My Kid Is Gay: Advice For Parents Moving Forward

My Kid Is Gay: Supporting Your Child’s Coming Out

Firstly let me just explain, I have a beautiful daughter who is a Lesbian, so do I understand some of what other parents or grandparents or relatives or friends go through in these situations when the children first come out? YES!! I understand the good, the bad and the ugly side to when your child first comes out. Hearing the words My kid is gay can bring a mix of emotions for any parent. It’s normal to feel uncertain, but your response matters deeply. As a parent, your support plays a crucial role in your child’s confidence and happiness.

I would like to say to the children that telling your parents in a text message is not a good idea as you are really not helping them understand or helping yourself. My daughter actually did this and I can honestly say I found this harder than her actually telling me to my face as I really thought we had a better relationship than that. So did I respond well to the text? NO I didn’t as I was so upset about the fact she sent it via a text that I was responding to that more than her telling  me she was a lesbian.

We All React Differently To These Situations

The Truth is we all react differently in these kind of situations but most of all I would rather my child be 100% happy with who they are and what they want out of life than them to suffer in silence or feel bad about who they are they should never feel there alone. As their parents we protect them all the way through their lives so why not do that now when they need us the most. You need to LISTEN to them and try to understand this is who they are. Nothing has changed, it’s a part of that beautiful child you loved before those words were spoken. Don’t risk losing them forever!!

My Initial Reaction Was Confusing

I remember my reaction was just awful at first but when I drove to pick my daughter up from school and she got in the car, we both sat there crying for a bit then we went for a drive to chat about things as I had a lot of questions because I didn’t understand, I actually thought I had done something wrong.

Had I raised her to despise men because I separated from her father when she was 6 years old? Had I been too hard on her? What was silly is I kept thinking I’d done something wrong in the way I raised her. See, this is one of the first thoughts a lot of parents have (the Don’ts List again). It’s actually not about Us!!!!

Making An Effort To Have Communication Is Vital

Listening to them and talking to them is the best way to understand. Hug them, let them know you are still their number 1 supporter. You would in any other situation so why not now. I’m the first to admit I struggled at times meeting the first girlfriend she had and then introducing her as my daughter’s girlfriend to family or friends.

My daughter would actually just look at me and say ‘It’s alright mum just say friend when introducing her’. But I didn’t want her to feel like I was struggling, she always did though. Now I don’t even have a second thought about it as she is a grown woman now and has worked hard to buy her home with her girlfriend.

Her Father Would Not Acknowledge Her At The Time

There are times things became very difficult for my daughter as her biological father would never acknowledge she was a lesbian and would just ask on every holiday she had with him if she had a boyfriend yet. This was his way of believing if he didn’t talk about it then it wasn’t true. It took him about 8 years before he now acknowledges his daughter and her girlfriend and now he visits her and her girlfriend on a regular basis and has rebuilt his relationship with his daughter.

Then her stepfather was and still is the worst for not accepting her for who she is. They were once very close as he had raised her from the age of 7 and now they barely speak 2 words to each other. This was very difficult for the entire house as his beliefs were so one sided and after years of disagreeing with him and protection mode kicked in. It became, at times, very distressing for both the kids as I would protect my daughter from cruel comments and also try to explain to our son that this is not the way to behave or respond.

But as his father was very verbal about this topic it made it hard for our son to understand what all the arguments where about as my son and daughter are 7 years apart in age but are very close siblings. This almost destroyed our family, but I was never going to let that happen. Today things are better, only my daughter will never feel the same about her stepfather again. So please guys remember stop and think about your responses and if you truly want to keep your child in your life (this sort of behavior belongs on the don’ts List).

Unfortunately There Will Be People That Judge Regardless

When you had concerns that some people out there will treat your child differently this is also true it does happen unfortunately. Quick little story on this. My daughter and I and her girlfriend and my entire family were out one night having fun, we had all just jumped on to the dance floor having a marvelous time, until in the corner of my eye I spotted a young drunk guy having words with my daughter’s girlfriend.

