect app, one is about to take control of their partner’s device, from anywhere in the world.
Have You Heard Of The We-Vibe Sync?
The We-Vibe Sync is easily the most popular couples toy, and with its ergonomic u-shaped design, it provides both internal and external stimulation for her. It’s great for teasing her on date night as well as for an extra buzz during penetrative sex, but I feel it wouldn’t be the right toy in your circumstance.
Perhaps she’d rather the Nova, a bulbous g-spot rabbit vibe that will really get her over the edge. For you, the Verge is a vibrating cock ring that while designed to vibe on your perineum, is quite versatile and you can turn it around with playing together to stimulate her clit, or use it as a way to supercharge your finger action. The Vector is a nice rumbly prostate toy you may enjoy, or the We-Vibe Ditto is a vibrating anal plug that’s fun for either of you to use.
Interactive Toys Will Keep Things Hot
The above mentioned toys are all about interaction, taking an active role in exactly how your partner gets off. Their apps both feature in-app video connections, but if you’d rather take matters into your own hands (so to speak), there are plenty of regular free apps out there to connect with video chat functionality.
You can always check out the best couples sex toys of 2024 to get further ideas too.
To maximize this visual aspect of play together, for you I’d suggest a Fleshlight Ice. It’s similar to a regular Fleshlight, but the sheath is clear, so she can see all the goodness going on within.
For her, and for the majority of women, it’s all about clit play. Some fantastic, rechargeable bullets are out there, notably We-Vibe’s own Tango, Femme Funn’s ultra bullet, or The Queen from Evolved, a rumble toy with a flared base to allow for some insertion play too.
You Can Make Molds Of Each Other!
Lastly, if you really want the sensation of being together, and want to go old-school and lo-fi, why not make a mold of each other? Clone-A-Willy provides everything you need to make a dildo exactly from your own penis, just as the Clone-A-Pussy will provide you with a familiar feeling pocket pussy.
5 FAQ’s about maintaining sexual intimacy in long-distance relationships:
- How can we keep the spark alive sexually from a distance?
Regularly schedule intimate virtual dates, use video calls for flirtation, and try sexting or suggestive messages to build anticipation. - What are some tools or toys for long-distance intimacy?
App-controlled toys allow real-time interactions, and high-quality webcams can enhance virtual intimacy, creating a more immersive experience. - Is it normal to feel disconnected sometimes?
Yes, feeling disconnected is common. Open communication about desires and needs helps you both feel closer and more supported. - How can we build anticipation for our next visit?
Discuss shared fantasies, make a countdown, and plan activities together to build excitement and strengthen your connection. - Can setting boundaries help with virtual intimacy?
Absolutely. Establishing boundaries and understanding comfort levels creates a safe space for both partners to explore virtual intimacy confidently.
These Non-Sexual Tips May Also Be Very Useful:
Maintaining intimacy in a long-distance relationship requires consistent effort and creativity. Regular communication is key—schedule video calls, phone chats, or virtual date nights to keep the connection strong. Send thoughtful messages, photos, or surprise gifts to show appreciation and remind each other of your bond.
Sharing daily experiences, even small moments, helps bridge the physical gap. Planning future visits and discussing shared goals also creates excitement and strengthens commitment. Building emotional intimacy through open, honest conversations can deepen the relationship, making each partner feel valued and connected, no matter the miles in between.
Good luck, and have fun!
Oz answers your sexual health and relationship questions.. He is a consultant at the Oh Zone adult stores.
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