Well it went a little crazy from there, this particular guy had said some pretty horrible things, so my daughter jumped in to stop him saying any more and the guy decided that if she was going to have a go he would respond by attempting to hit my daughter. Bad idea. I have then stepped in and I wasn’t going to take his pig headed nasty attitude with the girls or myself.  Well he decided trying to hit me was a good idea, which it was NOT, when I have an entire family with me.

This had made me furious as I could not understand why this guy thought he had a right to criticize or even judge anyone but what it did show me is that this is just part of what my daughter and her friends had to put up with broke my heart to think people can be so nasty to my child!

We Should Always Support Our Children

This is where I say we as parents should always be there and support our children no matter what the situation is and remember people will judge and discriminate regardless so if we are there strength and support then they always have someone that will guide and give them the power to stay strong and be happy and most of all love them unconditionally. My children are my world and I know I could never turn my back on them.

I always try to remember the times I needed to talk or just needed my parents and yes I needed my own mum to talk to about all of this and because I was fortunate enough to have an absolutely amazing mum she helped me process things with her unconditional love and our entire family support my daughter in every way possible so don’t be afraid of what you don’t understand in that moment. Just Listen, hug, love, unconditionally.

I hope this helps any parents out there so you never have to face losing your children to lack of understanding. And I hope any young adult children struggling to tell their parents that this might help you as well.

FAQs About Supporting Your Child Coming Out

1. How should I react when my child says, “I’m gay”?
Stay calm, show love, and express your support. A positive reaction helps your child feel accepted.

2. What if I feel confused or shocked?
It’s okay to have mixed emotions. Take time to process and educate yourself about LGBTQ+ topics.

3. How can I show ongoing support?
Listen without judgment, use affirming language, and advocate for their rights and well-being in social settings.

4. Should I tell others about my child’s sexuality?
Respect your child’s privacy. Let them decide when and how to share their identity with others.

5. What resources can help me support my child?
Seek books, LGBTQ+ support groups, and professional counselors specializing in family dynamics.

6. How do I handle negative reactions from others?
Shield your child from negativity, educate others when possible, and build a supportive network for both of you.

From a loving parents point of view..   My name is Lynn and I am a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Stores. I am more than happy to speak with other parents who may be experiencing the same issues.

I wasn’t sure that I was gay.   Before leaving Australia I knew that I really enjoyed sex in all sorts of ways and fancied both men and women.

In March or maybe April back in 1998, I was heading to Cape Town for a three month trip to find myself.  Cape Town was the last destination and a tick in the box of to do lists of places I wanted to visit.

On my arrival it was a bit daunting leaving the airport, and please note I am not racist, but there were so many differently coloured people that it was a bit overpowering and challenging.

I did say that this trip was to find myself.

In order to do that, I had to fight my previous thoughts and work through challenges that I faced.

Driving in the cab from the airport we went straight through a shanty town that really brought home that this was a land of the rich and the very, very poor.

Finding Out About Gay Exchanges

The cab driver asked me where I was from and what I wanted to do.

He very informative but also warned me not to go anywhere where I would put myself in a position of danger, especially at night.   Quickly the trip finished with a bit of banter and he dropped me off at my hotel at the Waterfront.

Before he left I asked him what he thought was the best gay nightclub in Cape Town. 

Without hesitation he said, “The Bronx on The Strand.  Ten minutes from here but it doesn’t get going till 1am.” Jet-lagged or not I knew that tonight was going to be a party night.

So after check in, I slipped inside the clean sheets and slept.   My alarm abruptly woke me at 10pm I showered, shaved and dressed went downstairs and caught a cab to The Strand.

Gay Club – The Bronx

There were about half a dozen nightclubs that all appeared to be predominately about gay exchanges and they were pumping!!!

I found my way to the door of the club.  After a security check where they patted me down and then ran a metal detector over me – they let me in. Talk about security.

As soon as I got in the saturated heat inside of all the sweating and topless bodies dancing on the floor was overwhelming.  It smelt of pure male sweat and testosterone and already had my blood as well as something else pumping.

It was Pumping at the Gay Bar

I made my way to the bar.  Before I could even get a chance to order my drink a buff young lad sidled up beside me and said, ‘What’s your poison let me get this one? Where you from?”

I asked for a double bourbon and coke and let him know I was from Australia.

A mature gay passed by as he paid and tipped the bartender.  The bartender rang a bell as a thing that signified when patrons were generous enough to tip.

Mature Marcus!!

“My names Marcus’, he said extending his hand.  I said, ‘Mate, is it always this crazy in here?”  He said, ‘The parties just warming up, you’ll see.  We love Australian’s here”

Being gay is no longer something to be ashamed of

It is something a person can choose.  Since is all about choices, the best thing that it can happen is to meet people with similar interests and have a good time.

• After Coming Out

You might find that there is a rejection period from families, friends, or otherwise important people within your life .  If this happens not only is it important to obtain help to learn to cope, but also in getting out there.

You can attend gay sex parties on your stay and repeatedly have a good time with like-minded people from across the globe.

You can move from one home to another with ease, understand each other and have a good time with other gays as you work, with these gay exchange programs.

Ideally, such programs are designed to suit those who are not succeeding of enjoying their personal lives.

Brent Corrigan’s Controversial Beginnings at Cobra Videos

This article will look into Brent Corrigan’s controversial relationship with Bryan Charles Kocis his first employer at Cobra Videos.

Brent’s Beginnings

Sean Paul Lockhart (Brent Corrigan) was born on the 31st of October in 1986 in Lewiston, Idaho. One of four siblings. He has an older brother, a younger brother and a sister.

They were raised in the suburb of Mill Creek near Seattle, Washington by his mother and stepfather. His mother and stepfather divorced when he was aged 8 to 9 years old.

He took care of his younger brother and sister until he moved back to his mother’s home in San Diego, California.

Coming out As Gay

July 2003 was a period when he came to terms with his sexuality.  When he was aged 16, he spent his weekends in Los Angeles with his first boyfriend who was older than him.

His boyfriend introduced him to the ‘fast, furious and out of control side of the gay scene‘.  When Lockhart was 17 years old, he felt he was down on money and searched for career prospects.

Introduction to the Gay Adult Movie Industry 

His boyfriend introduced him into the gay adult movie industry and arranged an audition for him in his own bedroom via webcam.  The boyfriend controlled the camera while the director and owner of Cobra Video observed.

In 2004, Bryan Charles Kocis who is also known as Bryan Philips employed Sean Paul Lockhart to star in Cobra Video’s gay adult movies.  Sean was given the stage name “Brent Corrigan”.

Brent agreed to perform in an adult movie with the Cobra Video owner.  He would star in six action adult movie scenes and one non-action adult movie scene.

The screening set was a used Volkswagen Jetta with a set of tires and rims. Cost of the production included transportation, vehicle insurance and gasoline.

A sexual relationship developed between Lockhart and the director.

Performing Underage in Gay Adult Movies

He used a fake ID to bypass the law to star in them.   Cobra Videos claimed that Brent Corrigan’s birth date on his license stated that he was born in 1985 and they were not aware that he was underage.

Both were then involved in a civil lawsuit to sort out the matter.  This was planned for the 21st of February in 2007.  Bryan Kocis then made a counter claim that stated any use of Brent Corrigan’s name would be a copyright infringement.

2004 to 2007

Throughout the years Brent Corrigan starred in six movies including Every Poolboy’s Dream, Schoolboy Crush, Bareboned Twinks and Casting Couch 4.

During the lawsuit they were all called off the shelves even though there was no reason for them to be removed.

Bryan Kocis is Discovered Dead

On the 24^th of January in 2007 Bryan Kocis was discovered dead from a fire at his Dallas Township, Pennsylvania home.

He was only 44 years old.  A coroner examined his body and found that he suffered 28 stabbed wounds to his body.  His throat was cut nearly to the point of decapitating him.

Bryan’s face and body were burned beyond recognition so his dental records were used to identify him.

Local residents in Pennsylvania were frightened to find out that a murder had happened so close by.  They had no idea that Bryan Kocis ran Cobra Videos directly from his home and that had also hired underage men.

On the 15^th of May in 2007, information was found on Bryan Kocis’s computer that had survived the fire.

It implicated that two Virginia Beach escorts were former models, Harlow Cuadra and lover Joseph Kerekes were involved in his murder.

These escorts wanted to build their own gay adult movie company and employ Brent Corrigan to star in their movies.

A Confession Was Made

On the 8^th of December in 2008, Joseph Kerekes confessed to second-degree murder.  Also alongside a string of other offences that included the creation of false evidence and criminal conspiracy.

Harlow Cuadra said that he was not guilty of any of these offences. They were sentenced to life in jail without parole.

During Harlow Cuadra’s murder trial the following was claimed.  That Brent Corrigan was bound by contract to Cobra Video’s to continue to perform sex acts for their gay adult movies in exchange for payment.

This lawsuit opened a discussion worldwide about problems within employment contracts in the adult entertainment industry.

In 2012, Magnus Books distributed the novel “Cobra Killer” by authors Andrew E. Stoner and Peter A. Conway on the murder of Bryan Kocis.

Within the book they explain how and why Brent Corrigan had helped the law enforcement.  They recorded interactions he had with Harlow Cuadra and Joseph Kerekes which had helped the criminal case be solved.

King Cobra the Movie

The story was made into a mainstream movie named “King Cobra” which was released in 2016 at the Tribeca Film Festival.  This movie notably stared Garrett Clayton, James Franco, Christian Slater and Alicia Silverstone.

Brent Corrigan had decided to bring out his own book on the murder of Bryan Kocis and stated:

“Ultimately, I chose to move forward with my own plans to finally release my book in place of taking part in someone else’s presentation of events that I personally lived as a young adult.

It’s going to be an exciting coming year! The book is nearly finished and is now going through edits and rewrites. Even with the time that has passed, the memories are still very real and raw for me.”

His fame within the world of amateur gay adult movies had brought this criminal case to the mass media.

Brent’s Many Awards

Through his years of professional experience he has become a mainstream movie actor, a singer and an adult movie director.

This year, Brent won Best Actor honors at the PinkX Gay Video Awards in Paris, France for his role in NakedSword’s “Vegas Hustle”.  He is nominated for the Best Porn Star of 2016 for the Cybersocket Awards.

Also starring in Falcon Studio’s “Magnums” and Falcon Studio’s “Deep Release” with a gorgeous masseur at a full-service spa.

To top it all off, he is a headlining star in Falcon Studio’s Fall Blockbuster release “About Last Night” which is now available for purchase.

Keep watching Brent’s stardom grow brighter with Falcon Studios Group and NakedSword by staying up to date on his latest projects.

UltraFan

Brent Corrigan is promoting his newest gay adult move release named “UltraFan”.  A Nakedsword production who are called the “Netflix of gay adult movies”.

This movie is based upon Brent Corrigan running a web cam show that has falling ratings.  Whilst his career is stuck in a downward spiral, he comes up with an idea to give his fans something completely new.

In the wake of his inspiration, one of his adoring fans takes over his webcam show.  The movie UltraFan take the viewer through a wild set of encounters that are designed to make him rich and give him fame.

This movie is filled with many heated scenes.  The release of Ultra Fan is a significant milestone for Brent Corrigan.

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